If You Could Go Back to Before Your First Baby, What Would You Tell Yourself?Ceridwen Morris
If you could go back to the day before you gave birth to your first baby and tell yourself one thing, what would it be?
This question was posed to a group of mothers who were then filmed holding up their answers for viewers to see.
Here’s the video:
(Warning: It’s a bit of a tear-jerker.)
Here are my favorites and why:
Google doesn’t have children. Yes! the Internet can be friend and FOE to the new parent.
It’s OK to be afraid. If you are afraid, you are acknowledging the challenge before you. You are saying this is a tall mountain, this is going to be hard! You are not shying away from it. You are, in fact, showing bravery.
Trust your instincts. Look, you’ll be told to do this, that and the other by everyone from your neighbor to your doctor to that nosy snit on the crosstown bus. Pay attention, always be learning, but know that you are the authority on your life and your baby.
Meet other moms. Seriously, this might be the most important piece of advice. Sure some other moms might make you nuts but mostly being around people who are going through what you’re going through will help. You’ll see how we’re not all cookie-cutter people with cookie-cutter babies. Everyone’s situation is uniquely challenging. Opening your eyes to other experiences will give you perspective. Plus, who else but a new mom will actually listen attentively when you talk about the grains in your infant’s poop for 25 minutes??
Millions of parents survive sleep deprivation. We are always told how horrible it’ll be– you’ll never sleep, you’ll never go out, your marriage will suck— and while us seasoned parents might find comfort in sharing these complaints and normalizing the hard stuff, it may not be that useful for the expectant parent. I would never want to paint too rosy or unrealistic a picture but I do think it’s important balance the crappy stuff with some stories of strength and possibility. It’s really damn hard. You’ll be amazed by what you can do.
If you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing, what would it be?
Thank you Sweet Little Bundle Birth Services for tipping me off to this video.
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