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So Apparently I’m a Bad Mother

By Katie |

This past weekend I tweeted about a mishap at McDonald’s. It’s a very long story that doesn’t really merit time now, but basically there was one car in front of me and it took that woman twenty two minutes to order, pay and get her food. And I was behind her, starving. Frankly, the fact that I didn’t ram her car is a testament to my barely intact sanity. And also the fact that she had kids in the back that were not seat belted in. Don’t even get me started.

Anyways, I know that in sharing things on the internet I open myself up to criticism and advice from strangers, but I was actually surprised when I got an email later that day. The email basically said that in eating McDonald’s I was doing a grave disservice to my child. She said that not only am I what I eat, but my baby is now too. And that everything I ate was influencing my child and that I should know better than to eat stuff like that.

I was taken aback. A simple rant on twitter had suddenly landed me firmly in bad mother territory. I am apparently the bad mother of a 9 week old fetus. That has to be a new record.

Except, that I don’t think she’s right.

Obviously subsisting solely on fast food would be bad for both mother and child. In fact, subsisting solely on anything seems like a pretty bad idea. However, I hardly think I’m ruining my child because I had a hamburger and a small order of fries from a fast food establishment. In my defense I hadn’t even planned to pick up fast food that day, but I got stuck at something for longer than planned, was still 30 minutes from home and famished. And while that reads like an excuse, and maybe it is, it is not an apology. I ate Taco Bell two weeks ago and I’m not sorry for that either.

At this stage of pregnancy, it’s about survival. On any given day, the list of foods that sound completely inedible is usually 10 times longer than the list of foods I think I can stomach. It is really all I can do to eat anything at all, so if a hamburger and french fries sound edible then they will be eaten. And they will be enjoyed.

I will not feel badly for eating something that isn’t made solely of fruits, vegetables and lean proteins. I will not be guilted by other people because I ate fast food while pregnant. I know this will horrify some of you, but chances are this baby will someday also taste fast food. I know. I’m pretty much sealing the bad mother deal, but the thing is that fast food, in moderation, isn’t the end of the world. And it’s certainly not worth berating a total stranger over.

I think this experience is really my first step to being a good mother. I’m learning balance. I’m learning that what is right for some women and their families is not necessarily what I believe to be right.

And notably I’m learning that I’m going to have to grow some thicker skin.

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66 thoughts on “So Apparently I’m a Bad Mother

  1. Suebob says:

    Dang, the judgeyness starts early these days, doesn’t it? Can’t they at least wait til the baby emerges from your womb like in the good old days?

  2. Mr Lady says:

    Welcome to the club! Took you long enough….

    My pregnancy craving with my daughter was Good Times burgers, which is the colorado equivalent of In N’ Out. I had one every single freaking week of my entire pregnancy, and my six year old has been reading for two years.

    Funny story: My mother in law, a billion years ago, was at work when a horrible feeling washed over her. She felt so ill, so suddenly, that she left work to go to the ER. THAT sick. However, home was closer, so she went there first, in hopes that a shower and rest would help her. While she laid on the couch, she had a sudden, uncontrollable urge for a Big Mac. It was such a strong craving that she got her very sick butt up and went to McD’s. She ate the Big Mac and felt completely fine after it. Like, went back to work fine.

    Anyway, eat whatever the f* you want, Katie. Everything in moderation, that’s the sailor’s way.

  3. pgoodness says:

    Wow, people have no boundaries these days, do they?!

    When I was pregnant with my first, I was so sick that all I could keep down for a LONG time was Jif Peanut Butter and Hi-C Orange. With my second, I NEEDED Burger King. My kids are JUST FINE.

    Of course, I’m fairly lenient with whole bad mom thing. :)

  4. Meghan Gesswein says:

    Why do u h8 yur babee?

    In all seriousness, short of snorting crack as a midnight snack, do what is right for you, and forget what anyone else thinks.

    The best day of my last pregnancy was the day that my Doctor told me I needed to gain more weight and gave me his endorsement to take on a Ben and Jerry’s UnDiet. Healthy by normal standards? Not necessarily. But pregnancy sometimes calls for a new set of rules.

