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To What Lengths?

By Nichole |

Last month, at my most recent doctor’s appointment, my nurse practitioner gave me the talk.

The “you’re not as young as you used to be” talk.

She reminded me that every month of trying to conceive counts at my age.

She advised me to try an ovulation predictor kit for a couple of months and if we are still unsuccessful, she would like us to consider Clomid. Again.

Here’s the problem. I want one more baby.

Here’s what I’m not sure of…

…that I want more than one more.

When I was on Clomid before, I ovulated like a crazy person.

Add my age and the increased chances for multiples, and I’m pretty frightened of even going down that road.

My paperwork for my referral to infertility is sitting here on my desk.
To fill it out is to commit to taking things to the next level and that terrifies me.

We’re now on our second month of ovulation predictor kits.

If we’re unsuccessful this month, we’ll have to decide to what lengths we’re willing to go for another child.

Have you taken Clomid?
I’d love to hear your stories.

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Nichole Beaudry lives in Sacramento, California with her husband Craig, their daughter Katie and baby boy Matthew. In her former life she was a college English professor, now she shares some of her small moments in her Practicing Gratitude column each week at SheKnows and works at AllParenting as the Assignments Editor. She was a contributor to Babble, and currently keeps a personal blog, In These Small Moments.

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20 thoughts on “To What Lengths?

  1. anonomyous says:

    you do realize there are at this moment thousands of children in orphanages because everyone’s too busy trying to procreate to take care of the children we have now? no hassle with infertility treatments, just a family to love.

  2. Jessica LaBrie says:

    Nichole, I admire you so much! I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I am so excited to hear that you and Craig are trying to give Katie and Matthew a baby sister or brother. If you need to take it to the next level to achieve this then I say go for it! God won’t give us more than we can handle. If it is in his plan then no matter what it will happen! Love you and good luck! :)

  3. Kirstin says:

    At 35, I did 4 rounds of Clomid (some with IUI) with no results. I finally got pregnant on my first cycle of injectables. I remember getting that call where the nurse said, “i want to be very clear, you have 5 good follicles. You need to be comfortable with the idea of multiples if we proceed.” As we had no children, I thought that twins, while tough, had the bonus of giving us the two children that we wanted. Ultimately we ended up with a single birth that gave us our wonderful baby boy.

    But next time? I will be a lot less willing to roll the dice with the possibility of twins (or more!). We still have about 10 months before we start trying again, though.

  4. Coreen says:

    I took clomid for all my pregnancies and never had multiples. There is an increased chance but it’s lower than if going through IVF. If you go this route you need to have a doctor you trust that will be honest and answer all your questions. Every one of them. And our doctor shod be honest about the stats and risk with being “AMA” but should never make you feel old.

    If you don’t feel “done” and want more children and end up with twins instead of one then you are all the more blessed. :)

  5. twinisms.wordpress.com says:

    I did not take fertility drugs. I had twins naturally on my first pregnancy. I was sure they were a fluke. Ten years later we decided to try again for ONE more. I only wanted one. ONE. At my first appointment the ultrasound showed twins again. It was scary and has been stressful. That being said, I wouldn’t change a thing. You’ll never regret having them. Never. But someday you might regret not having one (or more) while you had the chance. Good luck!

  6. amorette says:

    i took clomid for help with infertility, and i stopped because i decided i was also terrified of multiples! i tried acupuncture with someone who specialized in female and fertility issues, and i also took the recommended herbs. i never thought this would work, because i had so many issues not even ovulating or having periods, but after 3 months of (very relaxing, not scary) treatment, i became pregnant! it may be worth a try!

  7. Lori says:

    I took Clomid.

    One baby.

    Although at the 8 week ultrasound I had them look about six times to make sure.

    “One baby!” they said.

    “Look again,” I replied.

    “One baby!” they said AGAIN.

    “Look ONE more time!” I insisted.

    “Look,” they said, “It’s not like there’s a closet in there for an embryo to hide in. There is ONE BABY.”

    But I really didn’t believe them for another seven months. When they handed me ONE BABY.

    And then I said, “Look again!”

