I will be the first to admit that I am more than a little bit nervous about the way our world is about to be rocked by a second baby. I mean … I have no illusions that this is going to be a cakewalk. Going from one child to two seems kind of like the difference between high school and college. I remember thinking high school was hard, but after getting a year of college under my belt, I remember thinking that if I could go back to high school, I’d get straight A’s like it was nothing. College was a whole new ballgame. Two kids is a whole new ballgame.
This is why we waited so long to get pregnant with our second child. I just wasn’t ready — and if I’m totally honest, I’m still not really ready. I mean, how does one prepare for something when they have no idea what to expect? I’ve never had a baby boy before, so there’s that, but for all I know he could show up with physical challenges or a persnickety temperament or a laundry list of other things I haven’t even thought about yet.
Two kids is no joke. Even though I don’t really know what it will be like, I do know that life is about to get exponentially more difficult.
That’s why I get super irritated when people make ridiculous comments about it, and I’ve decided that hands down the most annoying thing you can say to a mom expecting baby No. 2 is this: “Just wait ’til you have two!”
Here are some examples highlighting the obnoxious level of this when used in conversation:
EXAMPLE No. 1
Pregnant Mom: “I’m so tired today!”
Advice Giver: “You think you’re tired now? Just wait ’til you have two kids!”
EXAMPLE No. 2
Pregnant Mom: “I never have enough time to do X, Y, or Z.”
Advice Giver: “You think you’re busy now? Just wait ’til you have two kids!”
EXAMPLE No. 3
Pregnant Mom:“Sometimes it’s so hard to get motivated to go to the gym.”
Advice Giver:“You think it’s hard to find motivation to workout now? Just wait ’til you have two kids!”
See how annoying it is?
The part that baffles me most is that it’s usually other parents I know who make these statements and not just random strangers at the grocery store. Maybe those parents with more than one kid are simply trying to prepare us for the firestorm that is headed our way in the form of a second child. Perhaps their intentions are good and from the heart, but I think I can probably just speak for all of us who are soon-to-be second time parents when I say: Cram it in your cram hole. Scaring the hell out of us isn’t going to change the current state we’re in …“That’s one doodle that can’t be undid homeskillet.” Trust us; we know.
This baby is coming and we’re about to go through the school of hard knocks just like you did when you had your second child, so please don’t remind us of it every 28 seconds. We’re trying to block that part out until the stork drops off a screaming, little human on our front porch. Let us have our last few months/weeks/days of sweet, sweet naivety. Please?
Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland, Oregon. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.