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The 16 Worst Comments Actually Said to Pregnant Women

By ilanawiles |

Earlier this week, I made the chart at left and posted it on the Mommy Shorts facebook fanpage. Basically, it’s about how it doesn’t really matter what people say about my 32 week pregnant belly, all I hear is “YOU LOOK HUGE”.

Apparently, I’m not alone in this because the chart got almost 4000 shares on Facebook, plus there were over 400 comments from women responding with the worst things that people have said to them while they were pregnant. Comments from strangers, friends, family, husbands, doctors. It seems there is nobody that hasn’t said the wrong thing at one point.

Below are my 16 favorite comments. And by favorites, I mean— the comments that would make me start crying and hide in my bedroom until my due date…

I got “what are you, 10 months?!”
—Jennifer

I was in line at the grocery store. I think it was April. The clerk asked me when I was due. I said “July.” The woman behind me said – loud and disgusted – “JULY?!?!?!?” I nodded. ”OH HONEY!!! You are never going to make it to July!!!!”
—Jaime

On the Metro North headed home at about 7 mos… I sat down and the guy diagonally across asked “You’re not going to have that baby right now are you?”…. I don’t remember my response but he got up & moved.
—Colleen

My dentist – trying to talk me into expensive veneers said this: “Your teeth were good enough to get you married but is this the smile you want your baby to look at for the rest of its life?”
— Julie

I had someone ask me “when are you due?????” while I was holding my 2 week old daughter. That was worse than any comments I got while pregnant!!!
—Audrey

I was told “You must be having a girl because it’s all in your face.” I don’t even know what “it” is or what it was doing in my face.
—Tash

A cashier I have never seen before in my life said, “You haven’t had that baby yet? What are you waiting for??” My reply, “I am waiting for my due date… in 3 months.”
—Lauren

My sister calls me Pregosaurus. I hate it!
—Amanda

At 23 weeks my parents were admiring my belly. Mom: I was never that big. Dad: Yes you were – when the baby was ready to be born. Nice, thanks guys.
—Larissa

A woman standing next to me on line at Bed, Bath and Beyond turned to me and said, “Oh that explains it, I see a hint of a belly. You’re pregnant!” I said yes. She said “I was standing here wondering why you looked so haggard and exhausted.” Gee, thanks?!
—Sherie

My doorman said to me: “Any day now!” as I exited the building at 24 weeks.
—Olga

My dad hums the tune to “Pop Goes the Wiesel” while making a cranking gesture like he’s turning a jack in the box. He does it all the time. Drives me crazy.
—Deborah

Sometime in November, I was walking into the store and some woman said “Gonna be a Christmas baby!” Nope. I was due in mid-March.
—Amanda

I have a small killer whale tattoo’ed on my hip. I was laying in bed about 8 months pregnant, with just undies and a bra on. My husband walked in, looked at me, and asked “Wanna go for a ride Shamu?” referring to having sex. He swears he was talking about my tattoo, but I took it as him calling me a whale. Needless to say, he didn’t get any that night!
—Lyndsay

My mom said to me (at 33 weeks) “You look like you swallowed a yoga ball”. —Hannah

I had a seriously large guy look at me and say “Twins?” One of my biggest regrets to this day is that I didn’t smile sweetly and say “No, you?”
—Lara

What was the worst thing someone said to you while you were pregnant?

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Ilana Wiles writes Mommy Shorts, a humor blog geared towards new parents. She is one of Babble's Top 100 Mom Blogs and one of The Huffington Post's top 20 women to follow on Instagram. She lives in NYC with her husband, 2-year-old daughter and a newborn baby girl. Read bio and latest posts → Read ilanawiles's latest posts →

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13 thoughts on “The 16 Worst Comments Actually Said to Pregnant Women

  1. Jessica K says:

    I got ‘How many are in there, anyway?’ a lot with my first (a 10-pound singleton) as well as the ‘Any day now, eh?’ comments with both my kids, usually nowhere near the due date.

  2. Marissa says:

    I was in the middle of teaching a class of middle schoolers when one of them shouted something out. When I addressed him, he said “I wasn’t talking to you, Fatty. I was talking to her (my learning support aid).”

    Needless to say, his mom received a nice phone call that day…

  3. Samantha says:

    My husband said “Looks more like a beer belly now.” At 30 weeks, I was not a happy camper with that statement.

  4. Mrsbcs says:

    A lady asked if I was having twins, and I replied no. She looked at her friend and said, oh she’s just bigger. I then replied, my doctor says I’m just right. What’s your excuse?

