I should have had a baby when I was younger.
Nevermind that I wasn’t even remotely capable of caring for a child when I was younger. But I still should have had one. People do it all the time.
I say this because getting pregnant in your mid-late 30s is $*&%#*^ hard–though the world will have you believe it’s the easiest thing ever.
Just look at Halle Berry. What’d she have her second kid at like 50, right? OK, 47, but practically the same thing.
Enter: The Big Lie.
Getting pregnant when you’re no longer in your fertile prime is tough work. And there’s finally a book that talks about this on a real-world level.
The Big Lie: Motherhood, Feminism, and the Reality of the Biological Clock hits the shelves and E-market this week, and it’s the one pregnancy book I can’t wait to read this year. Written by Tanya Selvaratnam, a woman who’s suffered through infertility, pregnancy loss, and numerous fertility treatments, The Big Lie is right up my alley.
Why do we consider fertility treatments “a luxury?” Why aren’t insurance companies mandated to cover infertility? Why don’t we talk about our miscarriages? Why are we ashamed of infertility? Why should how much money you make determine whether you can have a baby or not? Why aren’t we teaching young women that, yes, you can wait until after college and even after your career is established to start a family, but this is what you should know about your biology, about your fertility span.
I’m eager to see what Selvaratnam has to say about these questions. As excited as I am about the release of this book, I know it will fall into my hands about a decade too late; this is a book I wish was out when I was 25, and one that I wish someone encouraged me to read. I would have frozen my eggs then, which, by the way, is something I tell all young women who aren’t ready to have a family just yet to do–and they all look at me like I’m crazy.
And at the very least, read the book.
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