First it was my friend, Katie, and then it was another friend, Miranda.
Though it was tough for me at first, as the initial sting wore off, I was filled with joy for each of them and I am so eager to meet their babies.
Because their joy is my joy.
When they go on about their constant cravings, I tease them and maybe roll my eyes a bit, but I am elated for them.
Because, those cravings are part of their experience.
But, there is something that I just cannot wrap my brain around…
Thursday morning, I was greeted with this message in my Facebook inbox, announcing the latest Facebook meme…
It’s that time of year again in support of Breast Cancer Awareness! We all remember last years game of writing your bra color as your status? or the way we like to have our handbag handy?
Remember last year so many people took part that it made national news and the constant updating of status reminded everyone why we’re doing this and helped raise awareness!
DO NOT tell any males what the status’ mean, keep them guessing And please Broadcast this to all ur female friends to see if we can make a bigger fuss this year than last year
I did my part… So now its YOUR turn!
The idea is to choose the month You were born and the day you were born. Pass this on to the girls only and lets see how far it reaches around. The last one about the bra went round the world.
So you’ll write… I’m (your birth month) weeks and I’m craving (your birth date) !!! as your status
Example: Feb 14th= I’m 2 weeks and craving Choclolate mints!!
What I can’t understand is how a faked pregnancy has anything at all to do with raising awareness about breast cancer.
I don’t see how hurting one group of people can help another.
Want to know how we really can help raise awareness?
Keiko Zoll, has an helpful idea and has written an excellent post on this topic, I’m 0 Weeks and I’m Craving a Baby. In her piece, she suggests that we post the following as our Facebook status if we want to make a real difference…
“I’m 0 weeks and craving a baby. What does this have to do with breast cancer? Infertility affects 7.3 million people in the US alone like me and it’s a very real side effect for cancer patients. If you or someone you love has been touched by cancer or infertility or both check out Fertile Hope and make a real difference by contributing today: http://bit.ly/odomMY“
And I’m off to do that right now.
For more thoughtful discussion on this topic, please read The Stirrup Queens’ Pretending You’re Pregnant Makes People Truly Understand Breast Cancer.