One More Out There?
Is this family complete?
This is kind of an ultra personal post I’m going to sneak in here on Friday night.
I’ve made much ado about my desire to have a third child. And I do, I really want a third child. But, oh my gosh, you guys, I just don’t want to be pregnant again. I have such a hard time. I know, I know, there are those of you, women who write here on Being Pregnant even, who would kill to be pregnant… But I’m just being honest.
I really, really hate being pregnant.
I feel sick all the time. I gain tons of weight. My bones hurt, hell, my skin hurts. And here’s the other thing… The first three or four months of a baby’s life are so freaking hard! Yes, yes, they are filled with joy and love and overwhelming happiness at the new little person in your life, but they are also filled with sleepless, painful nights, gigantic, achy, leaking boobs and really, just a whole lot of chaos.
When I think of going through the pregnancy and the first three months with two little kids already… Sheesh. The thought terrifies me. My body is only just now beginning to recover from Henry’s occupation. But I want a third child so badly. Three has always seemed like the right number. But the further away from being pregnant I get, the harder it is to fathom going through it again.
What does this mean? Am I really not meant to have a third even though I want one so badly? Do I just need to pull myself up by my bra straps and deal with the difficult part to get to the part where the little larvae baby begins to transform into a human being, just like Henry now? But things seem so great now with the girl and the boy and we’re just now getting into the swing of things as a family of four. Still. Like I said, sometimes it feels like there is just one more out there…
I’m just sending this little missive off into the internets late on a Friday night and if you happen to read it and have any insight, or if you can share your own experience with deciding whether or not to have another child I’d be ever so grateful…
Have you considered adoption? There are so many babies out there who need homes filled with love. Since you don’t want to be pregnant again, it may be an option to consider. Just a thought.
http://www.fitandpreggers.com/pregnancy/general-pregnancy/pregnancy-and-being-adopted/
It sounds like you’re mulling it over pretty seriously. Adoption is so amazing but super expensive. Still, it’s wonderful and if we ever have the money, my husband and I are going to consider it. A reminder, though, that every pregnancy is different so getting knocked up again may or may not be as bad. Some people get worse and worse nausea with every pregnancy and end up on zofran pumps and some don’t. Another thing… I’ve heard that if the transition from 1 to 2 is rough then the transition from 2-3 is much easier. You have the ideal living situation for another one right now since Hubs and You are both working from home. It’s just a few thoughts. Good luck and lots of joy with whatever you decide.
That’s a tough one! Maybe give it more time? It may take a little while longer for that longing to grow or go away!
You’ll figure out what’s right for you.
I’d second adoption as an option, though – all the baby, none of the hormones, puking or labor! (I know, I know, not that simple at all, but it might do good for both you and a baby out there that needs a home.) Pregnancy can really suck for some women, but like others have said since each one is different another one may be a cakewalk for you. Or not, but then it’s only 9 months out of your life, plus a few for the newborn stage. Judging from my SIL, once you have two kids, you have chaos already, so adding a third doesn’t really add too much to that. Good luck either way!
1-2 was easy for me. 2-3 has broken is. Maybe it was 3 kids 3 and under that did it, but now almost 3 yrs into #3, I feel like I can breathe again. No way I will ever have #4. 3 was a very unexpected and delightful surprise who provided our family a focus when we were grieving (finding out I was 20 weeks along after a prolonged illness and death of my father) and then her birth days after my sister had surgery for breast cancer. We love our kids, but both of us have said no more. And hubby got snipped to make sure.
adoption is expensive, but fostering isn’t. i am currently pregnant and it really isn’t my favorite thing either. my husband and i plan on being just the three of us for a few years and fostering once we get a place with extra space. i know it’s not something that’s for everyone, but it’s something that anyone thinking of adoption should look into before deciding that it isn’t right for them.
