With the number of c-sections rising in the United States annually, and my own c-section coming up in a little less than three months I thought I would re-visit a topic I wrote about on my personal website after the cesarean birth of my last son.
There are a lot of tips and tricks after having major surgery to deliver your child. Whether it is planned or not, they are super helpful in the long run.
I wanted to pull it all back out for my own personal reference also because I know I would be needing it shortly.
The different types of healing to be considered are in the hospital, long term, when you return home with your new baby, and also things you should be aware of such as when to call your health care provider post cesarean. Another amazing resource for information on this is the ICAN white page for Recovering from a Cesarean. If you are not familiar with ICAN, The International Cesarean Awareness Network is a great mother-to-mother support group for women who have had c-sections, or are looking for VBAC or HBAC support. (Vaginal Birth after Cesarean, or Home birth after Cesarean)
For your recovery in the hospital:
- Get as much help as you can from family members, your partner, nurses, and other hospital staff!! You just had major abdominal surgery! That is what they are there for and during the hours, and days immediately after your surgery, you will need it even if you do not want it. Don’t try and be a super hero, you will need all the rest you can get!
- Stay hydrated and eat. I know how hard this can be because eating was the last thing I wanted to do. You may not want to eat, but working on eating a well balanced and healthy diet, as well as staying hydrated (stay away from sugary drinks such as fruit juice and soda) will help to make you start to feel semi human again. Lots of water!!
- If private rooms are available opt for one so someone (family member or friend) can stay with you to help you during this time. Again, it all goes back to getting as much help as you can. You will need it!
- Use a pillow between your legs, and/or on your side to help sleep to be more comfortable. After my second c-section I ended up with 5 pillows in my hospital bed to be able to sleep. Until they found out I had half the pillows on the maternity floor! LOL In the days, and even weeks following your cesarean it will not be easy to get comfortable. This is completely normal. It took me almost a full 2 months to even get comfortable in my own bed at home after my second c-section.
- Take pain medication that is being offered if you are in pain. With my first child, I was breastfeeding and was overly concerned about any of the medications being transfused though my milk so I opted for over the counter pain medication such as motrin instead. But it certainly made my recovery longer, and made taking care of my son harder. I learned the second time that there were a number of medications I could safely take while nursing and they helped aid in my recovery. (As ICAN recommends, ask your provider about a stool softener, as narcotic pain medication can cause constipation.) Pooping after a c-section can be the worst part of it all!
- Get up and walk around. It may hurt like hell, but it will help to get you back on your feet sooner rather than later. The longer you wait, the more painful it will get up, and the harder it will be. Not only that, but the more active you are, the less likely you will be to have complications like blood clots.
- The use of a pillow to protect your stomach while coughing, standing up, nursing or moving around in bed is a smart idea. Pillows will be your friend! Invest in a couple new ones for home too!
- Do not hesitate to ask for a lactation consultant in the hospital. Breastfeeding after a cesarean section is more difficult not just for mom because of her incision, but also for baby. Check out the ICAN white paper on Breastfeeding After a Cesarean.
After leaving the hospital, you will probably feel horribly. I know, I have been there twice, and I am dreading the home phase after this baby is born with two active and high energy toddlers at home.
Tips for recovery when you get home:
- Focus on yourself, and your baby. You just had major surgery and your baby needs you. Don’t worry about laundry, dinner, and other around the house things… they will get done!
- Have your partner help/do the household chores. Come on ladies, don’t laugh! Laundry, dishes, cooking, or anything else that needs to be done. Don’t worry, you can put off the dusting, cleaning the bathroom, mopping, and all the big chores for a couple weeks, your house won’t be mad at you!
- Do not lift anything that is heavier than your baby for at least 4-6 weeks. Those infant carriers/carseats are tempting to pick up, especially when going to an appointment for you or your baby, but stay away from it. You do not want to hurt yourself, or have an extended recovery. And one wrong move will extend your recovery!
- Ask others for help! If you have older children it may be helpful for your partner to take some time off from work, or have an available family member come over to help you. During the first weeks after my second cesarean section my toddler not only got the flu, but I was the only person he wanted making it difficult on me because I could not pick him up. Which was totally heartbreaking!
- Take it slow! Get back into your normal household routine over a long period of time. You do not want to over do it because you will certainly pay for it later on! I mean it too, you will pay for it!
- Have access to baby stuff such as diapers, bottles, burp cloths, wipes, or whatever you and your baby need for a couple hours in several places around the house. If your bed is the only place you are comfortable, make sure you can set yourself up to be able to hang out with baby, change diapers, and everything else you need right there.
- Co-Sleep! Room in with your baby, so when it comes time for midnight feedings, you do not need to get up or go far to take care of your little one.
- If you have school age children, have others help to prepare their lunches, lay out clothes for the next day and anything else that needs to be done. To spend quality time, sit on the couch, or someplace comfortable and assist them with their home work, or read a book. Find ways to spend time other than anything that may put a physical strain on you. I promise, they will understand and not love you any less!
- Considering hiring a post partum doula. They can really be heaven sent in a post cesarean situation! I can say for certain, this is the route we are taking this time around because my husband doesn’t have a long period of time he can take off from work.
- Don’t push yourself. If you want to take a shower and get dressed for the day, make that your only goal for the day.
- Pajamas are your best friend. They are comfortable, and help to remind others you are still recovering from major surgery.
- Remember how important it is to continue to remain well hydrated, and eating healthy. Water is your friend! Especially if you are breastfeeding!
Many do not think of the long term or emotional recovery of a cesarean section. I personally did not even encounter the emotional recovery until my first cesarean baby was 3 months old. Be gentle on yourself, you aren’t the first to go through this, but many people around you may treat your feelings like nothing because cesarean sections have become so common. I can’t tell you how the phrase “a healthy baby is all that matters” feels to me still today. Do not let others discount your feelings on your experience.
For your long term recovery:
- Contact your local ICAN (International Cesarean Awareness Network) chapter. These are women who have been there, and done that and know how you feel and what you are going through. They are an excellent support system internationally and are such a huge blessing for many mothers. I know they were to me! If you do not have a chapter locally, they have a facebook page, e-mail groups, and various other ways to get involved online also!
- Write out a birth story, express your feelings on paper, or on a blog, get it out. Keeping your feelings inside may be harder in the long run.
- Keep your baby as close to you as possible for as long as you can.
If you experience any of the following symtoms or problems, you should contact your care provider immediately:
- Any type of bleeding from your incision.
- Leaking, redness, or any type of fluids coming from your incision.
- If your pain does not decrease over time.
- Symptoms of post partum depression such as anxiety, fear, problems sleeping, depression, or anything else you may equate with something more than just the baby blues.
- Cramping or pain in your arms or legs that will not go away.
- Continuous headaches, migraines, or backaches.
Remember… a c-section is major surgery despite the common nature of them today. You will need those full 6 weeks, and then more to ensure you have a full recovery!