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The Two Week Wait…Again

By Nichole |

I’m not pregnant, so why am I here?

Because approximately one in seven couples experience difficulty in conceiving.

We are one of those seven.

We’re now on our fourth month of trying for our third baby.

Difficulty in getting pregnant isn’t new to us. We tried for a year for our first child, (then, five months for our second baby, which we miscarried at eight weeks) and for two months for our son.

With our daughter, I was so desperate to get pregnant that I nearly lost my grip on my sanity throughout that year. I left no stone unturned, from temping and charting to finally buying a microscope and requesting sperm samples from my poor husband. I am not even joking.

After trying on our own for six months, our doctor referred us to infertility, as I was considered of advanced maternal age. We had several unsuccessful cycles of IUIs and Clomid, and then got pregnant on our own on a drug-free month, a month when we were told I would be unlikely to ovulate.

With our next two pregnancies, I was a bit more relaxed and found it easier to be patient since we had a toddler to distract us from obsessing over getting pregnant.

When we decided to try for this third baby, I told myself that we would try, but that I wouldn’t become obsessed. I promised myself that I would focus on remaining sane throughout the process.

Until last month, we did just that. I didn’t temp or chart and we were unsuccessful.
At my nurse practioner’s suggestion, we took it up a notch this month and used an ovulation predictor kit.

I’m here to share our journey with you and I’m hoping you will all help me to stay sane.

We’re now in the two-week wait and I’m keeping my fingers crossed that this is our month, because I still have that microscope and I’m not afraid to use it.

If you struggled to become pregnant, how did you handle the stress of conceiving? What did you do to keep your sanity? I’d love to hear your suggestions.

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Nichole Beaudry lives in Sacramento, California with her husband Craig, their daughter Katie and baby boy Matthew. In her former life she was a college English professor, now she shares some of her small moments in her Practicing Gratitude column each week at SheKnows and works at AllParenting as the Assignments Editor. She was a contributor to Babble, and currently keeps a personal blog, In These Small Moments.

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50 thoughts on “The Two Week Wait…Again

  1. Life As I Know It says:

    I have no trouble getting pregnant, but difficulty staying pregnant…several miscarriages, one in the second trimester, have made me cautious and grateful at the same time for the 2 healthy boys that we do have. Sometimes I truly think they are miracles.

    Do you mind me asking how old you are? I keep thinking that I am too old to try again…such an emotional journey, huh?

    thanks for sharing your story!

    http://lifeaiknowit.com

  2. Laura (Mommy Miracles) says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this. It is so great to see a glimpse into the lives of other women. Our stories are all unique and yet, I think, we face the same fears, the same joys and the same insane moments. I have never had any problems getting pregnant, but three months ago I faced a miscarriage. All of a sudden I became connected to a world of women who have gone through the same thing – although most of them went through it silently.

    I think it is great that you are not going through your journey silently. I’m going to be right there with you, hoping and praying for you and your family!

  3. Craig says:

    For those wondering, yes indeed…..there was a microscope. Quite a bit different than the cold room at a hospital with available porn from the 80′s and a nurses station on the other side of the door. But a microscope nonetheless. I must say, though, very cool to see what’s ‘going on’ in there!

    And, we’ll get there babe…..we’ll get there…

  4. Laura says:

    You are not alone. It was super easy for me to get pregnant with baby #1 (2 months of trying) and #2 (1 month of trying), but #3 took much longer in my impatient world. After 6 months (eternity for me) of not getting pregnant with #3, I got the ovulation kit. After a couple of months, voila. #3 is now 10 weeks old. :) I obsessed and obsessed JUST like you when trying for #3. It’s good to know that I am not the only one. My family thought I was crazy.

  5. Sherri says:

    The obsession can be so overwhelming…counting days, waiting, hoping that period never comes. And I think to share you words here with others who are going through the same thing or have in the past is so important.

    Fingers crossed in hopes that the microscope can become just a fun toy for the kids!

  6. Kelly D. says:

    We tried for six months before we got pregnant with the first, but lost that pregnancy after ten weeks. We tried for another year after that until I got pregnant this time. I’m now 15 weeks along.

    The big thing that’s helped me through all of this is blogging and reading the blogs of other infertiles. There really is a strong-knit community of women out there, anxious to support one another.

  7. Leighann says:

    I remember these waits. The anticipation and then the disappointment when the stick was negative.
    Eventually I stopped hoping and talking about it because I was certain it would never happen.
    It did!
    I really hope it does for a third time for you and that you enjoy the process.