  8. 2bkate says:

    Beautiful post I wish you all the best! and Lori? You made me pee my pants

  9. By Word of Mouth Musings says:

    Actually not one of the girls I knew who took Clomid when I did, got pregnant with more than one. I have one of those fancy ovulation computer things if you’d like me to mail it :)

  10. Mom says:

    Twins would be nice!

  11. Kate says:

    Thank you for this. We’re going down the road to Clomid probably and one of my greatest fears is #2 being #2 and #3. But it’s also KINDA fun to think about it.

  12. im-in-tx says:

    I’ve known people who had amazing success with acupuncture. Might be worth a try before the Clomid.

  13. Mother of DD says:

    I am blessed with a beautiful 21 month old that has developmental delays. She is not walking or saying any words yet. We spend 4 sessions a week in therapy (2 in speeach 1/ OT 1/PT) I never thought I would have 1. We tried to have another right after our first at 10 months she was diagnosed and we put it on hold for a bit. We continued to try for over a year now and nothing. I think… maybe it’s God’s way so do I take the clomid? God is telling me something… or do I take it and see if it works. SCARED of 2 more with have a DD child. I often wonder if I can still give her everything she needs. What to do?

  14. Crazytwinmomma says:

    I did not start ttc until I was in my 30′s and figured out after a year that I don’t ovulate on my own. I did clomid and did conceive twins the first go around. When I decided I wanted a sibling for them I didn’t really have a choice but to do clomid again. We were actually hoping for twins again, but after 6 months of clomid and an iui, we finally ended up pregnant with a single baby. I think you have to go with what feels right, but twins truly are a blessing.

  15. Sara says:

    I conceived on my fourth round of clomid this past winter. One baby. I was initially afraid of twins, too, but I figured that if conception was going to be so hard, maybe twins would be a blessing in disguise.

    Do you ovulate on your own? Are you having this check with a progesterone blood level? Women who ovulate on their own, but who take clomid as a ‘boost’ are much more likely to have multiples than are woman who take it for total anovulation.

  16. Rachael says:

    We went with IVF for that reason (I didn’t respond to clomid, but I made tons of eggs on injectables). Single embryo transfer, and became pregnant on the first round.

    What you could do is have a monitored clomid cycle, where they actually track your estrogen and take regular ultrasounds — then you could at least get a sense of whether multiples are likely that cycle.

    It’s tough. I never imagined I’d do IVF, and yet there I was, doing injectables, ovulating five (FIVE) eggs. My husband and I were so terrified during that 2ww, waiting to find out if I would be pregnant and with how many. I didn’t become pregnant (they triggered me early to try to reduce the chances of conception), and thank goodness. We vowed from that moment that we’d do IVF and be sure of only having one.

    Best wishes on your journey.

  17. Anon says:

    Not to put a damper on those who say “twins are fun” etc. (I’ll take your word that they are) but the reality is that twins are more likely to be born significantly premature and therefore with significant impairments. The question is not just “do I want to have two more healthy babies in addition to the one I already have?” the question is “do I want to raise the risk of having two more babies who are more likely to have lasting health problems?”

  18. Catronia says:

    I found out when I was 33 and divorcing my 1st husband that I had fertility issues. My second husband and I decided that we would wait and see what happened and at 36 I miraculously became pregnant with my son. He is 3 now and we have been trying since he was born for another. I will be 40 this year and we want one more, so we have just started with Clomid. It didn’t work the first month but I have hope for this second run at it. We will continue to try for a bit but I really do not want to be 45 and having my second, Good luck to all of you out there trying!

  19. T says:

    Yes took clomid now 23 weeks. Pregnant w/
    Twins. It worked on the first try ! Very excited
    That they will have each other to grow up with
    I’m 36 and this is it . Hopefully I will go thru to at least 32 weeks or longer

    Good luck on your decision. But it is worth it.

  20. Victoria says:

    I am typically annovulatory. I used Clomid and have conceived twice, with two single pregnancies that resulted in two healthy babies. My sister did become pregnant with twins on a double dose of Clomid. She had similar problems to mine, but she was also much younger when she conceived the twins. Her twins are, thankfully, very healthy. However, twin pregnancies always carry risk. When she told me how cavalier her doctor was about the Clomid (upping the dose after only one single month’s lack of success), I was appalled.

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