When I was in middle school and high school, I knew I wanted to be a young mom. I figured I’d meet my husband on the first day of college and we’d get married a couple of years after graduation. After having a few kids in our mid twenties, we’d work for a while and then retire early in order to travel the world (returning occasionally to play with grandchildren). Call it my version of Disney’s happily ever after.
Of course the best laid plans of teen girls often go awry. Like, I didn’t meet my husband until I was 30. We got married a few years later and struggled to keep a pregnancy after learning I have a genetic clotting disorder. So while I would have liked to be a much younger mom, it is what it is.
I’m guessing that’s the case for a lot of women. But that doesn’t mean they don’t believe there’s an ideal age to have kids. A new survey says 59 percent say there is, in fact, an ideal age, and 29 is that magic number.
Twenty-nine is the age most women feel they’ll be in the best possible position financially to rear a child, according to a new survey. They also believe it’s when they’ll feel most secure in their relationship.
The research also examined to what women attribute their success in becoming pregnant. Seventy percent felt it was a healthy diet that improved their odds of conceiving. Two thirds of women tipped their hats to regular sex, and 42 percent said abstaining from alcohol contributed to a plus sign on the home pregnancy test.
A third of women polled said losing weight and abstaining from cigarettes boosted their chances for conception. Others cited more exercise and less caffeine in helping them get pregnant.
I had a few friends marry young — in their early to mid 20s — and start families, and I can see the upside to have kids early: more energy, more time after the kids are grown to enjoy life with your husband. But I also see the benefit of waiting later: gaining a more seasoned outlook on life, being more financially stable.
The funny thing is when I look back now at what I was doing when I originally thought would have been the ideal time for me to be married and have a baby, I wasn’t in a stable relationship and I was in no position financially to take care of myself, never mind a growing family. But it’s still interesting to hear when other women think the ideal time is to become a mom.
What do you think is the ideal age to become a mom?
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