My son is turning 4 in a couple of weeks, and I can’t believe how fast, how instantly, the months have ticked by. I assumed I would’ve had an overwhelming need to have a second child by now — especially after having such an uncomplicated pregnancy and an easy-peasy baby/toddler/child. Why wouldn’t I want another baby, especially if he/she could be just like my first?
Truthfully, I have a long list of reasons. Some selfish, most practical.
But the biggest reason? I don’t know that I have a strong enough reason to get pregnant. I’ve had fleeting moments — weeks, at times — where I’m sure we’ll have another one, if not now then soon. But whenever a wave of “let’s have another baby” washes over me, I stop and think IS THIS A GOOD REASON?
Sometimes the reasons are laughably ridiculous, and other times they really make me think. Most of the time, the question is rhetorical — yes, I know that having a child for a fancy stroller is not a good reason to get pregnant — but sometimes I’m really asking. Is getting pregnant so that my son has a playmate a good enough reason to bring another life into the world? Is it?
Here are 12 semi-ridiculous — but sometimes not-so-ridiculous? — reasons that I’ve wanted to have a second baby. Are these bad reasons?:
Ultimately, I’m waiting for that feeling that I not only want to have another baby, but need to have another baby. I’m waiting for that moment when — even if you took away the baby gear and the photography and the baby names — I want to welcome our newest family member.
But right now I feel complete. Happy. Only time will tell, I suppose.
What are some of the questionable reasons you want/wanted to have another baby?
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