If you are thinking about it you should go for it. And you’re right, the further you are away from pregnancy and diapers, the less likely you’ll want to do it again. My third just turned one. I was home with my first two while I was pregnant with him (I had been working through the first two pregnancies) and I think it was the hardest… I was older and running around after two kiddies (3 and 2 at the time) isn’t easy. Three kids definitely pushed me over the edge (I will not be planning any more
) but I don’t regret having him, though I might have regretted not having him.
With respect to adoption, I know people who have adopted and I know people who looked into adoption when they couldn’t conceive. It’s not easy raising an adopted child. It comes easy to some but not all. Someone once said to me, “consider adopting a child if you want to help a child, not to fill your own need for a child” (or something like that). It’s not that I’m against adoption or that I don’t think you should consider it, I just think it’s not a decision you make because you want to avoid pregnancy. Just my two cents….
Good luck by the way, whatever you decide.
Reading this post, I felt as if I could have written this article. (But we went for it and #3 is due in 4 months). I’ve never been so tired in my life but at the same time, this pregnancy is FLYING by! I am don’t like being pregnant or those sleepless first few months either…but iI guess it’s all part of the deal so here we go for the last time!
We also already have one girl and one boy…but I just know when I “see the future” I want 3 kids. I didn’t have the “I’m done” feeling that so many of my friends that are done said they felt. But if we decide we want any more, we’re adopting cause this baby making shop is closed in March!
I’m pregnant with my 3 rd now, and if I would have known how hard it was going to be on my body and mind….would not have done it. In my experience the pregnancies get harder, and a lot more uncomfortable. I will be happy to be done, so looking forward to our baby, but this was the toughest pregnancy ever.
My first pregnancy was a breeze with the exception of the morning sickness and a rough labor. This one is kicking my butt! I thought I wanted a 3rd one day but while I lay here in bed nauseated at 5 months, not being able to breathe and with every pain known to man kind…. I just don’t know if #3 will ever happen. I think it’s probably one of those things we have to grit our teeth and do because you know it’ll be better after the initial shock goes away. If you both really want it, there are some sacrifices that will be made. Nothing good ever came easy. This baby must be really good! She better be! Ha!
My husband and I made the decision (several years ago) not to have a third child, because of finances, though my heart felt the same as yours. I thought one more was out there. He made the appointment with the doctor and was scheduled to go when oops I missed my period and the decision was taken out of our hands. I thought, Oh Lord, and it was a tough pregnancy, sick from the beginning, threw up the day he was born, but twenty one years later I can’t imagine my life without him. My family was complete no matter how tough it was. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. Pregnancy is a very brief time in a long life, and the joy of the Baby, it makes it all up.
1-2 was way rougher than 2-3 I’m actually considering a 4th after a very blunt discussion with my endocrinologist. It blindsided me with the thought of a 4th and broke my heart to think it may not happen. I agree pregnancies by harder each time I wind up on bedrest and medications. I was in prodromal labor for over a week
I laughed out loud when I read this! I can totally relate! I currently have a 9 yr old, 3yr old & 11 month old & am due with my “surprise” 4th baby in December!! I HATE being pregnant! It’s like my body thinks I have some kind of disease! When your going thru pregnancy it seems never ending as are the first few months of baby’s life. However time does pass & when you finally come out of new baby/ post pregnancy coma it is totally worth it!
We have 3, she is almost 1. We love her to death, I couldn’t imagine our family without her! I truely feel like our little family is complete now, there will not be a 4th! But let me tell you … the pregnancy was hard. I’m sick throughout and with 2 little ones it was HARD! This first year has also been really, really hard. I’ve felt like we’ve gone from 2 to 6!! Not easy at all … but at the end of day when I lay down in bed and all the little angels are (hopefully) sleeping peacefully I know having a third child was the best decision for us. Regardless of how had the pregnancy and the 1st year have been! I mean really, that is a little under 2 years of our lives. Not much time in the grand scheme of things for a lifetime love
Good luck with your decision! My advice would be: 1) if you are going to have a 3rd, wait until your oldest is 5 or 6 and 2) make sure you have a strong network of support around you and people who are willing to lend a helping hand when you’ve reached your wit’s end!
