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No Guarantees: Trying to Conceive

By Nichole |

We have now entered our 6th cycle of trying for another baby.

With each passing cycle, I tell myself that this will be our month.

And most months, once the initial heartache eases, I am able to rally and focus on the month ahead.

Last month, I worked to find the bright side, bike rides, wine, and coffee.

But this month is proving tougher.

I’m worried that this road to another baby might be even longer than I feared.

This is our last cycle of just trying on our own.

Next month, our struggles will officially be considered secondary infertility and we will have to make the decision to move forward with medical help.

In the meantime, we’re making some changes that are breaking my heart…changes that I hope will help me to finally get pregnant without medical intervention.

But there are no guarantees.

And that’s the most difficult part.

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About Nichole



Nichole Beaudry lives in Sacramento, California with her husband Craig, their daughter Katie and baby boy Matthew. In her former life she was a college English professor, now she shares some of her small moments in her Practicing Gratitude column each week at SheKnows and works at AllParenting as the Assignments Editor. She was a contributor to Babble, and currently keeps a personal blog, In These Small Moments.

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4 thoughts on “No Guarantees: Trying to Conceive

  1. Sherri says:

    Oh sweet friend of mine, I understand. You just hang in there and see what happens, try and take care of yourself, and find comfort in your friends and family.

    And I hope the next baby shower we attend together will be yours.

  2. Alanna says:

    Just wanted to tell you that our last month before medical intervention turned out to be “the month.” I was sure that nothing had happened, but actually cancelled the appointment with the infertility specialist because I wanted a break from the pressure I had put myself under for the last 8 months. Cancelled my Wed appt on Monday; rescheduled for 3 mo later, took the test on Friday so I knew for sure that I could have my weekend wine, and SUPRISE!
    So I do know how hard this is and how much it can consume you.
    Just keep the faith and know that it will happen. I know it will for you!!

  3. Mandi says:

    Thanks for being so honest. God has a great plan for you and your family. I know, it’s hard to believe in the middle of it all. I’ll be praying for you!

  4. Katy E says:

    Please, do whatever you feel you need to do but consider giving yourself about 8 weeks after weaning before resorting to medical intervention. Some women can cut back on breastfeeding a little to become pregnant, others have to stop completely. Please be loving and patient with yourself. Your body has been nourishing your beautiful son for the last 27 months. Appreciate her for all that hard work. You may be surprised. Happy Mother’s day!

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