Ever wonder if your OB/GYN is being straight with you? Not that you think they might be lying to you, but do you ever suspect they aren’t giving you the whole truth?
Christy Rippel, from Pregnancy360.com wanted to know if the advice an OB/GYN has for you would be the same she’d give her best girlfriends. So she gathered several OB/GYNs together and got them to open up on several topics including those delivery room gross-outs (pooping during labor) we’re all so worried about.
As reported on PregnancyMagazine.com, here’s what the women said they’d tell you if you were a friend, rather than just another name on a medical chart.
If You’re Unhappy With Your Doctor, Find A New One
“Women switch all the time, for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it’s just a compatibility issue, and most doctors don’t take it personally,” says Wendy Clarke Wilcox, M.D., an OB/GYN at Montefiore Medical Center in New York City.
Wilcox advises making the change as early as possible, because waiting until the last minute can cause a hardship for your new ob/gyn. “Relying on another doctor’s notes to get up to speed can be difficult,” she explains. If you’re too shy to tell your OB/GYN you’re switching, talk with the front desk.
What Makes Doctors Mad?
Keisa J. Godwin, M.D., an OB/GYN at The Emory Clinic in Atlanta says patients who expect or demand that certain tests or treatments be done before discussing it at the appointment can be difficult. “Communicate your concerns, but be open to the discussion,” Godwin says. “You can set up the doctor/patient relationship for failure by not being flexible.”
Make the Most of Visits
Choose the first appointment of the day or the first one after lunch to avoid waiting forever or a rushed visit with your doctor. Doctors fall behind as they get going. Another good slot to choose if you want extra time with your provider is the last one of the day. “Your doctor won’t have three other patients waiting to be seen, so she may be able to spend more time with you. If you like to talk a lot and ask questions, this is the best appointment” Godwin says.
To make the most of your time, have a list of questions prepared. Two questions that might be on your list are “Is any alcohol allowed?” and “Can I still dye my hair?” The doctors interviewed here would give a girlfriend the OK – with a few cautions and tips:
“An occasional glass of wine after your first trimester is not a big deal and isn’t going to cause fetal alcohol syndrome,” Prager says, who had a once-in-a-while glass of wine during her own pregnancy. “But I wouldn’t recommend having more than one glass any particular day, or even drinking daily.”
If you don’t want to forgo the salon experience but worry about the unknown effects of hair dye, Wilcox offers up a compromise: Avoid it in the first trimester, and then go for highlights instead of all-over color, because the highlighting process involves less direct contact of the color with your scalp.
They’ve seen it all:
Don’t be embarrassed over changes in your nipples, horrible acne, low sex drive, unkempt pubic hair, pooping during delivery… Your doctor doesn’t care. According to this panel of OB/GYNs, rest assured, they have seen it all before. “Delivery is a messy business,” says Wilcox, who promises that bodily fluids and functions don’t gross out OB/GYNs in the least. Godwin says” all bets are off” in the delivery room – she’s seen patients scream, cry, and even bite their labor coaches.
So stop worrying! Millions of women have been pregnant before you. Doctors have seen the very worst symptoms pregnancy has to offer and odds are – what you’ve got going is far from the very worst they’ve ever seen.