For me, the pregnancy is the easy part…I cannot handle sleep deprivation. I was a wreck for the first 5 months or so of both of my children’s lives. Truth be told, the first 2-3 years are had, and our second is only 15 months old now. I am counting down the days until she is 3. I am so absolutely certain that I cannot and do not want more kids, which is nice. Having said that…why can’t you wait 2-3 years and then see how you feel? I will admit, it was hard starting from square 1 with diapers, but your other kids will be a little older and can help out.
wait a bit, until your littlest is 2. then revisit. if you still think a 3rd is out there, go for it, whether it be your biological child or adoption…let your instincts guide you, when you are clear of up and down hormones. stay healthy + focus on your two existing children, desire for more clouds the reality of what you already have.
I felt the same way about #3. We tried for over a year anyways and nothing.then last thanksgiving while visiting out of town family for a few days we realized two was enough. Yes, it was one of THOSE trips. So we stopped trying and I was going to schedule getting my tubes tied late spring. In the mean time we were testing for ovulation and having “mommy and daddy” time outside of that. Well Jan I ovulated later… Much later. And the tests did not show this. We ended up getting pregnant. The pregnancy was fine at first. Then early contraction and spd kicked in. Bed rest was given. This made for a long six months.and no morning sickness till. The last few months. Worst time ever to have it. No stretch marks this time. And I didn’t even gain ten lbs. Which sounds great. But it was painful, really painful. But baby came. We llove her so much and cant imagine life without her. She is so easy, never cries. This is probably cause she is used to the sound of chaos. Ha ha. It is taking bit longer for the big kids to get used to someone new. They act out more. Twards us, not baby. But then they hold, kiss and love on her. And we just know and feel complete now. Good luck on your journey. It is only nine months, then it’s over…forever. And you are left with this perfect little being.
Mama, your heart knows. You wants another. Go for it.
I gave birth to my first in May, but do to the difficult nature of that experience (I had a post-partum hemorrhage, went Code Blue, lost half my blood volume & ended up in the ICU), my current educational situation (leaving grad school for nursing school) & my husband’s unusual career (we must live overseas every few years, for three years at a time), we are already discussing the logistics of when & if we will add to our family. A decision I once naively assumed would be easy (during my very normal pregnancy) is now fraught with complications, literally of life & death.
I celebrated my 30th birthday three weeks before my little girl’s arrival & always wanted to be finished having children by 35, so I also feel the tick, tick, tick of my internal clock. The sleep deprivation was hell on wheels at 30 & I cannot even fathom how awful it will be in another half decade, when I’ll need to report for duty at a full-time job, my carefree student days long behind me.
Good luck with your decision making
Thank you for writing this post. I feel *exactly* the same way. We have a just barely 3 year old, and a 16 month old, and we are EXHAUSTED. I hated being pregnant both times, but we just feel like our family isn’t done. We’ve decided we’re not going to talk about it again until our baby is 2. The other tricky thing for us is that we did IVF for both of ours, and we would have to do it again… so, it’s not just like we can ditch the birth control and let the chips fall where they may. IVF was pretty awful, but we were extremely blessed. It’s a tough decision, and I wish you all the best!!
My DH and I found out we were pregnant with our 2nd in January, now she’s here and we couldn’t be happier. But at first we definitely were not sure if we wanted 2, and she was a surprise, but there was no other choice for me. I had always wanted 2 in my heart. While I was pregnant we talked about him getting a vasectomy so we’d only ever have 2. But…in the last month of my pregnancy and since I had my daughter I have had this feeling. Like maybe 1 more is in the stars for us. Have not told DH because I know his answer. So it may not happen for me. But I decided to wait and see if the feeling remains in the next 2-3 years. If it stays I will talk to him and we’ll see. I guess what I’m trying to say is give yourself time. That’s what I’m doing.
