Joanna posted this quote of Carl Jung the other day: “Loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important.”
Infertility can be terribly lonely. I think the biggest reason for this is because so many of us don’t share our struggle with other people. We’re not communicating what is so important, what is taking over our every waking thought, what is so much a part of us.
Through my own experience, I’ve come to find that my husband and I cannot do this alone. Just recently I left a disheartening doctor’s appointment and felt completely overwhelmed. While my husband and I both processed our feelings, I instantly called my sister who has also experienced infertility. She quietly listened and let me talk for over an hour about my concerns and burdens. When I got off the phone, I could think clearer and felt a weight had been lifted.
While each person has their own comfort level of with whom and when to share the delicate subject, I urge you to find someone you trust to talk to. Whether it’s a trained professional, your mom, or someone you know who has gone through the same thing. I promise it will help. We can’t do this alone. We need each other. We all need a cheering section.
image: Emma Vincent
Infertility and Miscarriages: Why doesn’t anyone talk about it?