Facebook: To Announce the Big News, or Not To Announce

One of the many blessings (or curses) of social media and sites like Facebook is that you oftentimes know everything there is to know about everyone. In sickness and in health, “friends” are posting the most intimate details of their lives.

I posted a Facebook status about my fourth pregnancy around the 12th week.

Approximately three weeks prior to posting it on Facebook, my husband and I personally told our parents, siblings, and closest friends. I knew I was ready to tell “the masses” when:

  • I had heard the heartbeat and knew everything was well and good in the womb.
  • Personally told the people closest to me.
  • Started to show a tiny baby bump.

I must admit, I did worry my “secret” would get out sooner than I wanted it to. It only takes one person to leave you a premature congratulatory remark on your wall, to send the cat rushing out of the bag.

So what are you to do? You can take a risk, crossing your fingers that everyone you told will respect your wishes to keep mum, or you can take control and rectify the situation before it even happens.

I’ve heard of people disabling their Facebook accounts during the window where they want to be sure the people that they want to tell firsthand, hear it first hand. Then, once all grandparents/aunts/uncles/special friends have been personally notified, the account is re-enabled.

I’ve also heard of people, out of respect for friends and family going through a pregnancy loss or infertility, skip the impersonal “we’re expecting” Facebook update all together.

I’m not sure how I feel about the whole thing. Yes, Facebook is less impersonal that a phone call or face to face conversation, but should it be skipped all together? I’ll admit, all the congratulatory comments did leave a warm fuzzy in my baby tummy.

Did you make a Facebook announcement regarding your pregnancy? Why or why not?

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