I’ll be the first to say that naming another human being is a really big deal. So, naturally, problems and issues arise.
What do you do if you and your naming partner don’t agree on a moniker? If your neighbors stole your baby name? If the name you just love has a nickname you can’t stand? Or, worse yet, you regret the name you chose?!
Find out how to avoid these and other common baby name problems.
Oh, the Woes 1 of 6
Click through to learn how to handle the most common baby-naming problems!
Someone STOLE Your Baby Name 2 of 6
It can be devastating to learn that your cousin, your neighbor – or even your BFF – has used a baby name you told them was on your list, or worse yet, was the name you were going to use! Nameberry warns, "you may feel as betrayed as if they’d robbed your house." While name-napping is bound to happen with increasingly popular names (you can't really get mad if the family down the street also picks Emma, since it's such a popular name), if you're worried about someone "stealing" your unique-ish, not-so-popular name, don't share it before the baby arrives!
You Find Out the Name You LOVE is Sooooo Popular 3 of 6
This problem is more common among first-time parents – those who haven't had the delight of hanging out with crowds of toddlers to learn what is and is not a popular name. Even with list after list of name statistics, people might assume a name isn't popluar because they've never heard it. But, Nameberry warns, you've likely never heard it because you're not around kids! If popuarity of a name is an issue for you: Check the popularity lists, and believe them.
The Name You Love Has an Unwanted Nickname 4 of 6
There's a name you love. With a nickname you hate. You might be thinking, "Well, I can still use the name and just fend off that nickname from others." This might work for a few years. But once your kid goes to school, your nickname control ends there. You've got only two choices when faced with this problem: Let go of the name altogether (if the nickname absolutely makes you cringe), or accept the fact that the nickname will be used.
You and Your Naming Partner CANNOT Agree on a Name 5 of 6
Before I had ever even gotten pregnant, I was sure that I'd have a daughter named Maeve. My spouse hates this name. After months and months of talking about it, I realized that I had no choice but to let it go. Nameberry suggests that instead of talking about names, talk about "the reasons behind your choices. Names can symbolize deep feelings about family, ethnicity, gender identity, our childhoods. Exploring those feelings may lead to more agreement on names and a greater understanding of each other." And this is exactly why I had to let go of Maeve: I had no foundation upon which to sway my better half other than, "I just really, really, really like the name Maeve."
You Regret the Name You Chose 6 of 6
This is an actual fear of mine. I'm a pretty fickle person – a fact about myself that is the reason behind my tattoo-free body. My tastes are ever changing. So what happens if you regret your name choice for your baby? The experts at Nameberry say, "The sooner you act to correct the problem, the better, by either changing your baby’s name completely – a pain, but worth it if you’re really unhappy with the name – or using a nickname or middle name."
Be sure to check out Nameberry’s full list of baby name problems!
Read more of Aela’s writing on her blog at Two Moms Make a Right!