Uncomfortable Infertility Conversations Caused Me an Attitude ChangeMolly Thornberg
There aren’t many times in your life when you say, “I wish I was in the hospital” – but this weekend was one. We ended up at a birthday party for my nephew, I actually put on make-up, did my hair and went out of the house looking as presentable as any 39 week pregnant woman can be.
After arriving, the kids went crazy and on their merry way playing with cousins, while I went to hang out with the adults in the kitchen. My sister-in-law had kindly warned people not to ask me about when I was due or delivering but needless to say, the subject came about. In which I declared, I would deliver sometime this week. *while grumbling under my breath, because I am THAT CRAZY pregnant woman at this point.*
Then I realized who was in the room. A sweet gal who I had met once before stood next to me. She goes to the same doctor as myself, but instead of for pregnancy or well-visits, it was for infertility. While family talked about the upcoming birth and new baby, I tried to shy away. Then the conversation became uncomfortable as the sweet girl chimed in. The discussion from me delivering to her quickly ensued. Discussion of her recent unsuccessful infertility treatments came about.
I immediately had to exit the room and conversation. Guilt shed over me. Even though, we too had experienced infertility issues with years of heart break – at the end of the day, we have children.
So I’m Doing a Pregnancy Attitude Shift
Who am I to complain about carrying this child? I am blessed to be pregnant. I am blessed to have 3 other healthy children.
There are some places that personally I can’t let myself go. One of those places is to unappreciativeness. While spell-check may not like that word, it’s a word in my vocabulary. I have to appreciate life as it has been given to me. I can’t let rotten attitudes sneak-in and take away the appreciation that I have for what I’ve been given.
My prayers are with any of you dealing with infertility. Saying I understand is something you may not want to hear, but it’s truthful and the only words beyond prayer that I can say without saying too much.
Have You Had an Uncomfortable Discussion Placed Before You While Pregnant?