Saggy boobs are caused by genes, gravity, time and the swell of pregnancy. Maybe breastfeeding has something to do with it, but everything I’ve read says it’s a myth breastfeeding that leads to the demise of perkiness. Boobs, as you know, get a lot bigger in early pregnancy and stay that way (or get even bigger) throughout. This is what contributes to the stretching of skin. Nursing won’t make a difference one way or the other after that.
If you don’t nurse, you’ll probably go through a short period of very engorged breasts, followed by some degree of deflating. If you do nurse, any deflating will take place when you wean– whether that’s at two weeks or two years. Some women feel depressed by their breasts after they’ve weaned, or after birth if they don’t breastfeed.
Many moms are surprised to find that the change is less radical than lore had led them to believe.
I usually don’t get too personal but to hell with it: My boobs have dropped after two pregnancies. It’s true. But I gotta say, I appreciate them more than ever. Maybe due to several years of various members of my household vying for their attention. (There’s been a lot of boob-love around here, and it might just have seeped in and replaced more youthful insecurities.) Sure there are days when I look at myself and think: crap. I experience a healthy amount self-loathing like any one else with a mirror and a brain. But I’m also pretty well settled into the idea that boobs are meant to sag eventually and what you really need to do is just sit up straight and get a good bra. Life’s too short to hate yourself for something caused by living it.
Though it can transform us in ways we sometimes don’t like–or expect to like–motherhood can also help us see our bodies as a source of life and love. If you ever feel any remote hint of this idea coming over you at any point during pregnancy, run with it!