My husband was a bit sad when he realized that most of the baby-related fanfare revolved around… well, me. My friends threw me a baby shower (although he did end up attending, which I loved). Everyone asked how I was feeling, how I was doing. He’s not really into attention – in fact, he normally hates it – but I think he was a little unprepared for how much society made pregnancy about the baby and me, not the baby and us.
So when I casually mentioned the concept of a dadchelor party, my husband and his friends were all over it. Something special just for him?! Bring it on.
This Friday, my husband, two of his friends who are also dads-to-be, a friend who is already a father, and another good friend are all going out on the town. While I know the dadchelor party won’t even come close to rivaling their respective bachelor parties (thank God), I’m sure there will be plenty of hi-jinks and fun for everyone involved.
As a side note, the respective female counterparts of the dadchelor party group will be getting together for a women-only party at my place. We’ll have our fun, too!
I read an article about dadchelor parties that suggested their rise in popularity can be attributed to the same phenomena impacting the popularity of babymoons. Because people are getting married and procreating later in life, they have more money to spend on such outings. Similarly, parenting is now viewed as a shared celebration and responsibility.
According to [Carly] Roney [editor of thebump.com], also at play is the fact that both men and women are having their first children later. Data from the National Center for Health Statistics shows that the average age for first time motherhood in 1970 was 21.4. By the year 2000 it was 24.9 and it crept up further to 25.1 in 2008 (statistics for first time fathers are not available).
Because couples have had more time to enjoy the luxuries of uninterrupted sleep or a last minute trip to the beach, Roney theorized that panic is more likely to accompany impending parenthood. In addition, she argued that the challenges of parenting weren’t spoken of amongst previous generations. Now?
“People are like, ‘You wouldn’t believe it: you’re not going to get any sleep and you’re never going to have sex again,’” Roney said. “The picture of parenthood that’s been painted is so dire, it seems like you do need a last night of freedom.”
Regardless of the reasoning, I think a dadchelor party is a great idea for my husband. He deserves to blow off a little steam – and get a bit of attention – before our baby arrives.
Is your man having a dadchelor party?