When I first started blogging, I made the mistake of telling people that didn’t particularly like or agree with me on many topics that I had started it. Eight months later, I was sorely regretting that. The same 4 or 5 people read my blog everyday and left me rude comments repeatedly, even when I deleted absolutely everything they had to say. (We tracked their IP addresses and ultimately blocked them completely.)
Now…the reason I mention that, is because, as I said in my introduction, I really love to discuss controversial topics in a fair and balanced way. And as you’ll find out eventually, I do have rather extreme views in a lot of areas. I’m all for natural medicine, natural birth, extended breastfeeding, anti-circumcision, and lots more. And it’s important for me to note: this is what works best for me.
I didn’t always feel this way. Before my first baby was born, I was totally thinking mainstream. I thought, “Oh, well…I’ll try for natural, but if I get an epi, so what. Cloth diapers? Gross! Breastfeeding? Yeah, I really want to, but just for a year.” and so on. (Oh, I’m huge into cloth diapers now…can’t stand disposables and never use them.)
It took time and research before I started to open up to new ways of thinking. And I think that the place we’ve landed is really great for us, and is right where we need to be. I’m so grateful that I was open to research and learning so that I could find my way to where I am.
Parenting is all about learning, and researching, and finding out what works for you as you grow.
That’s really part of why I blog (remember I love to teach?). I want to tell people how I’ve arrived where I have and share the new ideas with them. Maybe they’ll learn something that ends up working for them. Or maybe not. That’s okay.
But I think it’s crucial to be open to new viewpoints, open to research, and open to learning. We don’t have all the answers. We are all works in progress, doing the best we can day-to-day.
And, now, I just have to say this. While I’m sure all of you are lovely, mature adults, I know there are always a few out there who haven’t put on their big girl panties and who don’t respect others properly. When I do post on controversial subjects, I would love to entertain discussion! Absolutely love it, from all perspectives and viewpoints. You are welcome to disagree with me and tell all of us exactly why!
It is extremely important to be respectful while doing so. We are all doing our best as parents. And many of us are constantly seeking more knowledge, especially on controversial topics. But unfortunately, so many of those discussions go downhill really fast, as parents with strong opinions simply attack those who believe differently than they do. I will not ever entertain that kind of behavior here. Not ever.
We can all disagree politely and have a wonderful, respectful, and open discussion, which really furthers all our knowledge on any given topic! From that we will all learn. And we’ll all come away with a respect and appreciation for others who may choose differently, because we truly believe that everyone is doing the best they can for their families.
Do you enjoy learning, researching, and reasonable, respectful debates?
Top image by Ava Lowery