  5. Jbrucker says:

    I would never judge you for eating fast food while pregnant. My 9 month old is almost completely made from pad thai that I consumed weekly (and sometimes more) while pregnant with her. I just couldn’t help myself. Yes, I ate a balanced diet, but honestly, most of the time that was all I wanted to eat. So eat your hamburger, and whomever blasted you for it is probably just REALLY SUPER HUNGRY from denying herself anything satisfying while pregnant.

  6. Kate says:

    To be fair I think McD’s is the worst thing in the world and is the downfall of America…but I totally ate a double cheeseburger meal a couple of times when I was pg and I only stopped feeding my daughter Chik-Fil-A a couple of weeks ago when I figured out they were anti-gay just about everything. Sometimes you need fast food…as long as it’s not 3 meals a day, you’re still a better mother than a crack head. Cheers.

  7. Megan says:

    I am living this right now. I am also 9 weeks pregnant, and I haven’t touched a vegetable in more than three weeks. And I’ve eaten more fast food in those three weeks than I had in the past year. But, I know once I’m out of the hell of morning sickness, I will be able to eat normally again. And, yeah, “normal” includes the occasional fast food. People need to mind their own damn business and realize that some of us live in the real world. And that McDonald’s french fries are other-worldly good. Just ask my daughter!

  8. Voice of Reason says:

    I could barely eat during either of my pregnancies – for the first 17 weeks it was constant low level nausea and for the last 17 weeks it was horrendous heartburn.
    /
    I’m just happy to hear you’ve got an appetite. I think if you blogged about shooting tequila in a smoky bar, people might be able to play the ‘bad mother’ card, but an occasional McDonalds drive through is just fine.

  9. Kathy says:

    Gee, my mom told me “with every child a little bit of guilt is born” (sure it’s a quote, just don’t know who) but apparently that person believes in starting early. Yuck. Thick skin. Yes, to go along with those hormonal swings. It’ll be great fun! Hang in there.

  10. jenbshaw says:

    ::claps::

    Realizing that YOU get to make YOUR parenting decisions is so important. You get an A+ in “good mother 101″ from me for what that’s worth.

  11. Jbj says:

    Amen! I swear, people need to understand that the reason we have 99% of these stupid pressures and thus stress is that others are so insecure in their own choices that they thrust it onto others through judgment. Just be happy with your own life and let me lead mine. And yes, that is a life with fast food fries cause otherwise life is not worth living for me.

  12. Amanda says:

    This pregnancy I have been craving nothing but McDonald’s french fries!! I can’t help it, if I could then it wouldn’t be a craving! Between my last pregnancy and this one I have learned that the only opinions that matter are mine and my husband and to an extent my doctor. I heard a funny saying yesterday… opinions are like a$$ holes, everyone has one!

  13. Rene says:

    Good for you! Motherhood would be so much easier if people would parent for the people who mattered, those inside their own homes! And yes, I WILL have fries with that!

  14. Mallory says:

    Wow thats really the craziest thing ive ever heard! My daughter is almost 8months old. All i ate while preg with her was fastfood! People dont realize if they have never been preg that you are eating for two.

  15. Shenna says:

    I was so sick while pregnant for my twins that any food I could choke down I ate. A few times it was not so healthy food, and you know what?? They are 2 now and just fine lol. I say go for it. I also say women should support each other, encourage each other, and simply accept each other a lot more.

  16. Rachel says:

    I am only jealous….all fast food made me sicker than a dog while pregnant. There is nothing wrong w/ once and a while. And they can do what ever they want when they are pregnant…but when your blood sugar crashes…you must answer. As an adult it is not normal to have little snacks with you. I hope you enjoyed every little bite!

  17. karla says:

    you are right its about survival. i had my first baby last dec and wow pregnancy knocked me on my ass. my motto from the start was, its about survival and in the end health baby healthy momma. I was so sick in the beginning all i ate was waffles, watermelon and water. towards the end i when i wanted to eat more i couldnt because of the heartburn. in the beginning i tried to give up caffiene, yah that lasted about 2 days! i would tell people (including my husband and mom) that would say things about it that it could be worse, it could be crack. by the end everyone knew that if they said something about basically anything i was doing my response was “suck it” 10 mos later my baby boy is happy, healthy and thankfully i am back to my normal crazy self, the way i like it.

  18. Laura says:

    In both my pregnancies, I had awful all day nausea, and sometimes the only food I could stomach was a cheeseburger and small fries from McD’s. Weird, but it worked, and was better than starving myself and my unborn children. There is nothing wrong with anything in moderation and that judgmental person just needs to get a life!