I have three and was torn after having my second about whether I wanted to have a third. My husband absolutely did. And in my heart I did too, but outside reasons, having to do with work and other factors, really made me unsure. But whenever I saw a pregnant woman, I felt a twinge of jealousy. Eventually I knew that I wanted a third and we went for it. Our third girl was born when our first was 4 and a couple of months and our second was 2 1/2. It was an unpleasant pregnancy. I was SIIIIIIIIIIIICK. I was probably mildly depressed and certainly very cranky. I was so uncomfortable and even though it was a planned pregnancy, throughout it all I was only looking forward to not being pregnant anymore, instead of looking forward to having the baby in our lives. We were both completely healthy, which was great and I felt bad about complaining — and still do — but it sucked.
And then she was born and on that same day, I was back to myself. I even remember commenting to my husband in the hospital that the older two girls wouldn’t know what to make of me when I got home because I’d be nice Mommy again. The great news is that my third was the easiest baby. She was so happy, she slept so much, she was so go-with-the-flow. And now, at age 6, she still is almost all the time. Stands up for herself, to be sure, but just enjoys life. Cannot imagine life without her. Even the wretched pregnancy (and long-term physical effects of that pregnancy) were and are so worth it. And I know lots of other people who way the same thing about their third — easiest baby of all.
And since her birth, I have never once looked at a pregnant woman and thought, “Oh…I wish I were pregnant.” Three was right. All is well — all is great, actually. Absolutely the right decision.
Give yourself some time. Henry is under 1 so of course you’re still not feeling ready to be pregnant. But you might in another 6 months, or a year, or a year and a half. I think it will become clear to you what you want to do if you let time run its course. No need to pressure yourself about it now.
I could not agree with you more! I am 28 weeks with baby #2 and I know in my heart that I would really love to have one more. But being pregnant is a nightmare on my body. I am MISERABLE THE ENTIRE TIME. And I am chasing around a very active 2 year old boy which makes things all the more challenging. Great to hear that I am not the only one who feels this way.
Anything worth having is never easy.
If only men could have babies!!!!! The human race would become extinct! Ha ha.
So you are not sure you want another child. I think it’s understandable considering what you’ve been through. Of course it could always be worse.,,more difficult. The thing is, that the down side of pregnancy is temporal, and the price you pay to be able to set in motion a series of lifetimes for generations to come is relatively miniscule! To have the power to do this is awesome ( to me). This is not to put any pressure on anyone for NOT wanting to have children. Each person knows when they have had ENOUGH and some people I know who are of child bearing age and in the position to have children have chosen not to have any. You have the love of your life….how can you NOT have that next little baby? No pressure. Personally, I loved being fertile and back when I was married, and would never have considered preventing conception, because I knew we were having issues to begin with. Seeing what a great set of parents you are, I would advise you to simply relax about it and not prevent it from happening. While the use of birth control (in whatever form) will preserve you from the various inconveniences of child bearing, allowing nature to take it’s course will allow that next sweet little love to enter the picture on his or her own time schedule. My opinion.
When I was growing up, I remember my parents telling me that they had two children “to replace themselves”. (It was trendy at the time to consider population growth, I think.) But that really stuck with me. And since the 7 billionth person is going to be born onto this earth sometime in the next year and the earth currently can’t handle the 6+ billion already here, I have no plans to have more than the two we already have. But, I supposed if I was being completely altruistic, we shouldn’t have even had the two we had!
Here’s your answer: “But I want a third child so badly. Three has always seemed like the right number.” You’ve said it. You feel it. You want it. I say go for it.
