When To Tell the Masses About A BabyKatie Loeb
The second trimester is rapidly approaching, and with it, comes the general understanding that it’s okay to tell people about the upcoming addition. The risk of miscarriage drops dramatically, and pretty soon people are going to start figuring it out anyway. I mean, things are going to start growing. And by things I mean my belly, and probably my crazy, though the latter is pretty sizable already.
My husband told his coworkers last week, I’ve told some of mine, but to date only 2 of my classmates and very few of our non-work friends know. We do trust our friends, but you’re not really supposed to tell anyone before now, according to the unwritten pregnancy rules.
It’s not that I don’t want people to know, frankly, I am the worst secret keeper ever and this is eating me alive. It’s just, I’m not sure it’s time yet.
I still live in suspended fear that something is going to go wrong. And realistically, I know that if I wait until that feeling goes away I probably won’t tell anyone until this child is a grown up with children of his/her own, but still. I just don’t want to put myself in a position where if anything happens, it will be even harder to bear.
My husband and I have been discussing when to say something on Facebook. I realize that this is totally a 21st century conversation and probably sounds silly to some, but since many of our friends are scattered throughout the country, this is how most of them will find out. But at the same time, acquaintances I haven’t seen since junior high will find out then too.
And that’s kind of my hold up.
At what point do I want everyone to know about this pregnancy? It feels like making this announcement is inviting the potential for trouble, but I feel like it might never not feel that way and it might be because I’m pretty much constantly afraid of everything.
In short, I’m not sure I trust my judgement on this one. On top of which, I am SO excited for this baby and I want my friends to be able to share in our excitement, I just don’t know if 13 or 14 weeks is too early to do that sharing.
When did you tell all your friends? Do you ever wish you had waited longer?