  19. Jenny @ I'm a full-time mummy says:

    Ehem… I had McDonalds on average 3 times a week and EACH time I will have 2 sets of their value meals (meaning 2 soft drinks, 2 burgers, 2 fries, and add on a sundae yumyumss!!) and just 4 hrs before delivering my 1st child, I had McDonalds before going to hospital…
    My point is: If you want to eat, just eat!!!!

  20. Amy says:

    My ob-gyn personally ok’d eating french fries if they sounded good to me. She also suggested potato chips first thing in the morning to help with nausea. My morning sickness was so horrendous that anything that came near frying oil was out (too strong of a smell) but if its one of the few things you can eat and keep down during that first trimester, go for it.

  21. Maria says:

    For the first 4 months of my pregnancy with my son, I couldn’t stomach a singe fruit or veggie, and I sincerely love fruit and veggies. Surprisingly, I could handle fast food with no problem. At my 4 1/2 month mark I wanted nothing but watermelon and pineapple. Thankfully, today my son LOVES fruit over anything else. I had the exact opposite with my daughter, NO fried foods during the entire pregnancy. The thing is this, you eat what you can, especially if you’re one of the poor souls who has months of “morning” sickness. The person who sent you that nasty-gram should be ashamed of themselves for telling a grown woman how to eat. Opinions are like @ssholes, just because you have one, doesn’t mean you people care.

  22. Stephanie Kemp says:

    Big Brother telling you how to live every second of your life is the political agenda of Obama and his wife including telling you what to eat while eating “not healthy” under their own definiton but they are “special.” I am praying that hamburgers and chocolate won’t experience a “prohibition ” and we have Speak- easy Mickey D’s. Do what makes you happy and do not listen to clowns.Avoid meth and heroin during your pregnancy – but do not worry about some fool growling at you to not have fast food. Personally I barfed for 5 months when pregnant with my second child ( three months on first) so they survive what is going on with the Mom. She is 22, graduated Dean’s list and teaching kindergarten. However my one craving was milk and I could drink several glasses at one sitting and both of my kids are allergic to milk but they have really strong bones!My son graduated Magna cum Laude at UT Austin and is first in his class in seminary at 25.LOL

  23. Maria says:

    Oops, darn paste button… I meant *everyone has one, some are stinkier than others!

  24. Jessica S says:

    I ate so incredibly healthy my first 2 trimesters that by the time I hit my third all
    I could think about were double cheeseburgers, cokes, and german chocolate cake! I definitely indulged weekly. We are typically an all organic family, but when those pregnancy hormones are raging… the prego wants what it wants!

  25. Joy says:

    Well darn you if that’s the worst thing you’ve done pregnant. I am 20 weeks pregnant now, but when I was about three weeks pregnant (and didn’t know I was pregnant yet), I was at an event where I had alcohol (2 drinks, I rarely drink in the first place). Now that people who were in attendance realize I was pregnant then, they give me the nastiest judgemental looks and make sure to mention “so you were pregnant then”. I have to admittedly say “yes, but I had no idea I was pregnant”, seriously, I am the most cautious mother when I’m pregnant. This is my fourth child and we eat all natural MOST of the time, but even I know sometimes, between working, kids and just life, you gotta take some shortcuts. Next time just ask yourself what my Mother always said to me “Do they pay your bills, then why would you care?”

  26. Ashley says:

    You seem to be handling it way better than I would have at nine weeks. I had insane hunger in my first trimester, and if someone had said this to me, I don’t know that I could be held responsible for my actions afterward. Unless this person plans to buy your groceries and cook your meals for you for the next 30-odd weeks, they can take their opinions and shove them.

  27. Susie Taylor says:

    I used to be VERY judgmental when I was pg. It wasn’t about food so much since I was eating my husbands left-overs it was more about c sections. I would look down my nose at all my friend’s choosing to get c sections until I had an emergency C section…welcome to motherhood!!

    GO ENJOY YOUR BURGER BABY….and congrats on your new adventure..

  28. Lorette Lavine says:

    How sad that we are so judgmental these days…blogging about your experiences does require some thicker skin…I hope that does not have an effect on your baby…just kidding. good luck and keep sharing!

  29. carla says:

    people will always want something to complain about nowadays. if it isnt one thing than its another.ppl need to mind their own business .