  8. Pop says:

    My wife and I struggled for 9 months before D1 was conceived. It was emotionally draining and there wasn’t any one thing that helped us get through. All I know is, that struggle, those tears and that pain was worth it and D1 is a treasure to us.

  9. Stacey says:

    I haven’t experienced this heartache first hand, but have watched many who have. Hang in there. I hope it happens for you sooner than later. Hugs!

  10. Katie says:

    pregnancy has been all around tough for us too. I got pregnant right away with my first two–but both ended in miscarriage. With Eddie it took almost 6 months. If we had hit 6 months, my doc wanted to do tests since I had already had two miscarriages. I remember feeling DESPERATE for that not to happen.

    And now? With trying again, I am completely terrified.

    I will be following you here, Nichole. To keep myself sane too.

  11. Lindsey says:

    We’re struggling to conceive our second baby. With our first it came easy and natural and we weren’t planning on getting pregnant as fast as we did. We talked about starting for our second and assumed it would be just as easy as the first. Unfortunately we just missed our 7th try and will continue on for an 8th month. It’s so hard to live by the thermometer. I put it down for this month, I’m hoping that’ll do the trick, if not we will get back on the proverbial horse and try again. I won’t lie, this is hard and makes our hearts hurt every month we get a negative or AF shows up. I feel broken. But it’ll be our turn….one day.

  12. TenaciousMama says:

    Thank you so much for sharing. We are TTC#2 with one ovary. DS1 was easy enough in retrospect. Off BCP, pregnant a month later, miscarried early, then 6 weeks later I was pregnant again. Just before DS turned 18months I had my IUD taken out and we started TTC. This month will be my 5th cycle, though last month and December were annovulatory. It gets so frustrating because no matter how much I prepare and how many OPKs I buy, it’s all for nothing if my ovary doesn’t produce an egg that month :( that’s the discouraging part so far. I’m going to give this month a shot and if it doesn’t pan out, make an appt with my OB. But with the one ovary I’m thinking this will just take some time.

  13. KLZ says:

    That two week wait? Pure torture.

  14. Leyla says:

    we stc’d for 3+ years for our son and now are on month 4 for #2…..i have become numb to the wait…..if it happens it will happen

  15. Galit Breen says:

    Nichole, it’s going to be wonderful following your journey here! I’m so very excited for your sweet family! And yes, I am sending you *nothing* but sane (and baby!) thoughts!

  16. Elizabeth Flora Ross says:

    Well, I believe you know my story (assuming you’ve read it). ;) I was obsessed beyond belief! I was nearing 40 and terrified it was too late. Everyone says you just need to relax, but that is so much easier said than done. Trying to conceive is the most stressful thing I have ever experienced. And it was not fun, for either of us.

    I think you are very brave to be willing to share your journey with so many. It can be painful enough to go through without others knowing about it. But, you also know there are many of us who can relate. Not only will we support you, you will help a lot of women by being so open with your own experiences.

    Remember that the trying is supposed to be fun. Creating a life from the love you and Craig share is a beautiful thing. You know that. You’ve done it twice already. Remember what it felt like when you succeeded before, and trust it will happen again. You have to let go, because we have absolutely no control over this process, as much as we may want to.

    Best of luck!

  17. Leigh Ann says:

    Waiting must truly be the hardest part. Best of luck.

  18. Kir says:

    Well it depended..the first year I read a lot, I saw drs a lot, we traveled a lot ..by the 4th year I was numb and sad..in therapy and just plain frustrated..but I never did lose Hope. I beieved in good things happening…that somehow life would work itself out for us and that is how I got through the IVF, the pregnancy, the parenting of twins, by never really giving up hope.
    Wishing u all the luck and baby dust I can.

  19. HonestConvoGal says:

    The two week wait is perhaps the worst psychological torture known to woman. Men of course don’t understand it all because they don’t think every gas pain is their uterus expanding. Hope and maybe despair or maybe bliss followed by (whisper, fingers crossed ,salt over shoulder) fear of m/c. Aw-FUL. People who get pregnant when their husband farts near them should not be allowed to talk to the rest of us.

    I didn’t do IVF. I did do IUIs. I got pregnant. Couldn’t stay that way. After we adopted our 2nd kid and I felt like I’d been hit by a ballistic missile I found out I have a rare autoimmune disease. Would’ve been nice to know that $10k ago.
    More importantly, it would have been nice to know that 1 million tears ago.

