Since I began blogging in 2007, my husband and I have had some disagreements about what is and is not appropriate to share on the internet. His name remains a relatively well kept secret, our last name is a pretty poorly kept secret and my specific profession is not known by many.
We keep a lot more secrets than many of my blogging peers and for the most part, I’m okay with all of this. I’ll admit that I need to give my husband a better fake name, because when you read my blog he sounds like a clown.
Which I guess isn’t always super far from the truth.
But anyway, one thing we cannot seem to agree about is whether to share the name of the baby on the internet. My husband has no issue with me posting pictures of the baby once he’s here (and yes, there will be MANY pictures), but he doesn’t want people to know the baby’s name. And I just cannot understand this.
We’re pretty traditional when it comes to names, so it’s extremely unlikely that the kid’s name will be so unique that he will be googleable by his first name only. In fact, if we go with the name we’re thinking about right now, he’ll have a relatively common name and our last name isn’t exactly unique either.
I feel like there is so much more danger in sharing pictures than in sharing names, not that I want to give him any more ideas, but it just seems like the name is the least problematic thing to share.
Of course I want to protect my child. I do not intend to write stories that will humiliate him in the future, I do not intend to be a crazy over-sharer. I know that there are boundaries and I fully plan to maintain them, but is name sharing really breaking them? I just want to share little bits of our lives with my friends and family (and random strangers who found their way here and to my blog) and to me, it’s hard to write genuinely about any experience when you have to use a pseudonym. I struggle with using one for my husband, I really hate the idea of doing it for my son too.
I realize that there are ways to write with pseudonyms that are less cheesy- just use another name and pretend it’s the baby’s name. Or use the middle name. But still, it just feels like an unnecessary secret to keep and I’m kind of proud of our baby’s name, or what it will probably be. It’s not that I don’t want to protect my child, that is one of the most important things in the world to me, but using his first name on the internet seems like one of the least dangerous things I could possibly do.
So help me here, which one of us is being more unreasonable? Do you think sharing a baby’s name on the internet is unsafe?