Is My Desire to Hibernate a "Normal" Pregnancy Response?Devan McGuinness
I have heard a lot of what to expect when the third trimester nesting phase begins in pregnancy. I realize it’s kind of something we can’t help, science explains it as a need to prepare for the new arrival and I’ve heard a lot of stories about what nesting looks like for other people. From needing to get the nursery ready, to a large boost of energy to clean-all-the-things, but since I have nearly zero energy, I wonder if these unexplained must-do’s I am experiencing now would be considered “nesting”.
I don’t have any desire to clean. Truthfully, I have so little energy that even the thought of taking on extra house chores makes me want to crawl back into bed. I won’t be putting Baby S into his own room (he will be room-sharing/bed-sharing with us) so there are no paint colors to pick out and nursery decor. I have no urge to rearrange the livingroom or food pantry or finally tackle that massive laundry pile. I don’t think those feelings of typical “nesting” will come, but I do have one very strong urge that I can’t quite explain.
I just want to hibernate. Right now and like months into when Baby S joins the world. I want to lock down the house with my husband, my four children, and myself and not worry about having to leave, to send the kids to school, to entertain visitors, or go any where. I want to be able to soak up all this time with my kids and the time with Baby S when he’s here. I want to be able to sit around without a shirt on while I develop a strong nursing relationship with the new babe and I just want to — well, hibernate.
I think it all stems from my worry about the age-gap in my kids. I have been more focused on how to make this whole new life transition easier for my kids and that far outweighs any thoughts I have on preparing for a newborn. I’ve done that three times before and I feel like I know what to expect. But when it comes to introducing a baby into an older kids’ routine, I am not sure how to do that.
I’ve never had this urge before with any of my other pregnancies. It’s new and it’s not something I have really heard anyone else talk about. It’s kind of weird, don’t you think? Think it’s an urge I should listen to or is this just about my over-worries?
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Devan McGuinness is a freelance writer living in Toronto, Ontario with her husband, three kids and expecting baby #4 at the end of this year. Read more from Devan on Babble and “like” Accustomed Chaos on Facebook!