    I am sending you //\ prayers and (()) hugs and some bitchy angst at people for whom it is easy to get and STAY pregnant.

  20. HonestConvoGal says:

    I forgot the important part. I read and read and read mindless literature, mostly fantasy type stuff that took me far away from the 2WW

  21. Laura says:

    We also had trouble getting pregnant with my two beautiful daughters. We have just decided to start trying for #3. Do you know what really annoys me? People who say “but you should be happy, you already have two daughters” yes. I AM happy but the longing for a child is the same for #1, 2 or 5. Cheers, L

  22. Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation says:

    Nichole- I am so excited you are doing this here on babble!!! I am so excited to follow your journey! And the two week wait?!?! Brutal!!!!

  23. By Word of Mouth Musings says:

    When I think back on how many 2 weeks I have wished away in my lifetime … sad really. Looking forward to your new gig here Nichole :)

  24. 2bkate says:

    I’m so excited to see you on babble again you are so talented. I’ve never had a problem getting pregnant but it was always a fear of mine as being a mother has always been in the core of who I saw myself as.

  25. Sara says:

    My fertility challenges were extraordinarily difficult to get through. I had always expected them, for various reasons, and when it turned out to be true, I was devastated, if not surprised. I spent so many months wondering if I would ever get pregnant, every have a successful pregnancy, ever be a mother. When I finally did get pregnant, I spent the first trimester doubled over in worry, convinced that it would end at any moment. At 18 weeks, the worry has mostly gone away, but I still have trouble really believing that this is actually happening. Motherhood seems like something that happens to other people.

  26. Pam says:

    What many of you call “difficulty while trying” really isn’t. Infertility generally isn’t diagnosed until you have a YEAR of trying without success. So for many of you who said it took 3 months or whatever, still FEEL BLESSED. My hubby and I have been trying for baby #2 for 7 years. At first we were unable to undergo fertility treatments thanks to the insurance… but I am happy to report that we are finally getting seen and I am very hopeful. I am pretty sure I am also in my 2WW… my cycles are so off.. and so irregular that it gets hard to tell anymore… the only thing holding me together right now??? A good show / timing of the right kind of Cervical Mucus, the Metformin the dr. has me on (for PCOS) and crossing my fingers… next month we start Clomid… gosh I hope this works…
    ~P~

  27. Selena says:

    We struggled for 9 years with numerous medical help. I was one of the women who did give up, emotionally I was broke I could do no more. 2 months later we were preggo, now I have a wonderful 15 month old. These struggles are pure torture, but the end result is pure bliss!!

  28. Kimberly Jerabek says:

    I know exactly what your going thru it took my husband and I 3 years to get my daughter and 2 to get pregnant this time. But I will tell you I dont know about those ovulation test because I took them the week I was suppose to be ovulating and it said I wasnt so I made an appt at the fertility drs when i got there i was prego already and based on my dates I got pregnant the week that it said I wasnt ovulating. Either way I wish you luck. I dont know if you believe in any faith but i just prayed about it. Drs have told both of us we have fertility problems and it took along time but we have proved them wrong 2 times now..GOOD LUCK!!

  29. kayare says:

    We knew before TTC our first that I had PCOS. We were fortunate enough to get pregnant on our second month of the metformin/clomid cocktail. We decided to just enjoy our first for a couple of years before TTC number 2. It took nearly a year on metformin/clomid/charting before I was able to convince my husband that we needed to try something different. We had just finished the infertility testing and were waiting for the next cycle to start IUI (clomid-free) when we conceived our little boy! I’m 20 weeks now, but the year we spent trying for him was devastating. I wish you luck and a much shorter waiting period for your third!

  30. Amanda says:

    I pray that you get that baby you are trying so hard for! I feel like a bit of a freak because in my teens and twenties I could just look at a bed and get pregnant. Now that I have found the love of my life and want to have his child I just can’t seem to get the hang of it. I am 34 Friday :( and my husband is deployed, so we don’t get to try again for another year. Hoping it’s not too late! We tried for 6 months before he left, but my cycle is just a bit erratic after 15 years on the pill…. :) Good luck to you all!