I have three for the same reasons listed above. But I have to be honest, going from two to three kicked my arse, even though the now 13 month old is such an easygoing kid who (now) sleeps great, has a sunny disposition and is a cuddle monkey. But I think it wsa the timing. My son had to be at school by a certain time, so no matter how rough a night we had, I had to get up and get him to school (no buses in this small town). Plus our middle child was used to being the baby, so it was hard on her too. That being said, I have no regrets and I’m pretty there are no missing pieces from our family puzzle. But, sometimes I do think, if all the kids were in school, I could totally focus on a new baby. Yes, my age is a factor, but my sister just had a child at 43 (she also has a 20 yr old, 19 yr old, 17 yr old and 10 yr old). If she can do it, why not me?
Pregnancy #3- halfway there.
I am with you. Pregnancy is hell for me. I feel sick ALL the time (in my 22nd week and still throwing up!). This pregnancy has been the most difficult. My skin is disgusting, my hair is stringy and gross and won’t hold color (hello GREYS!) and I get headaches EVERY single day; I’ve been in the hospital three times already (twice for UTI’s and once for pain and numbness on my right side).
Also like you, I debated heavily on #3. My husband and I waivered- our sons were getting older and more independent, our finances aren’t great, we have a 3-bedroom house…3 children wasn’t exactly practical. But on the other hand I was 36…if we were going to do this, it had to be soon.
So we prayed. And prayed. We asked God to give us the family HE wanted us to have. If it was 3 children, so be it. If it was 2- as is- we were ok with that too. So I had my IUD removed and we let His will be done. We decided if I wasn’t pregnant by the year’s end, my husband would have a vasectomy. Lo and behold…in June I got pregnant….9 months after the IUD was removed. We just found out #3 is a girl.
I strongly believe (and suggest) giving in to His will.
Wish you & yours the best!
We were done with two children. Had one of each, girl and boy. My first pregnancy was tough, the second one, a little better. Well… the thought of another child sounded like what we wanted to do. By far the easiest pregnancy and delivery! I was a stay at home mom by that point, don’t know if that made a difference or not, but with the other two, I worked full time out of the home. You will know what is right for you and your family.
I had two icky pregnancies and two c-sections. I knew i wanted more kids but didnt want to go through another bad pregnancy. So hubby got fixed and we just applied for adoption. We are going through a non profit that works with adoptions through foster care..from infants to teens. Its not what everyone is open to but it is not expensive like private adoption is.
I so hear ya! We went for #3, and yes the pregnancy was exhausting, I already had a toddler and a five year old, but it was so worth it. Three for us was the magic number. I look at them lined up in a row, as they often do when they stand together, and their three little dark-haired heads go in order from tallest to shortest, and I am glad I have my three. Or, I see the three of them snuggled up together in sleeping bags or on the couches together…see the oldest with the youngest spending time together, and I am glad. Our family dynamic changed for the better and it was worth an exhausting, back hurting, pregnancy. It did not however, make me want to go for four…
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There will be almost 5 yrs between my son and daughter expected in a few weeks and it took that long to get geared up to have another. The pregnancy wasn’t difficult but it took a long time to recover from an emergency c-section that left me not feeling right for a long time. I always knew I wanted another, and I don’t feel guilty at all for waiting so long (even though my husband would have preferred them to be closer together). I enjoy the idea of my son being old enough to be more independent and the thought of being able to devote more time to this next one. Don’t give up; if you wait long enough the pain of the previous pregnancies will fade, and you’ll know when you are ready if it’s really meant to be.
Just had my 3rd like a month ago, well all I can say is that pregnancy sucks and sucks big time with 2 toddlers pulling on your hands and attention. Even more is the fact that after #3 is here there will be an even tougher time to split your attentions. But yaps go for it coz just seeing the new life and the new little character forming makes it all worth it in the end. There will always be the good and the bad days. But the good days tend to outweight the bad! Oh my I sound like a saddist here!
