In the past week, superstar Khloe Kardashian revealed a couple fears about becoming pregnant, or having children with her husband Lamar Odom, the Lakers star basketball player. And it got me thinking. When I was pregnant with my first son, I was so jam packed full of fears about pregnancy and childbirth, it is no wonder I bought into every word that came out of my OB/GYN’s mouth at the time. I looked to my provider as a friend, or someone to get advice from when I should have been looking at friends, and family members for those words of encouragement.
I wanted to touch of some of the most common pregnancy and childbirth fears that I hear most often. From ruined vaginas to pain. Which seem to be the ones I hear about most often in passing conversation. Makes you wonder who I am talking to huh?
The first, and one of the most alarming I always hear is women opting for scheduled cesareans because they do not want to “ruin their vagina”.
Contrary to popular belief, giving birth vaginally is not going to kill your vagina. Some women I have spoken with have even discussed having better sex after birthing their children. For myself, I have had painful scarring and adhesions that were cause by two cesarean deliveries that have impacted me, and it has been a long road to helping get the problem corrected. So while it may be an idea for some women, or even proven experience, it is not the truth.
Second most common tends to be poop?
The fear of pooping during labor is nothing new and has been in the minds of women for thousands of years. Since going to the bathroom is something many of us consider to be deeply personal, it is certainly a fear that we are going to poop during the pushing phase of labor. What do I say? Don’t worry about it! Hospital staff have seen, and are going to see much worse than some poop. It is better than them seeing your insides right?
Third? Cord around the neck is going to seriously harm my baby during labor.
While there are situations that a cord around the neck can be an issue, it is estimated that nearly two-thirds of all babies will have the cord wrapped around their neck, leg, arm, body, or other positions we would typically think to be risky. When a medical professional handles these situations with skill, they pose no harm to your little one.
Fourth? Fear of a big baby from a late term ultrasound.
Ultrasounds have become so routine for pregnant women today that we have come to believe that they are not only safe, but incredibly accurate. If they weren’t they wouldn’t use them as much as they do…. right? Wrong! Studies show that late term ultrasounds for fetal measurements often are up to 2 full pounds or 25% inaccurate in either direction, and often cause panic where there is none. A good friend of mine was scared into an induction because she was told her daughter was going to be well over 10 pounds and it could become dangerous for her to give birth. When her little girl joined us she tipped the scales at a world record of 7 pounds 6 ounces. A real ten pounder alright!
I guess in the end, we shouldn’t be afraid of the things we typically cannot control, or the unknown. A simple google, or research can help to ease some of your fears surrounding pregnancy, and birth. The more educated you are, the better off you and your baby will be!