  31. blondie says:

    I am with Pam…this is not TTC difficulty! Most couples take AT LEAST 6 MONTHS to conceive! Investigations begin at a year for under 35s (6months for over 35s) but infertility isn’t actually until 2 YEARS of non-conception! Now if your 1 year investigations unearthed a fertility issue, then you could be considered low fertility or infertile then, but about 95% of couples do become pregnant by 2 years. The 5% or so left TTC are the truly infertile couples with struggles in conceiving. It took us 4 1/2 years to conceive our second, with 3 losses in the last year. It was heart wrenching to go through that and I personally find it insulting to compare normal conception times with actual infertility struggles. I can’t tell you how many times I heard from those who weren’t really struggling, but weren’t getting PG fast enough (ie: the first time they had unprotected sex or within a couple months) say to me, “It hurts no matter how long you’ve been trying if you don’t get pregnant when you want to,” because I went through the first 2, 4, 6, 12, even 18 months with little concern or upset, and I could hardly wait to have a second baby. Sure I would be sad when my period started right on time yet again…but years 2 and 3…unless you have been through them, you cannot understand! Those were my hardest years. Those were the years that pregnant women followed me around, haunting me everywhere I went…when friends and family members announced pregnancies one after another, many unplanned ‘oopsies’…some had more than one child in that time! Those were the years I had to accept infertility and the possibility I may never have another baby! It was a kick in the face!!

    If you want to talk about infertility or at least real conception difficulty, talk to someone who has been through a few years or who has a major fertility issue! Your conception journey, fortunately, cannot be compared!

  32. Nichole says:

    @Life As I Know It — I’m going to be {gulp} 40 later this month.

    @Laura (Mommy Miracles) — Before we suffered a miscarriage in 2009, I truly thought that I knew no one who had been through that pain. The more people I told, the more I realized that there are so many of us. It helped me to hear the stories of others. I’m sending you wishes for peace.

    @Craig — You’ve been such a great sport through all of my crazy. I love you!

    @Laura — You aren’t alone and you are certainly not crazy! :)

    @Sherri — Every time we talk about the kids playing with the microscope, we both cringe a little!

    @Kelly D — I’m hoping that by writing here and on my own blog, I can keep my mind busy throughout this process. Congratulations on your pregnancy! :)

    @Leighann — Thank you so much! The waiting is tough now, but nothing can compare to what we went through trying to get pregnant with Katie. With Matthew, we knew that we *could* get pregnant. Now, I’m just worried about my age, so there’s that pressure too.

    @Pop — You’re absolutely right. When I look at Katie and Matthew, I know without a doubt that it’s worth every single tear. Thank you for visiting me here!

    @Stacey — Thank you so much for your kind words and warm wishes! :)

    @Katie — Desperate is a great way to describe the process, Katie. We’ll help each other through this. :)

    @Lindsey — My heart hurts for you. I know that feeling, as the months go by. Living in two-week increments is torture. I’m sending you my wishes that this this month is your month.

    @tenacious mama — I can’t imagine how tough that is for you, not knowing if you’ll ovulate in any given month. You’re in my thoughts…you’ll get there. You really will. I will too. Until then, we can help each other through!

    @KLZ — Yep, absolute torture.

    @Leyla — There are days when I feel the same way.

    @Galit — You are so wonderful. Thank you so much! Yes, sane. I am striving to stay sane. ;)

    @Elizabeth — Thank you so much for your lovely and encouraging words. This is such a stressful journey, but it needn’t be a lonely one. :)

    @Leigh Ann — Yes, it truly is. Thank you for coming here to read my words. :)

    @Kir — Wow, what a difficult time that must have been. It’s a testament to you that you didn’t lose hope. When I begin to feel bad for myself, I’m going to seek you out and ask you for help to find some perspective. Thank you for your words here, my friend. :)

    @HonestConvoGal — “some bitchy angst at people for whom it is easy to get and STAY pregnant” …you have no idea how much I needed that giggle. Thank you for your kind words here. When my mind starts to get the better of me, I’m going to try reading!

    @Laura — I know exactly what you mean. We feel that there’s room for another baby in our family. Having two children already doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t hope for another.

    @Rachel — I’m just waiting for you… ;)

    @Nicole — We are truly trying not to wish away any time. Because the two children we do have grow so much during those two weeks! I’m really trying to stay present in the moment. For now. ;)

    @Kate — Thank you so much…it’s at the core of who I am too, so I completely get that!

    @Sara — Congratulations on your pregnancy. I look forward to hearing about how it progresses beautifully, because you deserve that!

