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Gender Reveal Regrets. Or Not.

By emily |

It’s been almost two weeks since I found out I was having a boy. In the past, I’ve never found out until we heard the doctor say “it’s a girl” (I heard that twice), or “it’s a boy” (heard that once too).

When I told friends and family that we were considering finding out this time, I mostly got a positive response. Almost everyone I knew was on team “find out now”.

Everyone but one person.

One person in my life was crazy serious against us finding out. So much so that this person actually tried to bribe us. Like with real money.

“You’re gonna regret this decision”, is all I heard come out of this persons mouth.

So the big question is: Do I regret finding out the gender of this baby?

I can say, with 100% confidence, that I do not regret finding out. Knowing that I’m carrying a little boy deep inside my belly has been such a fun experience so far. It’s allowed me to dream about the rest of my life like I’ve never been able to do before.

Does that mean that I wish I would have found out with my previous pregnancies? Nope. Not at all. I loved the journey of the unknown as well. No doubt about it, there is a special kind of euphoria when you finally hear “It’s A boy/girl” after hours and hours of labor.

If I’ve learned anything from this experience, it’s that no matter what route you decide, it’s going to be awesome.

And if you’re lucky enough to experience pregnancy two (or more times), I suggest trying it out both ways. Find out once, make it a surprise the next time. Either way, you can’t go wrong.

Have you done it both ways? Did you favor one way over the other?

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Emily Elling is a corporate interior designer and freelance writer. She lives in Indianapolis with her husband and four unintentionally hilarious children. Emily also blogs at her personal blog, DesignHER Momma. Read bio and latest posts → Read emily's latest posts →

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0 thoughts on “Gender Reveal Regrets. Or Not.

  1. Joanne says:

    My guess is that you won’t really know until you don’t find out in the delivery room, though. That’s what always stops me, anyway.

  2. Angie Bandemer says:

    I have done in both ways. With my first two pregnancies, I didn’t find out the gender and I was blessed with a girl and then a boy, respectively. For my third child, I decided to find out and was very apprehensive the day of the ultrasound, wondering if I would regret my decision. Turns out I didn’t. I love knowing the gender, and I, too, loved the anticipation of not knowing on delivery day. I did find out with baby number four last year and with baby number five coming in January (it’s a boy!). My advice to all women out there is that if you are lucky enough to be blessed with two or more pregnancies, do it both ways!

  3. Jen Rader says:

    We like the surprise of the delivery room like you. But Elliott had kidney issues and we had multiple ultrasounds, one of which they revealed the gender to us without us really having a choice. But like you said, it was a new experience and really fun too. We could call him a he instead of “the baby” and could prepare the kids for the new boy. No regrets!

  4. snakecharmer says:

    We didn’t find out for our first and have decided to find out in the next few weeks with our second. The experience with our first was great…there are so many unknowns about your unborn child (what will they look like, what kind of personality will they have) that the sex was just another thing to discover. What we love most with our daughter is the journey of discovering who she is rather than her gender. This time around I feel the same way…finding out in advance will make certain decisions easier at an earlier stage (can I start giving away some of her old clothes or do I get to use some of those cute outfits again?) but aside from that, it’s more about who that child is and what he/she will look like…and how different/similar will they be from their older sister than colour coordinating the perfect nursery ensemble. I can’t wait! :-)

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