I’m not pregnant, so why am I here?
Because approximately one in seven couples experience difficulty in conceiving.
We are one of those seven.
We’re now on our fourth month of trying for our third baby.
Difficulty in getting pregnant isn’t new to us. We tried for a year for our first child, (then, five months for our second baby, which we miscarried at eight weeks) and for two months for our son.
With our daughter, I was so desperate to get pregnant that I nearly lost my grip on my sanity throughout that year. I left no stone unturned, from temping and charting to finally buying a microscope and requesting sperm samples from my poor husband. I am not even joking.
After trying on our own for six months, our doctor referred us to infertility, as I was considered of advanced maternal age. We had several unsuccessful cycles of IUIs and Clomid, and then got pregnant on our own on a drug-free month, a month when we were told I would be unlikely to ovulate.
With our next two pregnancies, I was a bit more relaxed and found it easier to be patient since we had a toddler to distract us from obsessing over getting pregnant.
When we decided to try for this third baby, I told myself that we would try, but that I wouldn’t become obsessed. I promised myself that I would focus on remaining sane throughout the process.
Until last month, we did just that. I didn’t temp or chart and we were unsuccessful.
At my nurse practioner’s suggestion, we took it up a notch this month and used an ovulation predictor kit.
I’m here to share our journey with you and I’m hoping you will all help me to stay sane.
We’re now in the two-week wait and I’m keeping my fingers crossed that this is our month, because I still have that microscope and I’m not afraid to use it.
If you struggled to become pregnant, how did you handle the stress of conceiving? What did you do to keep your sanity? I’d love to hear your suggestions.