The 25 Most Inappropriate Pregnancy QuestionsLauren Hartmann
The other day, on The Huffington Post, I read The World’s Most Inappropriate Pregnancy Questions. It was a great post and they were all true, but thing is… there were only six things on the list… six! I know I received more than six different inappropriate questions when I was pregnant myself!
I was sure I could come up with a more complete list, so I decided to poll readers and find out: “What’s the most inappropriate question someone ever asked you when you were pregnant?”
In addition to the questions, there were a ton of inappropriate (i.e. straight-up rude) comments people shared as well. It kind of blew my mind how clueless people can be. As I went through the list, I just kept shaking my head and thinking, Who would ask that? Apparently, a lot of people.
Were you ever asked any of these, or do you have any to add? Let’s all commiserate over awkward pregnancy questions!
Readers Share: Most Inappropriate Pregnancy Questions 1 of 26
Because being pregnant means people have right to be all up in your business, right? Ummm... wrong. Here are 25 totally awkward and inappropriate questions that readers have been asked. Some of these blow my mind.
Again? 2 of 26
Ummm...yep. And? If I want to have 20 kids a'la Michelle Duggar, that's my prerogative. Deal with it.
Multiples? 3 of 26
So many women said they got this question. I'm pretty sure the rule for this question should be that you can only ask it NEVER. It's never appropriate to ask a woman if she's having twins. Unless a woman tells you she's having multiples, you can probably assume there's just one kid in there. I even had one person tell me that they had someone argue with them about it! The person kept saying, "There's no way there's just one baby in there. You MUST be having twins." Some women just get big when they're pregnant... I was one of them!
So tiny! 4 of 26
On the opposite end of the spectrum, some women were asked inappropriate questions about gaining too little weight. Being a first time mom-to-be, you worry about everything. I totally remember wondering, all the time, if everything was still OK in there before I could feel any movement. I can't imagine how nerve-wracking it would've been had people been asking a questions like this all the time.
Sex ed 5 of 26
A friend's mom who had six children said she got this on more than one occasion. Pretty sure after getting knocked up six times she's pretty familiar with how it happens, so basically the question only serves to be obnoxious. Not everyone only wants 2.5 kids.
Teen mom? 6 of 26
Some women just look young, but even if they are actually young, what business is it to anyone else? No one is ever truly, 100% ready to have a baby--even at 40. You just do it. So, the answer is, Yes. I am pregnant, therefore old enough to have a baby.
Milk machine 7 of 26
I don't even know where to start with this one. Who in the world would ever ask such an awkward question?!
Home birth scare tactics 8 of 26
Many women I know who had home births received this question. I also received this question myself since I had my daughter at an out-of-hospital birthing center. News flash people: women who choose to birth outside of a hospital setting don't make the choice lightly. We know the risks and don't need you to remind us of them every 10 seconds. Also, babies die at hospitals too. Just sayin'.
Relationship status 9 of 26
First of all, who says "baby daddy"? And secondly, it's none of anyone's business and totally irrelevant. If you are a stranger, you don't get to be privy to my relationship details.
Guess date 10 of 26
I got this one myself. People would be like, "Oh wow! I bet you're due any day now! You look ready to pop!" Actually, I have two more months to go, but thanks for reminding me that I look like a beached whale right now. I'm going to go drown my sorrows in some Oreos right now.
Getting personal 11 of 26
Would you ask an adult male about his circumcision status? No way. Why? Because it's inappropriate. Guess what? It's inappropriate to ask a mother-to-be about her unborn son's penis, too.
Try your best 12 of 26
Does it really matter if a mom was "trying" to get pregnant or not? This one isn't the most inappropriate of the bunch, but still obnoxious when random people ask.
Next we can talk about religion and politics 13 of 26
Ummm... can I just have the thing first and then we'll decide? I suppose you'd like to know what my religious background and political affiliation are now, too? Vaccines are no one's business except the person getting or not getting them (or the parent of the child getting or not getting them).
Double whammy 14 of 26
Maybe I want to have a baker's dozen! Why is that any of your business and why assume?
Gender hang ups 15 of 26
Not everyone shares the dream of having the nuclear family of one boy and one girl and not everyone feels like life would be incomplete if they never had a little girl or never had a little boy. I personally would be thrilled with two girls. Just because someone is having a baby of the same gender as their first child, doesn't necessarily mean they will feel the need to "keep trying" for the opposite. To assume so is just silly.
What does that even mean? 16 of 26
A lot of twin mamas mentioned this question. What does that even mean? Are these twins "natural"? As opposed to what? Aliens? People are obviously referring to whether or not the twins were a result of fertility treatments, but even so that is no one's business but the parents.
Passive-aggressive 17 of 26
Basically, this is a sweet way of saying a mom is too young to be having a baby. And really, would anyone expect a mom-to-be to say "No. I think it's going to be miserable."? No. So, it's a stupid question. People have babies when they have them... young, old, in between. It's all perfectly normal.
To do list 18 of 26
Having a child isn't a death sentence. Yes, life does change, but it doesn't mean you are housebound for the next 18 years. Some of my most fun adventures have been ones we've experienced with our daughter!
Like rabbits 19 of 26
Pretty much just a nice way (OK, a rude way) of saying you think a person has too many kids. Not OK.
Ready or not… 20 of 26
No one is ready. You get ready when the baby is here and you just figure it out. Even the parents who read all the books and took all the classes find themselves clueless at times. Parenting is no joke. You just learn as you go.
Copping a feel 21 of 26
The answer to this questions is always (ALWAYS) a firm no, so don't even bother asking. If I don't share blood with you or we aren't super close friends you probably shouldn't come anywhere near my belly... and even then it's questionable.
It’s a disability, right? 22 of 26
People seriously treat pregnant women like they're disabled. I got this question a lot when I was pregnant. Working out, carrying a duffel bag, etc. Guess what, people? A pregnant woman knows her body and her limitations. If we need help, we'll be sure to ask. Otherwise, step off.
Food police 23 of 26
People worry about what pregnant women eat like it's their job. I'm pretty sure most pregnant women know the "rules" and if they're breaking those rules, it's their choice. Now excuse me while I go eat my deli meat sandwich with unpasteurized cheese and a drizzle of raw honey... oh, and a glass of wine on the side!
Old wives tales 24 of 26
There's an old wives tale that if you look "ugly" during your pregnancy (i.e. you have dull hair, breakouts, and just don't look glowing overall), you're going to have a girl because the little girl you're growing is "stealing" your beauty. My great grandmother told my mom this when she was pregnant with me. My mom took it in stride, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been so patient.
A little boot knockin’ 25 of 26
Super awkward. Basically don't ask a woman about her sex life ever unless we're best friends... pregnant or not.
Basically you’re fat 26 of 26
As if pregnant women didn't already feel self-conscious enough about their changing bodies, they also have to field awesome questions like this, which are basically insults under the guise of concern or interest. This isn't Hollywood, people, and plenty of women gain more than 20 pounds during their pregnancy and we don't all bounce back immediately. That's OK. Whenever a woman is ready to jump back in the workout game that's great, but that is her choice. So unless you're my personal trainer, back off.
Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland Oregon. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.
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