  5. DeathMetalMommy says:

    I’m a little disappointed to say that in three pregnancies I never once got any kind of snide or “well-meaning” comments. My husband told me it’s because I never get very big, but mainly becauseI look like I’d kick someone’s ass for saying anything at all. One of my friends got asked by a total stranger if it was her husband’s baby. She was too stunned to say anything. I wish I’d been there, I would have told her no, that it was HER husband’s. I think that’s why no one comments on me.

    http://www.deathmetalmommy.blogspot.com

  6. Jessica says:

    While approx 8 mos on the subway i was standing (of course because no one offers you a seat in nyc) a mother and her daughter (maybe 10) were sitting in the old people and pregnant lady seats. the mom struck up a conversation with me and lamented about how she remembers being so uncomfortable when she was pregnant and it must be pretty rough for me what with it being august and no air on the subway… Did this convo end with a seat offer? no of course it did not.

  7. Gale says:

    “I was in line at the grocery store. I think it was April. The clerk asked me when I was due. I said “July.” The woman behind me said – loud and disgusted – “JULY?!?!?!?” I nodded. ”OH HONEY!!! You are never going to make it to July!!!!””

    I’ve had that exact thing said to me, only different month. Almost exact same wording. Didn’t bother me though. What bothered me was all the suggestions everyone kept making on how to make the baby, which was not late, come sooner. “You need to run around. Have you tried having sex? Take castor oil.” UG Yes, those were all suggestions by friends and acquaintances and strangers.

    The worst comment I ever got was not when I was pregnant though, and it isn’t a bit funny. The worst was after the miscarriage of my first. I had told lots of people at work I was pregnant, and they had spread the word even further. Months afterwards people were still coming up to congratulate me and I had to tell them I had lost the baby. When I told one coworker I had had a miscarriage he started asking what went wrong, and when I said, “Nothing…it just happens sometimes”, he started telling me how wrong abortion was. He didn’t actually flat out accuse me of having an abortion, but that was the insinuation. I was so angry and hurt, I could have slugged him.

  8. Jaclyn says:

    My best friend & I were pregnant at the same time, her daughter was born 4 months before mine. When she was about 2wks away from her due date, our bellys were the same size!!! So I got “you’re huge!” from her all the time!! Also, whenever I wanted to get a shower & wanted my boyfriend(now ex) to shower w/me, all I got was “you’re too big, there’s not enough room” … Whenever we went out to eat, he’d jokingly order my food by saying “fatty will have one of everything & a Pepsi truck” … He also caught me on numerous times, first thing in the morning w/a bag of Halloween candy(right after Halloween) sitting on my lap & his response would be “Fata$$! It’s 9am!?” …

  9. christy says:

    when i was 32 weeks with twin and was so big i had to give up work i when to pick up my older kids at day care and the cleaner heard me talking to one of the staff about how my pregnancy was go she asked if i was pregnant and said “you don’t look that pregnant” i couldn’t help my self i turned around and asked her “what you think that im this fat normally or what! lady there are country that are smaller that i am at the moment i haven’t seen my feet in months, if i get much bigger i won’t be able to reach the steering wheel if the car and i do own a mirror i know what i look like. are you really saying that you couldn’t tell!!!” and the cleaner replied “well i guess you can, i was trying to be nice” ” what by telling me i look 32 week pregnant with twins all the time”

  10. Ari Wagner says:

    I got a post comment (similar to one of your faves). And older woman walked up to me while in the grocery store- I had my 2 month old son . . “Oh you are having another one so soon?”

  11. Michelle says:

    Well, my kids will be turning 9 & 13 this month, so it’s been awhile. Oddly enough, I don’t remember any negative comments, though I probably got some. I do remember getting LOTS of free parenting advice, including my father’s comment: “You WILL breastfeed my grandchild, because it will increase the baby’s IQ by at least ten points!” (huh? Just whose baby is this anyway, Gramps?!) FYI, I had already planned on breastfeeding. Funny thing, when my sister had her kids, he didn’t say a peep… (she’s the favorite)

    I would like to post my *favorite* pregnancy comment as well. An older gentleman came up to me and my big belly and said “Ma’am, I’d just like you to know how beautiful you are right now at this time of your life – you are absolutely glowing!” What a sweet old man! Only time in two pregnancies that anyone came up & told me how pretty I was while pregnant. Anytime I felt down, I thought of that old man’s words and how he was beaming & smiling when he talked to me. He really meant what he said, every word. And I bet he told that to every pregnant woman he met, too. :-) (Or least, I hope he did!)

  12. Dolly says:

    I was called a tick, and a heifer with my first baby.

  13. Michelle says:

    I am 28 weeks along with my first child and am due July 2, 2013. If I hear my co-worker say “twins!” one more time after I have told him several times that there is only one baby in there, I am going to lose it. The worst part is the fact that there was supposed to be twins (two eggs were placed via in-vitro) but only one survived.

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