In a society where sex is everywhere you look, breasts are for pleasure and not feeding babies, and vagina is an embarrassing word, but slang terms for it when used in a sexual manner are completely acceptable… You can only wonder what kind of repercussion it has on childbirth.
I mean, in reality a vagina, while built for sexual intercourse for reproduction, is also meant to be used to give birth.
Knowing this, and knowing human anatomy, there still are women out there who have no desire to give birth vaginally, or use their vagina in the manner it is built for because of sexual hangups that have come with the over sexualization our bodies have taken on in the past two decades.
Over my few years in the childbirth community the number of women I have encountered who would desire a major surgical delivery over an uncomplicated vaginal delivery (which we all know is the safest option) has grown drastically, and most cite vaginal integrity, fear of what may happen to their vagina, and just disgust of actually having a baby come out of their vagina because the very thought may completely ruin their sex life. Yes, these are all true things I have heard directly from women! Some even mothers already!
While in the past couple years more and more women are starting to realize through various health campaigns that breasts are made to feed babies, and not only make healthy babies, but also help the health of mothers by decreasing the likelihood of type II diabetes, the turn has not happened for vaginal birth.
One of the biggest misconception of surgical delivery still is alive and well though… Having a c-section isn’t going to save your vagina, or preserve your sex life. Earlier in the year, after a ignorant comment about vagina integrity when discussing my scheduled c-section I wrote about it.
I was brave enough to put myself out there, and my post cesarean sex experience to share with my readers :
But what these women aren’t taking into account is the internal scarring that causes pain for many mothers who have had c-sections. After my first cesarean in 2007 everything returned to normal, but after my second cesarean in 2009, I had a wide array of sex related issues. Most focused around pain during sex because of the internal adhesion’s I had experienced. Taking sex from something loving, and fun that my husband and I enjoyed, to a task that lost everything that a sexual bond between a couple should be.
Thankfully we recovered, but not all couples do. And in these cases mothers should ask themselves in the cases of non medically necessary surgical deliveries… Was it really worth it? While using stereotypes to save a sex life, you do exactly what you didn’t want to do?
Do you think that sexual hangups influence delivery methods too often in our country?
photo: flickr.com/Tim Waclawski
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