The Key to the Good Life: Partner VS Kids

There was a piece published on Friday over at Yahoo Shine that did not catch my eye until later in the weekend. Thank you, turkey coma. Interestingly titled, Loving the Husband More Than the Kids is Key to Good Life, it caught my eye.

Clearly it caught the eye of plenty of other readers, with now close to 5,000 comments both in favor of and arguing against the author. I’m curious to know what you think… and how this applies to those of us awaiting the arrival of new family members.

Certain that the title of the Yahoo Shine piece speaks for itself, I’ll offer some direct insight for you from the actual post… for the sake of argument,

The fact is, in a family, if mom and dad aren’t happy, ain’t nobody else happy either. The marriage should be prioritized higher than anything else.

I see it in my own family all the time. When my husband and I are happy and loving with one another, our children are happy and loving with us. They want to get in between us and cuddle and they are much calmer. After all, the marriage is the foundation of the family.

I have a lot of questions with regards to this topic, most of which question the idea of balancing the two and whether or not we are capable of doing that.

Does it have to be one or the other? Do we have to love our partner more than our kids… or do we have to love our kids more than our partner?

Can we not work to balance the two?

And of course, how can we apply this “key” to our pregnancy(ies)?

Welcoming a new baby into the home is an adjustment for all family members, there’s no doubt about that. Whether you are bringing home your first baby and learning the ropes, or bringing home your fourth and reconfiguring the structure of your family, lives are changed. Your heart expands and makes room for more, but this piece has me wondering at what expense?

What do you think? Did you read the piece over the weekend? Has it stirred up conversation in your household? Do you agree with the author, disagree with the author? Or do you find yourself like me, nodding at some parts and shaking your head at others?


For tips on martial and family bliss, check out Babble’s Relationships Channel!

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