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Good News and Bad News: Infertility Journey

By Nichole |

Well, I have some bad news, but I also have some great news.

I’m not sure which to give you first, so I’ll just dive in.

What happens when you take a break from the craziness of trying to conceive?

When you don’t temp religiously, chart, or use ovulation predictor kits?

What happens when you don’t have sex on a perfectly-timed and insane schedule?

When you make a commitment to eliminating excess stress from your life?

When you spend time nurturing your marriage and being grateful for all you already have?

What happens when you refocus your life and getting pregnant is no longer the thing that influences everything else?

When you relax and try to find the joy in each and every day?

Well, you don’t get pregnant, that’s what.

You don’t get to jump up and down in excitement that you are suddenly pregnant, simply because you relaxed.

But, what you do get is a healthier mindset, a reduced stress level, an appreciation for the joy already present in your life, and a healthier, more nurtured marriage.

So, the month off was completely worth it.

I also have some great news…some pretty amazing news that’s helping to take the edge off the disappointment.

Come on over to in these small moments to hear all about it!

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About Nichole



Nichole Beaudry lives in Sacramento, California with her husband Craig, their daughter Katie and baby boy Matthew. In her former life she was a college English professor, now she shares some of her small moments in her Practicing Gratitude column each week at SheKnows and works at AllParenting as the Assignments Editor. She was a contributor to Babble, and currently keeps a personal blog, In These Small Moments.

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0 thoughts on “Good News and Bad News: Infertility Journey

  1. Alison@Mama Wants This says:

    Oh Nichole. I’m so sorry to hear this. I am glad though, that you remain in good spirits and that the month off was good for you. xo

  2. Tonya says:

    It’s going to happen. I know it will… xoxo

  3. Sherri says:

    So sorry….fingers are still crossed for you guys over here!

  4. Kaitlin says:

    We also tried the month off thing, and I think in the back of my mind I was convinced ‘this is the month it’s finally going to work, it has to’. Sadly, I didn’t get pregnant that month either, but like for you it proved a good way to take some of the pressure off. (I got pregnant about ten months later, with the help of IVF.) I’m sure it will happen for you as well, keeping all my fingers crossed!

  5. angela says:

    You mean relaxing didn’t somehow spontaneously create life?

    I’m sorry Chole, but I’m glad you are feeling a little better and finding joy. Many hugs to you xoxo

  6. Katie says:

    I love this peace and joy…I hate that there isn’t a pregnancy to go with it. Maybe we can get you some baby dust from someone at BlogHer. There are always some preggo ladies there, right?

  7. Kir says:

    I am sorry about the “not pregnant” but glad that you are relaxing and enjoying your summer with your beautiful family. Infertility takes so many things from us day after day so to be able to be present in your life and enjoying it through the disappointment is a sign of true character. Xoxo

  8. Leighann says:

    Love your outlook.

  9. Jackie says:

    After 2 years of trying, I ended up getting pregnant during my most stressful month of work on record. And I’m talking high stress – negotiating a collective agreement with union workers that were threatening to go on strike. I almost had a nervous breakdown over it. And sure enough, that was the month I randomly got pregnant. So “relaxing” is not the issue. Good luck to you, I wish you all the best! I’m working on #2 right now and I’m 6 months in. I think I might need to create some work stress to get pregnant ;)

  10. Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation says:

    So sorry….your day will come!!! xoxo

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