  30. Amber says:

    Yesterday I ate a whole nachos bell grande by myself..in abt 7 mins..and I’m 7.5 months pregnant. Needless to say, people are morons. Everything in moderation is the key.

  31. bonnie says:

    hahaha i eat fast food quite often simply because it is available…. it doesnt make you a bad mother…. yea maybe its not the healthiest choice but for me it was what i could get fast easy and cheap…. i am in the process of moving so i didnt have time nor the patience to stop cook a full meal and then clean up after wards…. plus im 36 weeks and 2 days pregnant…. i just want to be able to eat a relatively peaceful and easy meal….. people are hypocrites these days anyways

  32. silvia rivier arzapala says:

    I say you are right with what you think. You sound like you’re gonna’ be a great mother.

  33. Cam says:

    Well, put me in that category too then. I’m 12 weeks and have lost 7 lbs already because I’m so sick. There is a McD’s less than 5 minutes from my home and around 9pm each night, I can finally eat. And I eat at McD’s! The irony, my background is in Sociology and I’ve written tons of papers on how horrible fast food is for you. Trust me when I say I will never judge again!

  34. Beth Anne says:

    I swear that my child is 25% my DNA, 25% my husband’s DNA, & 50% Bojangles french fries.

  35. Laurie says:

    It’s your life and your child. Eat at Mcdonalds just make responsible choices for the health of the baby and you, like dont do it 365 days in a row…lol. seriously though who eats healthy ALL the time?

  36. Trina says:

    It never ceases to amaze me the amount of harsh judgment a person can hand out to a random stranger and live with themselves because they honestly believe they are doing “good”. If you were at a bar and downing margaritas then I can understand harsh judgment….but fastfood? Really??? WOW! I do NOT think the downfall of America rests on the shoulders of McDonalds and I also don’t think the downfall of your motherhood does either. Unless of course you are the mother who sues McDonald’s for making her kid fat without accepting that your kid is fat because you chose to consistently feed them McDonalds….then I think you and your unborn fetus should be just fine. My kids have had McDonald’s and they love it. Do we eat it routinely? No. Good luck to you….I think you are handling it just fine. Kudos to you for standing up for yourself!

  37. Sandra Welch says:

    So, these self proclaimed judges of what is right for you and the child you are carrying, would have gotten their tongues ripped out if they had gotten between me and my “Fat Boy’s” triple split sundaes when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter. A daily event for me: I became so known at the Fat Boys in West Columbia, that I didn’t order through the to go window, I just waved and they did the rest. It was easier than saying, “I’d like a triple split sundae, in a tall cup, not a boat. Make it with out the pineapple, sub extra walnut sauce instead. Two scoops of strawberry, no chocolate. And keep the raspberry sauce. But add an extra scoop of hot fudge, but put in on the bottom.” You know how particular pregnant women can be, and besides has anyone heard of the placenta and it’s activity while one is carrying a child?

  38. Siobhan says:

    I’m with you ladies! Currently 15 weeks and had McDonald’s for dinner last night. I even fed it to my 5 year old (*gasp* the horror!). There is nothing wrong with it as an occasional food. Plus I was secretly hoping we’d win a million dollars, haha!

  39. Shantel says:

    When I was pregnant with my son 4 years ago, I had an OBSESSION with Taco Bell bean and cheese burritos. I would literally eat one at least 3 days a week for the first half of my pregnancy. It was the only fast food I could stomach (I love french fries, but while I was pregnant, I couldn’t stand the smell of them, so I avoided any fast food place that served french fries). Eating Taco Bell burritos didn’t cause me to gain an excessive amount of weight and there was absolutely no harm to my child. Today, one of Brady’s favorite foods is a burrito :)
    Don’t listen to what anyone has to say. You have to eat what you can tolerate so your baby gets food. As long as your doctor has no worries, I wouldn’t sweat it. Enjoy!