    @Pam — Well, I didn’t start trying for children until after I was considered to be of advanced maternal age, so after 6 months, I was referred to infertility. For once, I was grateful to be older.

  33. Nichole says:

    @Selena — Wow…to struggle for so long and then to get pregnant on your own! It’s amazing, isn’t it! You are so right…the end result is pure bliss.

    @Kimberly — Thank you so much for your warm wishes! And congratulations to you on your pregnancy!

    @Kayare — Congratulations on your pregnancy! What a long road you’ve had!

    @Amanda — It’s tough enough to deal with the challenges of getting pregnant to begin with, but a deployment on top of that is so tough. I’m crossing my fingers that when you’re together again, you have an easy time of it.

    @Blondie — While I appreciate the points that you raise, there are few things that I would like to say in response.
    I never said that I am infertile. I said that I have had difficulty conceiving.
    I was 35 when I was trying for my first child and my doctor referred me to “intertility” for help, since I was of advanced maternal age.
    Lastly, I believe that no matter how long we try for a child, what unites us all is our desire for a baby. I think it would be lovely if we all came together as a group that can understand the struggles, rather than dividing ourselves into groups based on how long we’ve been trying to conceive.
    We all share the ache for a baby.
    I am truly sorry that you’ve had such a difficult path. It is so heartbreaking.

  34. blondie says:

    I agree that it can be stressful no matter what and that ttc unites all women hoping for a baby, but I strongly disagree with the idea you have had any difficulty when a year is considered a completely normal amount of time to get pregnant. Maybe my experience has hardened me a bit when it comes to others’ conception ‘issues’ so if I sound harsh I apologize. I came into this article thinking it would be a story more like mine and it turned out to be nothing out of the ordinary and it got to me. However, I am glad that you have had no real problems getting pregnant! Count yourself lucky, even if you don’t see it that way! I wouldn’t wish true conception difficulty or infertility on anyone longing for a child.

  35. Cait W. says:

    I’m using an OPK this month too. This cycle 17 and we’re TTC#2. I’m really hoping it happens this month for us, and that I don’t have to go back to the reproductive endocrinologist for more invasive testing next cycle. :-/

  36. Cait W. says:

    Oh, I forgot to say that I’m in my late 20s and DH is also in his late 20s. For us, this isn’t an age related issue. We honestly have no idea what’s going on. It took us a year and 2 miscarriages to get our son, and we are lost as to why it’s taking so long this time. I haven’t had a single positive pregnancy test since we began TTC#2.

  37. Tonya says:

    Ugh! I am right there with ya, sister. I don’t seem to have any trouble getting pregnant, I just can’t stay pregnant after 10 weeks. I’ve had three miscarriages in the last eight months and while we are very discouraged, we aren’t quite ready to see a infertility specialist yet.I’ll send good thoughts and baby dust your way if you’ll do the same? :)

  38. Life As I Know It says:

    thanks for sharing your age ;) I’ll be 40 in Sept…maybe it’s not too late for me!

    thanks again for sharing your story!

    http://www.lifeaiknowit.com

  39. blondie says:

    Tonya, did you know that the leading cause of multiple miscarriage is a blood clotting disorder? Sometimes something as simple as a daily baby aspirin can solve the problem. See your doctor and ask for a blood test to see if you have a clotting issue and, if you do, either aspirin or a stronger blood thinner will be prescribed as treatment and hopefully you’ll be able to carry to term!

  40. Bod for tea says:

    Thank you for posting this Nichole and sharing about what can sometimes be a bit of a Taboo subject. I’ve posted on our own long and winding road to parenthood over at Bod for tea so I know what you’re going through. It took us four years to finally conceive DD on our second round of IUI and we’re now about to start our third round for baby number two. We’re starting to accept, with time running out, that we may only have one child, but she is the light in our lives and we’re blessed to have her. Good luck on your own journey x

  41. Erin_SF says:

    We have been TTC for almost a year, with 1 MC. I am 42. I am starting the whole IVF process for the first time next week. We conceived #1 easily and naturally in the first month of trying. Not so lucky with #2.

    I am not looking forward to the drug protocols, injectables, egg retrieval, etc. But I am willing to go through all of the pain, inconvenience, and discomfort if it means a healthy baby at the end of it all. I am just hoping for some good eggs left so we can proceed with IVF at this point. I’ll find out soon.

