Today, in her New York Times blog Motherlode, Lisa Belkin turns her attention to breastfeeding advocate Katie Allison Granju. Granju, a blogger here at babble and author of a book about attachment parenting, is not breastfeeding her new and fourth baby.
Her story is, as most mothers’ stories are, complicated.
She planned to breastfeed, as she did with her other babies, but this time the milk just wouldn’t come in. Her baby was born soon after the tragic death of her eldest son. Granju has blogged openly and eloquently about the loss of her son and her grief. And also about the joy she’s experienced with her new baby.
Perhaps the stress affected her milk production, this can happen. Granju wonders, in her most recent blog post, if this isn’t “yet another bit of collateral damage from the loss of Henry, which is impacting me in so many other profound ways – physically, emotionally and spiritually.”
Granju tried to get breastfeeding going and is sad to not be able to feed her baby this way, but she’s coming to terms with it. I agree with Belkin who writes, “I admire her — as an example of a mother who is doing the best she can.”
I get very frustrated– even irate– when I hear ignorant, persuasive arguments for why women shouldn’t breastfeed. But I also get uppity when advocates insist women breastfeed no matter the circumstance. Granju’s example of openness, flexibility and self-awarness is indeed admirable.