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Just Say No: To Mother's Day

By Aela Mass |

Your first reaction to this post might likely be: What? No Mother’s Day?? But that’s the one day devoted just to me!

In fact, when I very first heard of the “No Mother’s Day” campaign, my initial thought was, “As if a mother’s job isn’t thankless enough, now we want to take away their sole celebration?” But then I learned more about who and what are behind this movement. You might be surprised to find out that it’s created by mothers, but more importantly, that it is an effort for mothers.

The No Mother’s Day initiative is sponsored by Every Mother Counts, a non-profit organization that was founded by Christy Turlington Burns after the completion of her documentary debut, “No Woman, No Cry.” The film tells the personal stories of pregnant women and their caregivers in four countries and was created as a way to increase education and support for global maternal mortality reduction.

According to the organization, “Hundreds of thousands of girls and women around the world die every year from complications in pregnancy or childbirth, creating a rippling effect that devastates children, families, and communities. Almost all of these deaths are preventable.” Not celebrating Mother’s Day is a way to bring awareness to the 360,000 women a year who die from preventable pregnancy or childbirth-related problems.

Your absence from the day has the power to speak louder than any Hallmark card, and it has the power to effect change by bringing a voice (yes, through silence) to mothers around the world who no longer have one.

It’s a way to stand in solidarity and show the world, and your loved ones, what life is like without you – without mothers. Your absence from the day has the power to speak louder than any Hallmark card, and it has the power to effect change by bringing a voice (yes, through silence) to mothers around the world who no longer have one. It is your way to help make sure that no other children are orphaned when their mothers die from preventable causes.

Mothers have always been selfless. Their jobs paid only in love. And while they often enjoy the one holiday set aside for their recognition, few realize that Mother’s Day was initially designed by women’s peace groups, specifically by groups of mothers whose sons fought on opposite sides of the American Civil War. From its onset, Mother’s Day was about mothers and families coming together for each other. No Mother’s Day honors the tradition of the past, and allows mothers to once again come together in a self-sacrificing way – as only mothers know how.

You are blessed enough to be a mother for 365 days a year. This year, for one day, for Mother’s Day, please join countless others in honoring and bringing awareness to the 1,000 mothers who will die that very day from childbirth or related complications, and to all those who have died in the past. You can be the first step in changing the future for mothers around the world. Be a part of it. Hallmark can wait. These women can’t.

Watch the No Mother’s Day video below to learn more

Find out more about Every Mother Counts

Facts about Mother’s Day

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About Aela Mass


Aela Mass

Aela Mass is a lesbian writer and editor living the dream on Martha's Vineyard with her wife, Sara, and their dog, Darla. She miscarried her twins at 17 weeks and has undergone numerous IVF, FET, and IUI cycles. Her writing has appeared in The Huffington Post among other publications. For more of her work, visit her blog Two Moms Make a Right. Read bio and latest posts → Read Aela's latest posts →

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0 thoughts on “Just Say No: To Mother's Day

  1. anonymous says:

    I would be happy to support initiatives that actually reduce preventable pregnancy or childbirth-related problems. I am not willing however to terrorize my own young child by telling him that he can’t give me a card because other kids moms die during pregnancy/child birth. I don’t want him to spend a day that he thinks is for celebrating love in our family in a fun, inexpensive way focused on what life would be like if I had died giving birth to him. When he’s older I would be happy to discuss this issue with him in an age appropriate way but at least from what is described in this post I think this sounds like a misguided way to help an important cause.

  2. anon says:

    I’m not yet against “no mothers day” day, but how does not participating in mothers day help save to be mothers? Maybe a Mother’s Day walk, bake sale, yard sale where proceeds went to organizations that help these to be mothers would be a better idea? It would also education the community of these health issue moms to be encounter here and in other countries. It would be very hard as a mother to NOT donate to a cause such as this. Or, instead of buying me expensive flowers, how about a card and donate the money you would save on flowers to these mothers in honor if the mom you were blessed to have. I believe if we honor those mothers who didn’t make it through pregnancy/labor/delivery/complication etc. in a tangible way it would have a greater impact.

  3. Jenny from Austin says:

    Wow, what a stupid, po-faced, self-flagellating idea that will never catch on. Why don’t we cancel Father’s Day to support safer births? Nope, couldn’t ask them to sacrifice, just us ladies again. Puke. Listen, it’s an awesome cause, especially because it’s one of those things that we really can fix or improve vastly with relatively little effort. You can have my money, no problem. But my Mother’s Day? Go fuck yourself.

  4. Kyla says:

    Ridiculous! There are many other ways to advocate for better maternity care world-wide. Don’t forget about all the mother’s out there who are deserving of being the recipients of some sincere “thank you’s” for all they do no matter day or night. There are many single mothers, young mothers, homeless mothers, neglected mothers, beaten mothers….. wow the list goes on and on. Tell them NOT to celebrate a day that is solely about their role because women die in pregnancy and childbirth. Sad.

  5. Rosana says:

    First of all, I celebrate Mother’s Day because I am lucky to be one. It is all about my kids, not me, and I do not see motherhood as a job paid with love. I love being a mother and again, I thank my lucky stars that I am one. On the other hand, I think that education goes a long way, way further than a No Mother’s Day thing. Soooo, I will make sure I do my research this week and to do my part, I will be updating my status on FB, thru Sunday and on each status I will be naming the childbirth complications and how they can be prevented.

  6. Kellan says:

    Hm. Good idea, but misguided actions. I agree with the above commentors – a tangible effort would help so much more. Maybe medical or food supplies, money, baby info/supplies, pregnancy info/supplies, or even just send a card, if that’s all that’s affordable. I have two young (under 5) kids and wouldn’t dream of not participating for their sakes.

    We DO need to rally together as women, as *mothers* – for ALL mothers/to be. We need other moms to lean on, to strengthen, to help, to serve, to learn from, to lighten the load (both ours and theirs), to do for. Maybe an idea that will actually perpetuate that would be received better by us. :)

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