  40. Kathryn says:

    My child and I lived off of nothing but corndogs for the first 3 months of my pregnancy and it didn’t affect her at all. Not to mention before I found out I was pregnant I rode a mechanic bull and consumed alcohol at least once a week. I think if someone had told me I couldn’t eat a corndog (or anything for that matter) while I was pregnant, they would have heard a few choice words. Eat what you want :)

  41. danielle says:

    ok i am 36 wks and 4 days and let me tell you there is no shame in wanting something fatty greasy but yet oh so amazing. whats it any of her buisness what you eat its not her child inside of you so its none of her buisness.. ill be honest im a smoker and my doctor knows about it so when people say something to me about being a smoker and pregnant i ask them if they had alcohol in there pregnancy and alot of them say yes. atleast i can say that i have not had a drop of alcohol with any of my pregnancy. if yuo want a cigarette or fast food thats between you and no one else. thats jus my opinion

  42. Mom of 3 Girls says:

    The nerve of some people these days!! You do what is right for you and that baby!! I ate Taco Bell with my first everyday for lunch until I had her. My 2nd one was the same way, and my last was Burger King and Wendys. They are perfectly fine!! Straight A students and active kids! Dont let them get to you! You and only you knows what your body needs and espically with a growing baby you need to eat.. Ok so is it bad for a mom to get a midnight craving for a pint of ice cream or a big fat steak and cheese smothered burrito? I think not. WHATS THE DIFFERENCE??

  43. Kayla says:

    Your not a bad mother! Who ever took it upon themseslf to blast you you eating a freaking hamburger and fries is just retarded. Granted md isn’t the best of the fast food chains but for goodness sake, it’s not going to kill you or harm the baby. Your pregnant and need to eat to keep the baby healthy. Would they rather have had you pass out while driving because of low blood sugar? You and the baby could have gotten seriously hurt if that happened. I have three children and quite frankly I’m surprised they all aren’t half composed of sweet and sour chicken with hot and sour soup for blood. Don’t let someone else’s negativity bring you down. Your growing a beautiful new life inside you, a life that you created and have a bond to always love and protect. That person wants to make you feel bad because you don’t fit their description of “perfect” and i say to Heck with them. You keep doing what your doing and before you know it you’ll have a happy healthy baby in your arms and the world can suck it. You’ve to to do what’s right for you and your baby, don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise

  44. bwsf says:

    I ate a lot of fast food and junk food when I was pregnant. Stuff my non-pregnant self wouldn’t touch. But, I was CRAVING it soo badly, I could hardly help myself. My son is a happy, healthy, well-adjusted 3 year old. Why anyone thinks they have the right to say things like that to anyone is beyond me.

  45. Tasha says:

    Honestly do what feels right! I have three children and figured out really fast everyone has their own opinion. My two oldest children eat very well and they eat very balanced meal and I use fast food and desserts as rewards. And believe me there are a lot of people who feel my children need a cookie more often than twice a month….and I am sure if I let my children eat whatever they wanted I would upset someone then too.

  46. Skyler Hastings says:

    Seriously? Everything in moderation. When I was pregnant with my second I had these crazy cravings for pizza. Domino’s was my best friend for my entire pregnancy. At 37 weeks I had a healthy 8lb 19.5 inch baby boy. Seriously, as long as you aren’t only eating fast food or chugging a bottle of whiskey to go to sleep then I’m sure your little one will be fine. :)

  47. Julia says:

    If your baby is a cheeseburger because you ate one in the first tri, mine is a McDonalds Breakfast burrito.

    It’s your baby, your body, your choice. Eat away, be conscious of your health, and spluge every once and a while.

  48. Olivia says:

    Shame on whoever scolded you!! I ate it a few times while I was pregnant and my child is just fine! People are so uptight these days and are always looking for a cause!!!

  49. Amber says:

    Thats so stupid.I crave burger king atleast once a week.This is my 3rd pregnancy i’m 16 weeks now.With my 1st baby i ate mcdonalds all the time.My son was 9 pounds 22 1/2 inches long.Now he is almost 8 and only eats fruits and veggies.with my 2nd i ate wendys all the time.My son is almost three and again really olny likes fruits and veggies and he was also 9 pounds 19inches.So who ever wrote that is stupid and does not know what they are talking about.You are a great mom!

  50. zannadoo says:

    Some people are just a little to militant about being health conscious and the newly reformed are usually the worst. I seriously doubt the occasional cheeseburger and fries is going to do your little stowaway any permanent damage. My first I craved Bugles and Butterfinger Blizzards from DQ. My second was red meat. Lots of it! My kids are healthy, smart, happy, well adjusted…they have great teeth and hair….totally fine.

