During that year, I took Clomid and had several IUIs. I temped and charted and worried and obsessed (the kind of obsessing that involves buying my own microscope) and we simply could not get pregnant.
The combination of Clomid and the HCG shot that triggered the release of my eggs caused large cysts, which forced us to take every other cycle off so they could shrink.
It was on one of our off months that we got pregnant. No drugs, no interventions. No good reason.
Over the past five years, I have gotten pregnant three times with no medical help.
We are now on our fifth month of trying for a baby. After 6 unsuccessful cycles, our struggles will be considered secondary infertility.
Secondary infertility, the inability to get pregnant naturally or carry a pregnancy to term after successfully conceiving a child, is much more common than I realized, with approximately 12 percent of women in the United States afflicted.
Unlike those experiencing difficulty having their first child, couples affected by secondary infertility are much less apt to seek infertility treatments, as they (and often those around them) reason that since they’ve been successful before, with enough time, they will be again.
In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, I would love to bust this myth:
If you already have one child, you know you are fertile and will have no problems conceiving again.
Secondary infertility IS infertility and should be treated just as any other infertility struggle is treated.
If you have been trying to conceive for at least a year and are under 35 or are over 35 and have been trying for 6 months, you should speak with your physician.
Don’t wait and don’t let anyone tell you that you just need to be patient. You have a right to seek help. You have a right to be heard. For more information about infertility or to see how you can take part in NIAW, please visit RESOLVE®.
I’m busting another infertility myth over on in these small moments today. I’d love it if you came by to say hello.
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