True story: I cried on the phone the first time I made an appointment with a Reproductive Endocrinologist. I was talking with the secretary, transferring information and started blubbering. I wonder if the secretary was used to that kind of behavior.
I had mixed feelings. On one hand, I was ready to seek advice from an expert. I wanted to know what was wrong and if it could be fixed. On the other hand, I didn’t want to admit that we were at that point where there’s no denying something is seriously wrong. I was terrified.
After several appointments over the last few months, my anxiety has simmered. I’m past my fear and more happy to know we’re getting help from an expert. Although, there are a few things I wish someone had told me beforehand so I could prep myself a bit. Here’s my list of things to know before you go:
- Know to come prepared. It’s important to learn all you can before an appointment so you’re familiar with what the doctor is talking about. Come prepared with questions.
- Know that the there will be glances in the waiting room. You’re all there for the same reason and everybody’s curious about everybody else’s status.
- Know that there will be lots of tests, appointments, poking, prodding. They’re in the business of making a baby and they can’t do that unless they know what’s going on internally.
- Know that when they say ultrasound, they don’t mean the pleasant type that happens on top of your stomach.
- Know that many of those appointments will be emotional. Tears are likely. Bring a tissue.
- Know that it will not be cheap. When an appointment only costs $100 I’m pleasantly surprised.
- Know that it’s okay to go to a different specialist if the first, or second or even third one you visit doesn’t feel right. This is about your reproductive health and you want to be with a doctor you love.
What are some things you wish you had known?
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