  51. Mary B. says:

    We often joke that we should name our baby Pop Tart Big Mac Koolaid, because seriously? You don’t come between a pregnant woman and her cravings. Especially during the first trimester. There were times when all I could eat was soft pretzels, passion tea lemonade, and chicken fingers. I’m sure baby is going to come out just fine. People need to BACK OFF!

  52. Jennifer says:

    I think that either this person has never been pregnant or is just a real stick in the mud. I have three children and with every single one I lost weight during the first three or four months. I was told to make sure I ate healthy but also to indulge on those extra calories. Like others have said it is fine to have what ever you are craving just don’t go overboard and gain 100 pounds you’ll be kicking yourself later. With my second I wanted pizza all the time everyday at work I would get breakfast bagel, bacon & scrambled eggs and when that coffee truck came about an hour and a half later I was out there getting a slice of pizza. With my third son I wanted sauce all the time pasta and pizza it was. Eat what you want this is one time you can gain some weight and not feel bad about it.

  53. Laura says:

    That’s funny considering what’s going on with cantaloupe these days. Food is a very personal choice — pregnant or not.

  54. Shauna says:

    Personally I think it is nobody’s business what you eat, pregnant or not! When my mom was pregnant with my little sister, she had such horrible nausea that she could only manage to choke down a plain baked potato every other day for the first 3-4 months!! And her doctor was aware of it and encouraged her to eat whatever she could manage. I think when you are at the nausea point, to where 99% of food sounds too gross to stomach, you should find something that sounds good and eat it, whether is is veggies, fruits, ice cream, fast food, whatever!! You know what is right for you and your baby, even if occasionally it is fast food! Don’t listen to the downers!!

  55. VDog says:

    I could barley eat while pregnant, but damn if a gordita & sour cherry limeade from taco bell didn’t make me feel better. (It did.)

    Welcome to motherhood! Isn’t it wonderful?!?!?

  56. Rachael says:

    Don’t sweat it. This is my first baby, and I am sure I am doing it all wrong. I will join your club. I eat a McChicken for lunch practically every day. I enjoy them and its on the way to work. I personally don’t have time to sit down and make a lunch in the morning. So, too bad to that person who scolded you, but its your body, your baby!

  57. Taz says:

    a lot of people seem to really enjoy making pregnant people and mothers feel awful for some reason! in fact a lot of the posts and comments on this website can often have that effect on me! i think that as long as you take prenatal vitamins eat whatever you can manage to keep down! i didn’t eat a single veggie for my whole first trimester- all i could handle was crackers, mashed potatoes, the bland starchy stuff. this week has been all about apple pie. i don’t feel bad about any of it. i haven’t smoked or drank alcohol or eaten deli meat or raw fish so i’m pretty proud of myself!

  58. Raiselle Jorge says:

    My ob-gyn told me to eat whatever I can kept down, even if it was fries with Coca Cola, so that’s what I did. My morning sickness was an all day sickness that lasted 6 months, so everything I could keep in my stomach was just fine. My baby is now 6 months old and he is very healthy, so don’t care what other people may think or do, follow your instincts and everything will be fine,

  59. Jasmine says:

    i dont think your wrong,you need to eat at that point my doc told me to eat whatever i could stomach i had severe hyperemesis.even if you dont have hyperemesis you have regular nausea its more of a deservice to your child to not eat than have an occasional fast food meal…CARRY ON MOMMA,ITS YOUR BABY YOU KNOW WHATS BEST,..XO

  60. Jessica says:

    Wow. I just had my baby girl yesterday at 5:08 PM. She weighed 6lb. 6oz and was 17 3/4 in. long.

    When I learned I was pregnant with her, I was training to be a figure competitor. I lived off of whole grains, lean proteins, good fats, and fibrous veggies.

    Despite my uber-clean diet, I did allow myself two naughty meals a week, which sometimes involved fast food, or something of the chocolatey variety.

    When I became pregnant, my diet was no different, save my increase in calories. I still ate clean (for the most part), and had my 2 cheat meals per week.

    Until the last month or so, where I pretty much decided I wanted food of any type, all the time, because I was starving no matter what or how much of what I ate.

    Did I eat clean all the time at this point? No.

    Did I eat s***ty food the whole time? No.

    I ate a variety of different foods, kept myself healthy AND happy, and my baby came out healthy and happy as well.

    - J.U.

