I have had an incredibly difficult week and as I write this, through tears, today isn’t much easier on me. I don’t have the energy at this time to write too much about it, but my husband and I are going through another miscarriage at the moment. It breaks my heart to write that again — it’s even harder for me to share this again. Sharing on a large platform always, and still, makes me nervous when it comes to this ‘taboo’ subject. There is always a portion of people who comment, tweet or private message me telling me to stop talking about it, who don’t understand that I am grieving or tell me to stop trying for another child. Those hurt, but the ones who feel like they CAN’T talk hurt even more, so I will keep sharing — the good, the funny & the ugly.
This post is for anyone who has been through a miscarriage, who will go through a miscarriage or has a friend or family member in this situation. There is still this idea in many communities that speaking on perinatal loss is not something to talk about. This leaves many survivors (yes, survivors) feeling alone, isolated and that can amplify grief and potentially turn into clinical depression. So, for anyone in this situation as I am in right now — losing a baby, a dream and the chance to see that child grow up — there are 8 things I want to say to you — that I want to you take in and hear.
Click through for 8 important things I want every miscarriage survivor to know:
For more information and support for miscarriage, visit UnspokenGrief.com
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