I disagree with waiting it out. We spread our children 6 years apart. I loved both pregnancy’s because in 6 years you forget all the bad stuff, and your body does change. Both children were an amazing experience and the first 4 months don’t have to be hard I promise! Have you ever tried scheduling you baby’s. People think it’s so hard to do, but I am living proof my 11 week old sleeps 10 hours a night and my breast milk only swells one time a day that’s in the mornings and I just have to pump after his first feeding. And it’s not hard at all. I’m saying spread your children 6 years but maybe a good 3-4 give your body time to heal it’s self and your physical strength and mental state a rest. If you ever do look into scheduling your children http://www.gfi.org/ is a great one! Good luck!
disagree with having them close together* (not waiting it out)
Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hear you on ALL the above! I am 34 and 7 months preg w/ my sec lil girl but I am sooo done. I would have many more if not for the pregnancy and actually the first full yr!!!!!! Good luck w that=)
I’m one of those ones who would KILL to be pregnant again. I’ve had (in this order): 1 miscarriage, a preterm birth (at 32-weeks), then just this year, miscarriages in May, July and September. I just turned 40 and time is running out! If you’re healthy and you can get preggers, do it! It’s only for 9 months (if you’re lucky) out of your whole life! You sound like a man would sound if he were pregnant! C’mon! We’re women and we are tough!
I am the worst at being pregnant! we had our first before we were ready, it was hard but when I held him, oh it was wonderful! I wanted my kids super close together but that was not in the cards for us, number two came four years later after a horrible pregnancy and each time I found out it was a boy I cried, I knew I had a daughter coming. So we tried again for 2 years and it was the absolute worst pregnancy ever! But my girl was coming. I was so sick I remember begging my husband to never touch me again every night. Now the angel is 15 months. She is amazing. She has been what completed our little family so perfectly, we needed her. is there a number four? I have no idea…I see a baby and I don’t want to take it home. I see pregnant women and I don’t find myself being jealous, but I have the name for our next little girl all picked out. We are not doing anything permanent but not trying either. I wish I knew what is in store for us…I knew a woman who had 2 kids 26 years apart! another woman I know had 6 and when she got fixed she went into hysterics because she was so happy to never be pregnant again, her anatheseologist wouldn’t leave her side for 30 minutes after she came out of surgery because he was so scandalized, she has a lovely legacy though.
Ok where to begin! EXACTLY!!!!!!!! Except I loved being pregnant, my first was really rough I ended up on bed rest for 4 months because my cervix was funneling( starting to open from the inside out). 2 1/2 years later we had baby boy number 2 which was a major transition I had the hardest pregnancy chasing my oldest around and so scared of being on bedrest again. Everything went well I started back to school when he was 3 months old and SURPRISE we found out about baby boy number 3 when my 2nd was 5 months old! The third pregnancy went by sooooooo fast I didn’t have time to even think about anything hurting or being sick. Now I am blessed wig 3 beautiful boys ages 5, 3 and 2 I wouldn’t change a thing. It is true you do forget about the pregnancy and the sleepless nights as they grow. We are now officially done with bottles, pacifiers and diapers are next ok the list. I always knew I wanted more I just never thought so soon! But its your choice a child for the rest of your life…..is it worth a year and a half of sacrifice?
I wasn’t sure I’d ever have kids, then I had my first. Not only did that make it easier for me to get pregnant, but instead of 2 I then wanted 4. The third pregnancy was a surprise. I’m so excited for the end result, so not looking forward to the pregnancy, though I haven’t been as sick as with the first two. Its like my body knows what its doing now, glad my kids still take naps though. We’re stationed overseas so I’m nervous about having absolutely no support network, we just got here. I just keep telling myself, others have done this, I can too! And I try to think of the settlers who did this, those were some strong women. I’m hoping for twins so I don’t have to do this again, otherwise I think we may stop at 3. But since the first 3 were unplanned, maybe there’ll be 4. O, I also have a girl and boy. All I can say is that, if you want to, you can do it.