  61. Megan says:

    With my first(boy) I had really bad morning sickness and most of the time the only food I could keep down was potato chips and gatorade. Plain water made me puke throughout that entire pregnancy. With my second(girl), I was fine as long as I ate lots of protein and kept my blood sugar up. The first trimester was the worst. I was living off of bacon for breakfast and snackinig on slim jim’s all day. I was constantly munching on candy to keep my blood sugar up. I only gained 12 pounds. Eat what you want and what your stomach can handle.

  62. shay says:

    Just because you had one burger or whatever dose not make you a bad mother…..eating it ALL the time would and i only say that because fast food is not really food…..i looked into how all that stuff is made and it’s pretty disgusting to be honest but if you only have it every once and a great while it’s not the end of the world. people need to stfu and worry about there own kids…now having had my son a little over a year ago i find that i get judged but people who have zero idea what it means to be a good parent. My son dose nothing but eat all day (and is not over weight he’s just tall and dose not stop running around all day) and i was in the store and he was in the shopping cart munching…surprise…. and i said “you keep eating like a little piggy your gonna pop” in that cutesy mom voice….and i hear this lady talking to me telling me how i’m gonna mess up my kids self esteem….i turn to find a wlarus wearing pants telling me this….i was like what? really?! maybe someone should have told you to put down the fork.

  63. Janice says:

    Well then I am defiantly a bad mother. I craved Taco Bell and Whattaburger with my oldest who is now 13. My second I could barely eat anything but put shrimp in front of me it was on. My third I craved beets and ate Imo’s pizza. My last little bundle of joy. I ate everything that I ate when I was pregnant with the other 3 and all the girls are healthy and have healthy appetites ( the heaviest of all four was my oldest at 7lbs and 6oz and was 21 inches long). So, eat what you can stomach and of course follow the (WIC Women, Infant, and Children) foods but, tell the world to mind there own business. No MOTHER is perfect and those who pretend to be have issues.

  64. Emily Boreing says:

    tell that lady to shove it!! She probably has never been pregant herself or she never would of said that! When I was preggers with my youngest I had morning sickness so severe I was in the hospital more than I was at home because I was literally getting so sick from not being able to process food. At one point my dr told me I dont care what you eat as long as you are able to process it and keep it down go for it. At that time I was able to drink Gatorade, coke, and eat canned pears or peaches (not fresh or frozen) and later my dr told me it was probally the corn syrup that was helping me. so I said its probally not good for the baby. do you know what the dr said. Durning the first trimester its all about calories so as long as im eating full calories not low cal im fine because in that first trimester the baby needs calories more than anything he said if im only able to scarf down micky ds than thats what i need to eat! So a actual dr who graduated from medical school (where did this b-oitch graduate from???) said eat what you can keep down its the second 2 trimesters that counts for getting the nutrients. I also LOVE how people do blogs what not just to vent now (everyone needs an outlet to vent to stay sane) and now everyone is so quick to judge and put people down for venting WTF??? let people vent and keep your trap shut and quit judging its so aggravating I was venting about something one time and had a sister in law and brother in law jumping down my throat telling me to quit whinning ummm so dont read my blog and next time something upsets you i dont want to hear it dont come complaining to me bc apparently im not allowed to vent. people seriously need a reality check ( oh and maybe it was just me but ever since I was preggers – I literally cant stand people now -im not preggers anymore but im still aggravated with people dont know if thats just me or if its something most preggers experience?) anywho im done complaing now so please tell that lady to go jump off a bridge and to leave you alone on what you eat!

  65. Dawn says:

    Oh crap! You mean I am a bad mom because I ate a burger last week. Oh great! Guess it’s horrible that I am nursing as well as being 10 weeks pregnant. Does that make me double bad?
    LOL NO!!!!!!!!!!!
    Whoever said that to you needs to get slapped. I craved burger king in the first of my pregnancies, This baby is completely healthy and my 10 month old is as well. That lady’s kid will have a sad and sheltered life… I just have a feeling. Poor kid.

  66. First time mommy says:

    I guess I’m a bad mommy to be also. I have ate sonic, whataburger, subway, mcdonalds, burger king, and krispy creme cause that was what I was craving. I am nearly 5 months pregnant with my first and have only gained 4 pounds. My doctor seemed upset that I haven’t gained more. As long as you are happy and aren’t doing anything that will harm the baby, I see no problem.

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