I Put On My Big Girl Panties and We Got Somewhere

HomestudyYesterday I realized that we were assigned a local social worker for our homestudy over a month ago.

I also realized we still have no homestudy. Or have even heard from the social worker.

I’d emailed our agency last week to let them know this, and got back an email saying they’d contact the local office. Then no further response.

Usually at this point I’d convince myself that I needed to wait, a week wasn’t too long, heck, a month wasn’t that long, people were busy, no one liked a nag… I tend to do this to avoid making anyone upset or be bothered or (heaven forbid) angry. But yesterday I thought, “Actually, no. I’ve had enough waiting. This is ridiculous. The longer they take – the longer we have to wait to bring our child home.”

So I, nicely, shot an email to our agency saying that I’d never heard back but also never been contacted by our local agency, explained how long it had been, and that I would very much like to get our homestudy completed ASAP.

Literally 5 minutes later I got a phone call from the local office asking to set up an interview time.


So we went back and forth trying to nail down a time with Sam’s crazy schedule, and finally got a date. Next Thursday. Here’s how ours will go for anyone curious:

The social worker does a private interview with each of us. So I’ll go first, and even though I haven’t done this yet, I hear the process is mostly about how you’d raise a child, working with a child that is a bit older when you get them, etc. Sam will go next, then after we both will be interviewed together. The entire process takes about 2 1/2 to 3 hours and will be done all in one afternoon.

I’m trying to take my own advice and not completely spaz out about cleaning the house that day – but it’s going to be hard. We’re already off to a bit of a bumpy start (although our social worker was incredibly kind) so now I’m even more nervous about making a good impression.

Because can you imagine failing this part and actually having a kid already? O_o That would be terrible.

So 10 days and counting! I’m off to Google about what to do for a homestudy again. 😉

Photo Credit: Morguefile


Diana blogs on raising a toddler daughter, the loss of her twin boys, and their families’ Korean adoption in progress on the aptly named Hormonal Imbalances.

Smaller glimpses into her day are on Twitter and Facebook, and on Pinterest


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