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The Importance of a Good Fertility Center

The Importance of a Good Fertility CenterNot all fertility centers are created equal. The intended outcomes might all be the same (babies, obviously), but getting to that point involves more than most people realize and often fertility journeys take you down roads you never thought you’d travel.

That’s been my case, for sure.

When I started this trek 17 months ago, it wasn’t with my current fertility center. Not by a long shot. There are two fertility centers in my city, and we had decided that we would have a consultation at both before choosing which one was right for us. It just so happens that the fertility center we didn’t end up staying with was able to get us an appointment first, so that’s where we went first.

We spent about three weeks there, and almost fully completed my first “month of monitoring” before we had our first appointment with my current fertility center, which also just happens to be the greatest fertility center in the world, CNY Fertility Center.

But before I tell you why CNY is so great, I should tell you why the other center was not.

Success rates are important when considering a fertility center, yes. After all, that end result is what we’re all after. But this journey isn’t only about getting pregnant. There is so much that happens from Day 1 until that positive pregnancy test. And if you’re only concerned with numbers, you risk being treated like one.

The staff at the first place (aside from one very nice and professional ultrasound technician) were a nightmare. The receptionist at the front desk was outwardly rude toward us upon checking in, and the TVs in the waiting rooms played medical shows with graphic scenes of bloody surgeries and incisions not exactly the best way to calm your nerves. The specialist we had our first consultation with wasn’t even a reproductive endocrinologist. And she was dry and disinterested in our wishes and plans. We were told that I wouldn’t meet the doctor until my first IUI (intrauterine insemination). I don’t know about you, but I like to meet doctors face to face, before vagina to face.

There are more reasons why we decided against that fertility center, but enough about the bad.

Our current fertility center is just the cat’s meow. We knew from the moment we stepped inside that this was the one for us. The receptionist greeted us both before we could even introduce ourselves, and the second person we met was the reproductive endocrinologist. He went over all of our questions with us, spending more than an hour with us. We felt heard. And we knew we were in good hands.

Over the last 16 months with CNY Fertility Center, I’ve had countless transvaginal ultrasounds, baseline blood work, a few sonohysterograms, a hysterosalpingogram, a hysteroscopy, five rounds of IVF (2 fresh, 3 frozen), three negative pregnancy tests with accompanying phone calls, one positive pregnancy test (that ended in a 2nd trimester miscarriage), and another pregnancy test coming up in 9 days.

Success rates are important when considering a fertility center, yes. After all, that end result is what we’re all after. But this journey isn’t only about getting pregnant. There is so much that happens from Day 1 until that positive pregnancy test. And if you’re only concerned with numbers, you risk being treated like one.

Never once have I been treated like a number at CNY Fertility Center. The staff there has shown respect for our wishes, and has expressed genuine care for our well-being. I’ve had acupuncture treatments, couples’ massages, nutritional counseling, have taken yoga classes, and have even gotten hugs from the nurses. I cried when we received a card from our favorite nurse after the loss of our twins. The doctors know about and ask about our lives outside of the fertility realm.

After it’s all said and done, it’s quite possible that you’ll end up spending more time with your fertility center than you ever planned. That’s certainly been the case for us. I hope more than anything that you’re one of those lucky women who gets knocked up her first cycle, I really do. But it’s important to be prepared to spend a good long while there trying to get pregnant.

The journey gets stressful. And tiring. And sad. And disappointing. And defeating. And hopeful. And exciting. And exhausting. And lonely even if you aren’t alone.

Pairing up with a good fertility center makes a world of difference.

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