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Ramona Singer's 53 Year-Old Pregnancy Scare Takes Anti-Aging To New Heights

By ceridwen |

But is she ready for another baby?

On the season finale of Real Housewives Of New York last night, 53 year-old Ramoma Singer missed a period, gets swollen breasts and thinks she’s pregnant. When she tells her friend Sonya ‘the news,’ rather than a sober, “Come on honey, get real” response, she gets a bouncy, girlie OMG and the following startling line: “Do you know how many people are begging to have another baby right now in our clique?!!!”

Yeah, I bet. What says “young” like a pregnancy scare? Joan Rivers has a joke where she says– and I’m paraphrasing–”What you really need to do to be youthful, is have tampons spilling out of you purse.”  But no such cutting self-awareness here. No, on RHONY, the excitement about Ramona’s pregnancy news is drawn out in Blanche Dubois proportions, revealing, in it’s wake the one big glitch in our turn-back-the-age culture. You can dye the hair, plump the cheeks and labia and erase fine lines but there’s one thing that’s not on the menu at the youth bodega, and that’s pregnancy.

Still, we can pretend! Even Ramona’s adorable husband plays along with her fertility make-believe. “I don’t know if we’re ready,” she tells him, big Bambi eyes looking up at him. Wow, she’s not just trying to be a mature aged mom, she wants a teen pregnancy!

Look, I know some women over 50 can conceive and I’m pretty sure there’s some random 65 year-old who gave birth and made the news last year and everyone flipped out. And I know there are drugs that can help. But it’s rare. It’s hard enough to get pregnant at 40 or 45, let alone your mid-50s. Thank goodness Jill eventually points out that a woman missing her period at this age only means one thing: menopause.

GASP.

NO.

But wait. I’ve been reading up on menopause lately and I’ve been surprised to discover many perks of being relieved of the hormonal obligations of fertility. For one thing, your oxytocin levels go down which means you’re not as driven to care for others. Hence an incredible time for many women in their fifties when they pursue interests and work outside the realm of being helpful and nurturing. I think it’s Christiane Northrup who says, it’s the birth of you. Also, I’ve heard the hormones leading up to menopause can be so intense during ovulation as to require a good deal of attention. Who says we peak in our 30s? Look, I’m with Woody Allen, I’d rather not get old and die. I am not going to romanticize aging. But I do think that we have some pretty screwy ideas about a woman’s hormonal life, namely that all hormones basically suck except for the youthful ones that get you pregnant.

At the end of the show Ramona nervously takes a pregnancy test– because, really folks, is she ready??? We all wait, anxiously. Could she have done it? Just willed her ovaries back to the 90s? Is it possible? No, not this time. But let’s not despair. Let’s celebrate the mid-life rebirth of Ramona as she enters menopause. Surely, someone can throw the woman a cocktail party.

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Ceridwen Morris is a writer, mother, and certified childbirth educator. She is the author of several books and screenplays, including (Three Rivers; 2007). She serves on the board of The Childbirth Education Association of Metropolitan New York and teaches at Tribeca Parenting in New York City. Read bio and latest posts → Read Ceridwen's latest posts →

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8 thoughts on “Ramona Singer's 53 Year-Old Pregnancy Scare Takes Anti-Aging To New Heights

  1. Kari says:

    It could be a “change of life” baby! Women used to have them. You think you’re too old, entering menopause, get careless, and voila! get pregnant. Thats what happened back in the day when families would have a couple of kids close together (now in their teens), be in their mid to late 40′s and suddenly have a newborn. My dad was one. His brothers are 16 and 14 years old than him and his mom was 40 when she had him in 1944. It was quite the scandal in the neighborhood. Probably as big of a scandal as when she got married in 1927 and the baby was born 4 months later! GASP!

  2. im-in-tx says:

    There’s a big difference between 40 and 53. :/

  3. ceridwen says:

    Kari– Yeah, I noted it *could* happen, but is very rare at 53. Mostly, I’m interested in how this relatively glaring fact was not acknowledged by anyone but Jill. And how having a baby became another expression of their eternal youth. I had a baby a couple months before my 40th baby, so I definitely am not knocking older moms or doubting them. But at 40 you’re not on the cusp of menopause. Still, we’re told to keep up the contraception until around 53… so, you never know.

  4. Amanda says:

    My first thought upon seeing the promos for this episode wasthat it was probably menopause. How on Earth could this woman have thought of pregnancy before menopause at her age???

  5. Nay says:

    Ceridwen – Well, most people at 40 aren’t on the cusp of menopause – my family, hot flashes essentially start on the 40th birthday. My mom’s delighted. She hasn’t had a period in years.

  6. Someone retweeted your blog and I was *hoping* it was in response to the preggers scare on RHONY. You didn’t disappoint. Hilarious post and great read! Lol! Thanks for my Sunday morning laugh! :)

  7. Mara says:

    So what the heck should we do, if as older women find ourselves pregnant in perimenaupause? Abort? so we don’t offend your ageist sensibilities dear younger fillies or put up with your jeers and snide rude remarks? It can and does happen more than you think.

  8. Lola says:

    I know a woman who got pregnant and had a baby naturally older than that, and her fathers mother had him at 53. This before the IVF age.

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