After the required and preliminary doctor appointments were all complete, I was eager to undergo my first IVF cycle and get pregnant. All my tests and screenings came back with flying colors; I was deemed healthy and ready to begin trying to conceive. While I was ready and willing, my ovaries had another plan, and — longish story short — this won’t be the month I get pregnant. I feel foolish that I expected this to be an easy, wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am sort of process and have had a hard time not being all-consumed by everything pregnancy-related.
But a reader recently gave me some of the best advice I’ve gotten during my fertility journey: “When I was waiting (and waiting and waiting) to become pregnant, it helped me to set little goals for myself outside of becoming pregnant – mine was running longer and faster – so I had something to work at and a feeling of accomplishment to look forward to outside of the realm of fertility.”
Since reading her words, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about how much sense this goal-setting idea makes. And I’ve decided to set a few for myself.
After the jump, check out some of the non-pregnancy goals I’ve set for myself that focus on other important aspects of my life and not just trying to conceive. After all, while getting pregnant is my biggest goal for this year, it certainly isn’t the only thing I’ve got going on in my life. Thanks for the reminder, Katie G!
It’s easy to think about nothing else but getting pregnant when you’re trying to conceive. In fact, it’s easy to become completely absorbed and focused only on getting pregnant. At times, it can feel overwhelming and as though nothing else in your life matters. And while it’s definitely the biggest concern of women, like myself, who are trying to conceive, it’s important that we don’t let it consume us. Here are some goals I’ve set for myself. I’m not suggesting these be your goals, though you’re certainly welcome to try any of these if they fit your life.
What goals are you going to set so that you have something “outside of the realm of fertility” to look forward to?
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