Yesterday I finally had a consult with the OB/GYN from the group that backs up my midwives. I have really enjoyed the midwifery care I have had available to me during my pregnancy, and from here on out, but I needed to meet and get comfortable with who would actually be performing my c-section once the day came.
I went over my wishes, and expectations for the delivery itself, and the typical procedure that the group and hospital has for a scheduled c-section. I am not familiar with it by any means because this is only my second time delivering at this hospital, and the first time I certainly did not go in there thinking that I would be having another c-section.
There are so many levels of comfort that I need to make this a better experience than it has been in the past. I think the emergency nature of both of my previous deliveries has played a huge role in my feelings after the fact.
Of course I am grateful for having two healthy and happy boys, but like many other women I just wish their entrance to the world had been under better circumstances.
Since the start of my pregnancy, I have been working on writing a positive cesarean birth plan that I ultimately plan on sharing shortly before birth, or maybe even after, but some of what I discussed yesterday included:
- Keeping my arms free during the surgery
- Skin to skin contact with the baby in the OR
- Skin to skin contact with the baby immediately after in recovery
- Methods of anesthesia during delivery
- anti-nausea medication
- having access to my ipod with music
- pictures of my delivery
- keeping my midwife who will be acting as my doula with me
- Uninterrupted nursing with the baby once I am in my room
I am not going all diva and putting out unreasonable requests to the OB/GYN and hospital staff by any means. Just working to change things that bothered me or created problems in my past deliveries. Why not use the bad to help make a positive change for this delivery?
With all of that being said, if Lil’ Miss A (her new nickname, so there you have it… her name will begin with an A!) is not here before May 3rd, 2011… by deciding to come on her own, and pick her own birthday… she will be joining us that day. She will also share a birthday with some pretty cool people including one of my personal heroes… My Grandfather George… a World War 2 Vet, and amazing Dad. I wish that I would have had the chance to meet him, but I know this is special to my father.
The other person? Gina, or as you know her The Feminist Breeder. How super cool is that? Bringing a daughter into the world, on the same day that a super strong, and influential woman was born. I can hope that all Gina is, and has accomplished will certainly rub off on her.
So, May 3rd it is!