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Facing Infertility Together

By Nichole |

There are times when it feels as though this struggle with infertility may truly get the best of me.

As a woman, there are so many things that fall squarely on my shoulders. The temping and charting, peeing on ovulation sticks, and the constant watching for early pregnancy signs often make it difficult to think of little other than trying to conceive.

And sometimes, this infertility battle truly consumes me.

Fortunately, I have a husband who keeps things in perspective and can always help me to see things rationally.

Though, at times, I want him to wallow with me for a bit, more often than not, I am grateful for his ability to pull me out of a funk.

The hope/disappointment cycle is an emotional roller coaster that I ride monthly and I sometimes wonder how he can stay so constant…so certain that things will be okay.

He’s right. I know he’s right. And I’m so incredibly grateful that we’re in this together, because without him, I would surely lose all perspective.

I love that he senses where I am emotionally and knows if I need to just to talk, but also recognizes when I need the distraction of a nice dinner and a glass (or two) of wine.

It is in those moments that I am reminded that I’m not in this alone. He is there…always.

And my gratitude is immeasurable.

What an amazing thing love is.

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About Nichole

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Nichole Beaudry lives in Sacramento, California with her husband Craig, their daughter Katie and baby boy Matthew. In her former life she was a college English professor, now she shares some of her small moments in her Practicing Gratitude column each week at SheKnows and works at AllParenting as the Assignments Editor. She was a contributor to Babble, and currently keeps a personal blog, In These Small Moments.

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9 thoughts on “Facing Infertility Together

  1. Tara Wright (@tarabitesback) says:

    I unfortunately did not have a supportive partner during infertility. We divorced, though not because of that. I spent two weeks primarily alone in a NJ hotel room while cycling at St. Barnabas. When cycling locally, went to everything alone. I cried. I ranted. I felt terribly alone. And I strangely felt like I didn’t deserve to feel that bad about it. In his eyes, it wasn’t that bad. But it sure felt like it, at least to me. Love to BYD. And you, for powering through.

  2. Katie says:

    I love that you have C to lean on and hold you up when you can’t hold yourself up. A wonderful, supportive partner is so important. And yes, you scored in the hub department…but I think I did too :) We are lucky.

  3. Sherri says:

    I love how you two are with each other….you both scored big in the spouse department, if I must say so.

  4. Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation says:

    Yay Craig!!! I can’t wait to see you guys together on Friday!!! Keep your head up honey and seriously THIS is what spouses are for!!! I love your story!

  5. Tonya says:

    Having a partner that “gets” it and is as invested emotionally, physically and financially as you are is so key. I’m happy that you have that. In fact, Craig sounds like that and SO much more. Hugs to you.

  6. Austin Green says:

    My wife and I have been on the emotional roller coaster together. With two people working together, it helps to get through a failed attempt of IVF. We just recently went through this ordeal together. If interested, our story is at http://www.its-not-ez-being-green.blogspot.com

  7. Austin Green says:

    Oops. I meant to give you our infertility blog: http://www.twoinfertileturtles.blogspot.com

  8. Laura says:

    Oh Nichole, I am so overjoyed that your husband is so wonderful to you and so heartbroken that you are continually dealing with this. My prayers and thoughts are still with you! xo

  9. Suz @ Suz's Treats says:

    I love this Nichole. You are very lucky this way. Jason gets it, but sometimes doesn’t. I’m sorry y’all are continuing your infertility journey. Hope this will be your last TTC cycle soon. Your in my thoughts & prayers.

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