Let’s talk about what I know is a controversial topic for many – sleeping arrangements. Where does baby sleep? Where does mom sleep? Where does dad sleep? Oh, wait. I forgot – I’m never going to sleep again. Hah hah. You know what I mean.
The way I see it, there are three general places that a baby can sleep.
- One: in a crib in the nursery.
- Two: in the parent(s)’ bedroom in a bassinet or crib.
- Three: physically in the parent(s)’ bed.
I always thought the term ‘co-sleeping’ meant in the same bed, but it actually just means ‘close to the parent.’ So Location 2 and 3 are two forms of co-sleeping, but Location 3 is a form of ‘bed-sharing.’
Determining sleeping arrangements was a bit stressful for the Husband and I, as we felt like we were juggling with multiple issues. First, and most importantly, is the baby’s health and wellness. Some interesting facts:
The American SIDS Institute, which studies Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, says that studies show that babies are safest when they are sleeping close to their parents. They recommend having the baby sleep in your room until the baby is six months old. They also say that a baby should never sleep in an adult bed. (Source)
The American Academy of Pediatrics also recommends that babies sleep in the same room, although not in the same bed. (Source)
The reason that most Westernized institutes and groups warn against bed-sharing is that parents can easily roll over and suffocate a baby, babies can get trapped in bedding or fall off the bed, and other accidents can occur.
However, bed-sharing among parents and older children is standard practice in many parts of the world, mostly in Asia and Africa. One 2006 study of children age 3–10 in India reported 93% of children bed-share. It may also be more common in North America and Europe to bed-share with babies than we think. An older National Center for Health Statistics survey (1991 – 1999) found that 25% of American families always, or almost always, slept with their baby in bed and 42% slept with their baby “sometimes.” Proponents of the practice says it helps them and the baby sleep better, promotes bonding, and makes breastfeeding easier.
Co-sleeping has numerous proven benefits – studies show that it promotes bonding, regulates sleep patterns, and assists ‘breastfeeding on demand,’ which ultimately increases the mother’s milk supply. (Source)
Kristien and I took at all the data and decided that, for the first few months, co-sleeping in the bassinet at night was ideal for us. Beyond the reduction in SIDS risks, this will definitely make breastfeeding easier. Our nursery and master bedroom are on different floors – and I can’t imagine trooping up and down the stairs all through the night, especially at first when the baby is hungry all the time.
However, I’d like to put the baby down for longer daytime naps in the nursery so they just get used to being in that room (and use a monitor to keep an eye on them). We’d like to transfer her or him to their own room after a few months, depending on their sleep habits. I know the SIDS Institute recommends co-sleeping for six months, but I’m not sure if that will work for us. We’ll see.
The next concern: where will we sleep?!
To read the rest of this post, head over to to Caitlin’s 34 Week Update on Healthy Tipping Point.