My pregnancies have gotten worse with each one – and I have 4. There is an 11 year gap between #1 and #4. I joked the entire way through that it was so bad that if #4 was the first one, I’d probably be too scared to do it again. That being said, I’d do it all again times a million if it meant I’d end up with the same baby to love. It’s up to you! If you really want it, you’ll deal.
I’m in the exact same situation right now. I have two daugthers (4 and 1), and thinking about having a third (hopefully a boy). I also hated being pregnant, was sick all the time, had joint pain, back pain, was just realy miserable all over. I agree that the first few months with the new baby really suck, mainly because of the sleep deprivation which I can’t take. Breastfeeding and everything that “comes with it” wasn’t my favorite either. And don’t forget about teething and all the other good stuff. Logistics with just 2 kids can be a nightmare, throw in a newborn and you guarantee madness. You can pretty much plan on having a crappy next 2 years if you get pregnant.
But in the same time, there is no other feeling like holding a new little baby. When I think about not having that feeling again, just one last time, it makes me so sad. I too, feel like our family is not yet complete, that we are supposed to have another little one. And I think about how great it is for my children, to have each other (I’m an only child). My two girls are now starting to play with each other and they’re having so much fun!
The way I look at this is it will be really hard for the next few years, but what a payoff later! When you have your 3 children gather around dinner for Christmas! When you go on vacation together! When you just hang out in the evenings, talking! Priceless. You will forget about all the hardship then.
I decided to try getting pregnant until I turn 35 (I’m 34 now) and if it doesn’t happen, move on. Yes, I’m scared of the third pregnancy. Yes, I’m scared of having a new baby and not getting any sleep for another year. Yes, I’m scared of how I will take care of the other two when the baby comes. But when does my whining ever help me? I find that when I just suck it up and deal with things, I feel much better and stronger than when I drown myself in self-sorrow. I’m not sure if I should feel selfish about contemplating this at all?
I guess I feel that not getting pregnant now might be a relief temporarily, but a great loss long term.
Ultimately I do believe that I would never ever regret if I had a third child. But I might regret if I never even tried having him. So I guess there’s my answer
Sitting here eight months pregnant as I am and about as uncomfortable as I could possibly be I TOTALLY sympathize. Were brewing up baby3 here and I’m so incredibly glad that it’s almost over. My husband came home on R&R and left me with morning sickness ( now aint that love?! ) surprise surprise honey
we are so blessed – and I really always wanted three kids – but GEESH the work of bringing them into this world is something to be reckoned with. And still, nothing beats the feeling of them coming into this world screaming and pissed-cuz-its-chilly and feeling your heart about to POP because you just couldn’t love them more.
You already know you want a third, so it’s just a matter of waiting forbthe right moment. When the memory of thepain of regnancy dulls and you feel more ready. It’s funny how our brains slowly move from bloody he’ll I’m never going through that shit again!!! To oh my god babies are soooo damn cute gimme a hundred . For me it strted hapening around number two’s first birthday. So damn cute!!!!! I won’t have another because I feel our family is perfect as is and I have to avoid regnancy for five years anyways due to medical reasons, but the feeling of I WANT BABIES has definitely returned.
Umm, I think you have to sleep with your husband to get pregnant again. You’ll have to turn off the dvd, he’ll have to turn off the fan, and you both might have to make friends. WTF am I saying? There’s always the living room!
I say go for it! Henry would make a great middle child.
Seriously, you have a great heart. Listen to it, and do what you want. It will be fine.
I am in the middle of pregnancy #3, and the odd thing is, even though this wasnt a “planned” pregnancy, and my boys are 10 and 7, the thought of getting my tubes tied makes me want to cry. I always thought more than 2 or 3 kids was insane, but the thought of never being pregnant again makes me really sad. Maybe it’s because it looks like I’m having another boy, and I would really like a little girl. Maybe it’s because this is my hubby’s first child, and he is a great daddy. Or it could be that even though this has been my hardest pregnancy, I have my wonderful hubby helping me through it (I was single with both my boys)