Yesterday, my post, One Parenting Choice that I Just Cannot Understand, had the exact opposite response that I hoped it would.
I had to go back and reread my post several times because what I thought I wrote and what so many people read seemed so vastly different.
Here’s where I went wrong, I think…
If I had published my post over on in these small moments, where those who regularly read my words know me, they would have known that I would never intentionally hurt anyone.
Those readers would have given me the benefit of the doubt because they’ve read so many of my posts that they have a fuller understanding of who I am.
But, so many of you who read my words here haven’t yet had a chance to see who I am, so my words were read in isolation.
I hope to one day reach the point here on Babble where I’m given that same benefit of the doubt. I invite you to look back through my archives here to get a better sense of who I am. I’d love to get to know you better as well.
I want to clarify a few things about what I wrote yesterday.
My post was truly an invitation to a dialogue. I don’t believe anyone owes me an explanation at all. I was inviting those who wanted to help others understand to share their stories.
I regret using the word “selfish,” as, unfortunately, my 376-word post was too often boiled down to that one word.
I am so incredibly grateful to those of you who left thoughtful comments. You helped me to understand some of the reasons why some women don’t try breastfeeding. I appreciate your insight so much.
And for those of you who were hurt by my question, I am sincerely apologize.
I wasn’t trying to judge, I was trying to understand.
If I hadn’t asked the question, I would have never known the answer.
Isn’t that what life is about? Learning and growing?
Was it erroneous to believe that we could truly talk about a difficult topic and increase understanding?
Kate is thoughtfully exploring that topic today in Should We Avoid Talking About it Because It’s Uncomfortable?
I’d like to think that we can tackle tough topics and find a place in the middle where we have a better understanding of one another.
I’m willing to try, at least.
I hope you are too.