Forgive the assumption, but I’m guessing those of you who are rounding out the last trimester of pregnancy are probably feeling a tad bit peevish around now. “Record-breaking heat” is not high on the list of phrases you want to hear at week 36.
The late summer birth has its specifically sweaty downsides. And then there are the third trimester irritants that transcend the seasons and the ages.
A big one: strangers commenting on your size.
Example: “You look like you’re about to pop!”
And don’t even get me started on “You must be having twins!”
I don’t know if people just don’t know what a 9 months pregnant person looks like, or if they really are growing them bigger these days. And I definitely don’t know why people feel compelled to discuss these observations with the pregnant woman herself.
It’s hard to imagine an answer to “You look like you’re about to pop!” that could direct the conversation in a positive way. “Gee, thanks?” Certainly there are times when the timing is right, but way too often, that question lands on the ears of a pregnant woman with another 7 weeks on the clock.
U.K. writer Viv Groskop is quite pregnant herself, and is fed up with hearing just how pregnant she is from every third passerby. In the Guardian, she vents and delves into why people act so weird about pregnant women’s bodies.
A couple of her theories:
“Anything over about 32 weeks is a shape we still rarely see portrayed in the media, which is perhaps why it still paralyses people up close.”
“People feel weird thinking about other people having sex. That is why pregnant women are scary and funny. Someone had sex with that woman. And look what happened.”
Her advice is smart and practical, and pretty amusing at times.
See the whole piece here.
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