When it comes to parenting, I’m pretty open minded and tolerant of parenting choices that differ from my own.
I don’t co-sleep, but I can understand why others do.
I don’t cloth diaper, but I can see why others do.
I made all of my own baby food, but I can understand why others choose to buy.
There are just a few decisions that I cannot understand, no matter how hard I try.
One of those is the decision of women who choose to feed their babies formula without even trying to nurse.
My heart breaks for those women who try to breastfeed and can’t for one reason or another. To know that they wanted nothing more than to nurse their babies but couldn’t, is gut wrenching.
These are not the women to whom I’m referring.
I stumbled across a thread on a message board recently from a woman who said she had no intention of nursing. At all.
She wasn’t even going to try it.
She said it was gross and that “they” make formula for a reason.
She said she wasn’t going to “ruin her boobs.”
I was sick. I couldn’t believe someone could be that selfish.
Since I read that, I have tried to reconcile it in my head…tried to make sense of it.
Nursing my children has been one of the highlights of my entire life. But, even if it hadn’t been an amazing experience, I would have done it anyway.
I truly believe that if you physically can breastfeed, you should.
So, if you didn’t nurse or would never nurse, I would love to understand that decision.
We do so many things for our children that aren’t easy…we do things that we don’t necessarily want to do. But we do them because it’s our job as parents to do what is best for our children.
I want to understand why anyone would deny their baby the best gift that they could give to them, even if for only six weeks. Even if for only those first few days after birth.
Something…anything…is better than nothing.
I honestly want to understand.
Read my follow-up to this post: Miscommunication: It happens to the best of us.
This mom wasn’t didn’t think much of breastfeeding — read her story and find out what changed her mind.