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It Takes a New Mother 4 Months and 23 Days to Adjust To Motherhood, New Study Suggests

Takes a New Mother 4 Months and 23 Days to Adjust To MotherhoodI can still remember it like it was yesterday and it was almost 7 years ago; the first time that I held a newborn and it was my own. I had no idea what I was doing and always felt kind of weird about that initial feeling of hesitation.

I felt like I was in a newborn fog and as time passed and I got more used to my role, I felt the cloud lift and I started to feel more like myself again. I would say that it was somewhere around the my first child’s 6-month mark and a new study shows that I am not really alone on this count.

The research, which was commissioned by the baby brand Munchkin, found that it takes a new mom 4 months and 23 days to feel like things have clicked. It’s not a surprise to me now, but it’s a statistic I would have been surprised to hear when I was a new mom.

“It’s a massive change and the flood of self-doubt or worry as to how they’ll cope is perfectly natural – but the fact they care so much only proves what good mums they eventually will develop into”

Claire Rayner, spokeswoman for Munchkin said, “Becoming a mum for the first time leads to a flurry of mixed emotions and it can naturally be completely overwhelming. It’s one of the best things that can happen to someone but it can understandably be very scary too.”

The study also revealed that during pregnancy, one out of 2 women were nervous and scared of becoming a mother, while one in four said they felt “completely daunted.” That number increased after the birth of their child with more than half polled admitted to being overwhelmed with the prospect of being a mother.

More interesting statistics from the study:

  • 57% admitted those first few months passed by “in a bit of a blur” because they were worried about perfection and “doing things right”
  • 2 out of 3 mothers admitted the worry and exhaustion of being a new parent even led them to burst into tears
  • 6 out of 10 said they wish they didn’t worry as much as they had at the time
  • 47% were surprised at the amount of time it took for them to properly get the hang of being a mom
  • 1 out of 5 women admitted they didn’t tell anyone what they were feeling because they didn’t want to be thought of as failing or seen to struggle in their new role

So, what was it about the magic 4 month 23 day mark that seems to turn things around for women? It seems to be the average time that they started to feel better about their role and that they knew what they were doing. There were 10 key factors that helped them feel like they were a “proper mom”; 5 on the list are totally relatable to me:


  • Knowing How to Handle Baby in Public 1 of 5
    Knowing How to Handle Baby in Public
    When I was a new mom I was always worried that when the baby would cry, people could see that I didn't know what I was doing. As I grew in confidence, I stopped caring what other people thought.
    Photo credit: photostock
  • Knowing What to Do When Baby Cries 2 of 5
    Knowing What to Do When Baby Cries
    Those first few weeks when you're just getting to know your baby their cries can cause a lot of anxiety. As we got to know each other I got to understand what each cry meant.
    Photo credit: photostock
  • Getting a Handle on Housework 3 of 5
    Getting a Handle on Housework
    I was always hard on myself over this one. I wanted to do all things even early and when I felt like I was failing, it was hard. I eventually stopped and gave myself a break!
    Photo credit: photostock
  • Having Your Child Sleep Through the Night 4 of 5
    Having Your Child Sleep Through the Night
    I will admit this one wasn't a big concern for me because we co-slept and we were breastfeeding so I didn't want baby to sleep too long. Many parents look forward to the day they can get a lot of consecutive sleep.
    Photo credit: photostock
  • Getting the Hang of Diapers 5 of 5
    Getting the Hang of Diapers
    The first diaper I ever changed was when my baby was born. When you're just getting the handle on it, it can be stressful and messy and well -- contribute to the feeling that you don't know what you're doing. I quickly became a pro at it (like mostly all mothers) and once that kicked it I felt much better.
    Photo credit: photostock

Check out the rest of the list of 10 that contributed to women feeling better and adjusted to motherhood.

Did it take you a while to feel like you knew what you were doing as well?

Photo credit: photostock

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