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The Final Stage: Hope

By Melanie Blodgett |

yellow balloon Well I’ve just been a pocketful of sunshine this week now haven’t I? I know that addressing the topic of the hard stages and emotions that infertility brings isn’t a feel good read but I find that it’s been helpful for me to recognize and relate this week. And I hope it’s helped some of you too.

The last stage of acceptance is absolutely vital. It’s the only time of the month where you get that powerful surge of hope. The point where you say, “Yes! We can do this!” and truly believe that this is the month. This is when your thinking is at its clearest and where you feel most like yourself.

For me this occurs after we’re certain we’ve done all that we can that month and are experiencing the two week wait. While I’m anxious to take a pregnancy test, those two weeks are great because you really have hope that you’re pregnant. It’s maddening but probably the most upbeat time of the month. Because you think that it can be.

When the pregnancy test shows that blasted negative sign, that’s when that hope fades and you begin the five stages again. It’s a never ending cycle until maybe one day a pregnancy occurs and all that time you’ve been waiting was worth it.

I can’t wait.

image: Hallie Burton

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Melanie Blodgett writes daily on her blog You Are My Fave, which features a mix of parties, projects, and fave finds. She's currently settling into her first home in Denver with her husband Ryan and their baby son Beck. Read bio and latest posts → Read Melanie's latest posts →

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0 thoughts on “The Final Stage: Hope

  1. Michelle says:

    I have loved these posts. I think it’s great that you are able to identify what you’re feeling and realize that many other people go through the same emotional roller coaster with infertility. Even though it’s so challenging, it must be a relief to be able to identify and own what you’re feeling (like you mentioned with Anger).

    Love you guys.

  2. Virginia Valdez says:

    Being hopeful and optimistic is best. Sharing with others is so important too. Before reading your blog, I didn’t know much about infertility. Your posts have shed a whole new light on pregnancy for me.

  3. Lauren says:

    Thanks for sharing these, Melanie. It’s really helped me feel somewhat normal with my reactions to what I’m dealing with. Knowing that other people go through these stages too.

  4. Alicia says:

    One thing that I have learned as I have struggled with infertility is that you can’t just check off each stage as you go through it. They come back and sometimes you feel all off them at the same time. It always helps to know that I am the only one that deals with this.

  5. sarahh says:

    :) This is where I just finally arrived with a positive OPK way late into my last unmedicated cycle. It’s hard to remember when you’re in the middle of it that for a lot of people, “normal” isn’t really the norm. While we aren’t necessarily all in the same boat, we’re at least all on the same river, and, like others, I find your posts to be very helpful – both the positive and the not as positive topics. Best of luck to you, and I hope you’re having a good weekend!

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