The past two weeks since my wife and I began our fertility journey have felt like an eternity. I have never asked so many questions, learned so much new information, or felt such a roller coaster of certainty and doubt. At times, it feels like Sara and I are learning a new language, or are strangers in a foreign land, or even perhaps that our total ignorance about the process we’re going through to become mothers somehow deems us unworthy of even being mothers. Then today, our spirits were quickly and fully renewed with some great news that bucks all superstition about Friday the 13th.
Not only is today my dear friend’s daughter’s first birthday (HAPPY BIRTHDAY, CHLOE!), but my wife called me at work today to tell me that other dear friends of ours friends who started almost a year ago the very journey Sara and I only began two weeks ago are pregnant! My heart is simply overjoyed for them.
After we got this great news, my wife and I met for lunch and started daydreaming about our child growing up and being friends with their child. And we were both so giddy by the thought of it. Sara and I have both known that getting pregnant is going to take quite some time, but she joked at lunch today, saying their news makes her wish we started this process sooner, simply so our kid could be the same age as theirs. And I began to think how great it will be for our child to have a friend who also has two moms, and that our good friends are a greater blessing than I ever even realized, because not only have they shown unconditional love and support for us, especially toward my wife over the years, but now they are going to have a child who will God and all good things willing be such an important part of our child’s life.
We know there will be certain difficulties our child faces specifically related to the fact that she or he has two mothers. We’re as ready for that as we’ll ever be. But today we both realized our child will not be alone, that she or he will have a great friend with whom to relate, that together, they’ll have a shared experience of being the donor children of some very loving mothers.
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