Today we hit the 20-week mark in this pregnancy. Normally that would be the time at which we (and many people) would get an ultrasound to find out the gender. And we did find out with both of our first two. But we’re not choosing to find out this time.
It’s hard not to, really. Well — hard in the sense that I kind of want to know! But since we’ve chosen not to get any routine ultrasounds this time, it won’t even be a temptation. We don’t have any way to tell.
The first two times I said I didn’t want to know. But then I always got too curious and I had to find out. I was glad that I knew, though. Preparing to be a parent for the first time was big enough without being unable to prepare the clothes and pick a name and have some idea what to expect. I was so thrilled to find out that time that I was having a girl! Everyone in my family has girls first, we had basically agreed on a girl’s name, and it sounded so fun to have a little girl. Which it is.
The second time we found out it was a boy. It took us three long months to settle on a name for him, but we did. And we were thrilled to expect and have him too.
Now…well, we already have “one of each,” which many consider to be the perfect family. We love having one of each. And we are excited for whoever this baby is.
Since we have chosen to get only minimal routine tests done (many are just not necessary during normal pregnancies), it’s been a different experience. We’re focusing on bonding with the baby in other ways, since we don’t know “who” he or she is. We haven’t seen any “pictures” via ultrasound, either. And we’re thrilled that this one will be a surprise.
Think about it (or, if you’ve been there, relive it): You’ve been anticipating this baby for so long, so excited! And you go through labor and birth, and finally someone holds up the baby and says, “It’s a…!” I can’t wait!
I keep wondering and thinking about “who” this might be, and I can’t wait to meet him/her and see what s/he looks like. That is one of my favorite parts about new babies — getting to know them!
Do you find out if it’s a boy or a girl? Why or why not?
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