    To throw another wrench in the process, we moved to the Czech Republic a couple of weeks ago from San Francisco, CA for my husband’s job. So now I am doing IVF in a foreign country!

  42. Rhonda says:

    I am dealing with secondary infertility and it makes me so mad when people tell me to be thankful that I have one child already. It’s so frustrating because the first time I got pregnant by accident and now it’s been almost a year.

  43. Sheridan says:

    Heavy sigh. My husband and I have been trying for #1 for over 2 years. I have some “issues” (PCOS, Hx of endometriosis, hypothyroid) so we’re already behind the 8 ball. Oh, right, and because I’m 39, I’m considered way past middle age (thanks OB I no longer see). I’ve never wanted to cry and hit someone more than at the moment she said that to me. Yup, SHE. Thanks for the bedside manner…

    Currently, “we” are taking letrozole because the OB/GYN I see now (whom I LOVE) said it’s a better fit than Clomid. We are on the IUI route and it’s been fine so far. Everyone, seriously, EVERYONE keeps telling me to just go straight to IVF. Let me just say that I’m a major A-hole on the letrozole, I can’t imagine how far over the edge I’d be with added hormones!

    Anyway, we’ll see how things go. Trying to stay calm, keep my hands and feet in the car at all times, and enjoy the ride. I really do feel like I’m on a roller coaster, though. Those 2 weeks just plain suck. What’s worse is I recently realized that no matter what method of conceiving we choose (au natural, IUI, IVF), you still have to wait those 2 weeks. Boo. Hiss.

  44. CitizenG says:

    been trying to conceive #1 for 8 years. Been thru FOUR RE’s, nothing. I feel like i’ve been deliberately put in a position where I don’t have a choice now but to do donor egg. every month you are older, every month is sorrow and heartbreak. nobody has any answers, everybody just wants your $. when will these doctors start being sued? They’d sure make the technology better fast.

  45. Rhonda says:

    I’m glad to hear that my thoughts of purchasing a microscope isn’t alone. It’s so frustrating.

  46. Yilin says:

    Hi Nichole, chanced upon this article and yes, the 2WW – an all too familiar term to me – caught my eye. I actually wrote a post setting out my To-Do List during the awful 2WW: http://www.maybebaby.sg/blog/2010/12/18/my-2ww-to-do-list/

  47. Kara says:

    It took us 3 years and 3 miscarriages before we finally concieved and kept our daughter. She is almost 6 years old now, and we’ve just started trying for our 2nd child. I have Lupus and endometriosis, among other health issues. When we were trying the first time, I hadn’t been diagnosed yet, and didn;t know the cause of my multiple miscarriages. I came down with bronchitis and was put on steroids to treat it, and those steroids are the only reason that I didn’t miscarry that time. This time I spoke to my doc before we started trying, and she sent me to a parinatal specialist for care. We’re hoping that with science on our side this time it won’t be as difficult!

  48. Julie says:

    My husband and I stopped using birth control when we got married 15 years ago. Never had one pregnancy, but did have a cyst that stopped my period for a few months. I was never so heart broken when I found out that was the problem, not that I was pregnant. During the few years that we did have insurance we were in no position to even think about having children. Now that we’re in a better place, but the insurance I have now won’t touch infertility treatments. I started taking a chaste berry supplement a month ago, but other than that there really isn’t anything I can do. I’m almost 37 and have just about given up. The recommended time table for this stuff is 3-6 months for results. I know that my husband is sick of watching me cry every month so that’s why I’m trying this. I’m just about out of hope. I really wish I only had to worry about getting through a two week stretch. I wish you the best of luck with everything, but I’m sorry I can’t muster that much sympathy for someone looking for their third children.

  49. M. says:

    With all due respect, four months of trying is NOT infertility. It greatly disappoints me that Babble isn’t seeking a blogger for this column who’s been dealing with infertility for years, rather than an average trying time. Reading this makes it that much harder for those of us who are actually suffering.

  50. imadylle says:

    with our first baby we had to wait for a year. then when my son was 1.6 years old i get pregnant without even trying out (but it was a blighted ovum) so I thought that I could get pregnant easily this time. We are on the 3rd month of trying to get pregnant. I’m already delayed but I still don’t want the PT because I’ve done that every month already and always a negative sign… I try not to get so stressed so this month I did not marked my calendar or do anything just to get pregnant.. hopefully this is it. But still I don’t want to anticipate to much… And still consider myself fertile…

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