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What Happens When Fertility Treatments Don’t Work?

By Devan McGuinness |

iStock_000016278977XSmallWhen both my husband and I got on board about adding to our family over a year ago, I thought that by now I would have a baby in my arms.

I had no thoughts about infertility. I was focused only on preventing another miscarriage, of growing a healthy full-term baby, and how we would get the older kids as prepared as possible.

And then, it just wasn’t happening. 14 months later and it’s still not happening. I just finished my 6th cycle of Clomid — it’s been increased three times.

During my initial appointment with my doctor to discuss my troubles with getting pregnant, we talked about how long I would be on Clomid. It was mentioned that usually people only do 6 months and if pregnancy still hasn’t occurred, then it’s time to move on and try something else or do further testing to see if there are any other underlying issues.

I’ve hit that point and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t worried. I had no idea that I would be battling to get pregnant, and I had no idea that I would still be trying while on fertility medications. With my doctors advice, we have decided to keep me on the Clomid until I’ve had 6 consecutive months where I can confirm ovulation happened. If this month doesn’t work for us, my husband goes to get tested (this was suggested when we first went in to talk about fertility, but historically and according to my charts it was my body’s issue) and we try this triple dose of Clomid again.

It’s made me wonder lately though, what happens if there is another underlying issue? What if I am one of those people who don’t respond well to Clomid? What if the only option to get pregnant is a more involved method?

What if I don’t get the family that I’ve always hoped for?

I don’t want to think about it, but the time frame is creeping up quickly.

:: Have you thought about the ‘what if’ it doesn’t work situation? ::

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Devan McGuinness

Devan McGuinness is the writer of the lifestyle blog Accustomed Chaos. After surviving 12 miscarriages, Devan founded Unspoken Grief, a resource and support site for perinatal and neonatal loss. Read bio and latest posts → Read Devan's latest posts →

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5 thoughts on “What Happens When Fertility Treatments Don’t Work?

  1. Amanda says:

    I’m in it right now. I’ve been following your story here on Babble for over a year now and I’m kind of surprised you’re only now thinking of moving on to something more intense. My OB told me not to bother with more than 3-4 months of Clomid because that is the time period it is most likely to work. Then I went to an RE and got the whole battery of tests and we’ve decided to do an IUI next week. I’m doing injectables this week in preparation. My husband and I decided that if the IUI doesn’t work, we’ll take some time off for a few months and then try again. We are also looking into adoption.

    1. It’s been in the back of our minds since we started this fertility plan, but for us — we’re not sure we’re going to be doing anything more extensive than Clomid — so right now, it’s this or nothing for us and the reality of this not working is starting to hit. I have my fingers tightly crossed for your IUI next week — keep me posted! xo

  2. carla says:

    I am in the same boat we have been trying for 5 months I ovulated on clomid but my surge levels aren’t where they should be. They put me on lotrozol and if I don’t ovulate by tomorrow it’s back to the doctors to discuss other options. It’s scary because other options costs a lot of money that we don’t have.

  3. Devan McGuinness says:

    So much more money, right? I hope the lotrozol helps you ovulate so you don’t have to stress over the potential of the other options. Keep me posted, Carla! xo

  4. Amanda says:

    LOL, the hubs and I said we weren’t going to do anything more than the Clomid either. And here we are! I’m doing Femara this week, injections next week and the IUI is next Friday–none of which is covered by insurance! But we’re only just trying for our first so I think when the time comes for #2, we’ll just go straight to adoption.

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